Text/Moran
I believe that everyone has had the experience of breaking up, some people are forced to break up, and some people are actively breaking up.
No matter what the form, as long as it is truly loved, I believe it must be difficult to say that you let go, especially the first period of time is the most difficult to survive.
After the breakup, some people will be immersed in pain and unable to extricate themselves, unwilling to admit the fact of the breakup, and even look for traces of the other party's concern for themselves through various ways.
Sometimes, we continue to comfort ourselves over and over again, to persuade ourselves to let go, but feelings are something that cannot be controlled.
I believe that as long as we go through a period of time, we will really let go, time will teach us, and it will also take us past.
Regarding whether you will pay attention to each other's dynamics after the breakup.
Let me admit that I have seen my predecessor's social networking sites, and even obtained the other party's information through various ways, and I want to detect the current situation of the other party from a little clue.
But only that, there will be no other thoughts, just an attempt to keep letting yourself go in this way.
In this information age, it is difficult for us to be separated, there is no contact at all, even if there is no intersection between each other, we will know each other's dynamics through mutual friends.
Some people will publish their own dynamics through the circle of friends and Weibo to get each other's attention, and even cause the other party's current jealousy or suspicion.
In fact, it is also normal to have this kind of behavior, there will always be some difficulties in life, and after this stage, I will slowly be relieved.
For couples who have just broken up, their inner feelings are actually still there, but they can't be together because of reality or some reasons.
At this time, our hearts will not accept reality, even if we are separated, we will miss it and want to attract each other's attention in various ways.
When watching my ex live well, my heart will be touched, and even become unbalanced, why am I so sad, he can live so well.
So I made a lot of trouble in my heart, I tried to make myself better, and I wanted to prove that I could still live well without him. In the process of this contest between the two sides, it is slowly released.
I once read a study that found that up to 88% of people after a breakup will look at the social dynamics of their ex, and 31% will find ways to cause the other person to be jealous, such as posting photos.
As soon as this data comes out, I believe that everyone will have their own different reasons, some eager for each other to turn back, some out of curiosity, and some want to motivate themselves through each other.
I also asked a lot of friends around me about this topic, and they all gave different answers.
@Yujuan Mint
If you don't delete it, you might look at it frequently at the beginning. Over time, I belonged to the occasional thought of taking a look. But by then it was basically calm. It has nothing to do with me~
@ A lazy
At first, although everything that could be contacted was deleted, because I knew about his weibo with the girl, I couldn't help but look at it. Seeing it once is uncomfortable, and it will physiologically cause the discomfort of vomiting. Later, I had to endure for a long time not to look, time this thing is really very good, I thought I could not come out of the pain, time slowly passed I really did not care much. Cursed and hated, but after really letting go, I saw that he was living well, taking his feelings and life seriously, and to be honest, he was quite relieved and happy.
@ Listen to Chopin the right way
At first, I couldn't help but look at it, it was he who mentioned the breakup, and I was particularly reluctant to make my first love. But because they have already deleted each other. In fact, the circle of friends QQ can no longer see anything, just flip through his Weibo. After a long time, the Weibo ID has also changed, and I have forgotten that I can't find it. Later, I also got married and had a baby, one day I opened the dusty QQ, turned over my previous talk, from his comments went in to see his avatar, it was his son's first birthday photo, not my son cute, hahahahaha, that was the last time.
@Jingyi
Occasionally there is a strong curiosity but I don't bother to turn it over, because it is clear that the separation is because of irreconcilable contradictions, so even if you look at it, it only adds to the meaningless emotional fluctuations. There are really too many people in the world, don't look back at the things that have been said goodbye ~ (Although the reason is understood when the reason is reasonable, but occasionally it will still get out of control, probably this is love!)
@cheN7
For a year, I habitually flipped through her Weibo every day to see if she was doing well. Maybe she won't look at it again when she has a new partner
@Anonymous:
I would look at my ex's social media, it was curiosity, to know what life would be like after the other person left. I felt as if I could compare... His next term is not inferior to mine.
@FieryBard
Definitely watch! Mainly to see if he thinks of me, whether he is very uncomfortable and painful. If anything, then I will be happy, fork off the dynamic and start hi, out of the lovelorn period. If not, I can't do it, and I wonder if he didn't like me at all, if I was so bad, so he couldn't look at it, even if he was separated, there was no negative emotion... And then I couldn't get out for a long time, mainly because I cared too much about what other people thought of me, so I wanted to go to the rape.
summary:
No matter what kind of state you are in after the breakup, don't punish yourself and hurt yourself because of the people of the past.
There's nothing wrong with reminiscing, there's nothing wrong with looking at each other's dynamics, we always need something to support trivial lives.
Let it pass, you can remember for yourself, but don't dwell on the past. Always remember to move forward, and there will always be the right people in the future.