In fact, when raising children, many people will put more energy on their children's diet and rest, and even care about the growth characteristics of children. It is not that this approach is incorrect, but the more you do this, the easier it is to ignore the period of hatred, which is absolutely not helpful for the growth of children.
The children in Mr. Wu's family are now 7 years old, and Mr. Wu is also very happy to see the child's obedient and well-behaved appearance, and he also likes the child very much. After all, Mr. Wu's greatest hope is that children can become filial and lovely, because such children are easy to make others like.
I thought that the child could always maintain such a state, but I did not expect that after a period of time, the child actually showed earth-shaking changes. Not only did he become reluctant to listen to Mr. Wu's ideas, but he often confronted Mr. Wu. The relationship between parents and children became very tense, and Mr. Wu did not know how to solve the problem.
Now the father and son rarely talk under the same roof, and even the relatives around them see all this and sigh continuously, because no one knows why such a good father and son have such a situation. And there are also many relatives who have expressed doubts, what is wrong with this child? Why is it that the cute and well-behaved appearance before no longer exists?
In fact, this is a very typical example, that is, the child has entered the period of hatred. Many parents do not pay attention to this problem at all in the process of taking care of their children, so that the problems of their children become more and more serious. However, there are still many people who doubt, what is the performance of the child's hatred period?
The first of the three major manifestations of the child's hatred period is very deep and needs to be guarded against
When children enter this period, then their malice towards the outside world becomes very large, and they will fall into blind self-confidence. The biggest feature of these children is that they will feel that they are very smart, unique, and they will feel that their parents are very backward.
And once in the process, then the child will ignore a lot of things that are not good for themselves, they always feel that they can solve all the problems through their own way, the world is omnipotent, so they will completely deny the parents' ideas, and once such a situation occurs, then they need to pay more attention.
When children grow up, their cognition will continue to increase, so they will not obey their parents, they are willing to express their own ideas, but this is also a normal phenomenon. But if a child can't be calm in the process of communicating with his parents, and the mood swings become very large, then you need to pay attention.
For example, sometimes parents are just kind enough to remind them of some things, but they are often good or bad, they will only feel that there are too many things in their parents' management, so they will show a very irritable look, that is, on behalf of the child into the period of hatred.
When children are young, in order to get the praise of those around them, they will become very obedient and well-behaved, and they will suppress their own nature in their own bodies. But when children reach this stage, they will release their own nature, and then learn to talk back and say dirty words, which will become their way of venting themselves.
They will rebel excessively in the process, and they will also hurt others, and once such a situation occurs, we need to pay attention.
How can I help my child through the period of feud?
If children always regard us as enemies and show resistance to us, then our best practice is to tolerate children with a tolerant heart. Because when children enter this stage, their behavior may appear a little naïve, and their cognition will also appear a little one-sided.
In this process, our best practice is to avoid positive conflicts with them, we should face up to the child's self-awareness, and then observe the child more, listen to the child's voice, so as to help the child to solve the problem clearly.
At the same time, we also need to know how to respect our children, and the reason why we have conflicts with children is because they don't want to be controlled at all, and we don't know how to let go. We should respect every idea of the child, and then communicate with the child in a calm way, so that we can become friends with the child, do not always impose our own ideas on the child, otherwise we will become the child's enemy.
So when the child enters the period of hatred, we do not need to be too nervous, as long as we face this problem in the right way, then we can make the child get a good transformation and be able to let them pass this period smoothly.