Hello everyone
Today is still in the sub-article haunted by the old Chang'an ~
Just came back from Hengdian yesterday
Sorry for not updating in a few days
The headlines that come up are promotions
There is no way, it has been decided early, and it is responsible for others
And it's really a pretty good thing
So what I want to say today
It was moved to the sub-article
The reason is to see a screenshot of a variety show
("I've Never Been in Love")
(This variety show itself is not very good-looking, don't watch)
In the show
Several girls talked about their views on love
A girl said
Her philosophy of being in love is
"Become a better person first
Then we'll fall in love again."
This is well understood
Work hard to achieve yourself first
Gain greater confidence afterwards
In the face of feelings, you have more confidence
It's also easier to meet the right people
But the other girl disagreed
She thinks
"I'm fine at all times"
"No one is in need
I'm better to deserve it."
Her ideas are also well understood
In other words
I deserve to be loved at any time
If I have to be very good
Only qualified to talk about love
The one who likes me
What I like is my excellence
Or am I the one?
This little debate
It has also aroused a lot of discussion
Exactly
"I can get better before I can fall in love"
Still is
"I don't need to be better specifically for love"
Of course everyone has everyone's point of view
But if you want me to say it
My thoughts are
Both of these concepts are correct
I'm not in the mud
Actually think about it
Both concepts
It's not a conflict in itself
They represent
It's when we talk about love
Two mindsets that must be adhered to
The first mindset is
"I am worthy of love"
You don't need to be particularly good
Or particularly powerful
To be eligible to be liked by others
Likes should have been
It's a simple thing
A person really likes you
What you like should be your whole
Can't just be because
Love those noodles of hello
For example, someone likes you to be pretty
But there will always be times when you are not pretty
For example, someone likes you to be gentle
But there will always be times when you are not gentle
If you're just because
Excellent, pretty, good character
to be liked
Then you are not excellent on the side
Should it be rejected?
Not to mention
Think that "only excellent can fall in love"
It's easy to be taken advantage of
When the other person behaves
When not so enthusiastic and less attentive
You will doubt
Isn't it because you're not good enough
Eventually it will be for
Seek the attention and pleasure of others
And tired of running
The other person wants to control you
It will also become very simple
This relationship
Instead, it becomes your burden
And the second mindset is
"It doesn't matter if anyone likes me
None of them stopped me from focusing on my development."
On the one hand
The better you are
The more opportunities there are
Meet the right people
Men are very realistic after all
No one does charity in a relationship
You're getting better
The selection surface will naturally become wider
Or else
Pick objects in the dump
On the other hand
Achievement brings more confidence
Have more confidence
There is also more self-awareness
Face the demeaning of others
Or suppression
At least stay awake
To sum it up
The views of the two girls above
None of the problems were had
Put it all together
It's that we're in relationships
The most important mentality
Accept your own imperfections
Believe in yourself at any stage
All are worth cherishing and loving
Believe in your own abilities
Strive for something better
Missing both
Either
all will make you become
indecision
Can't see yourself clearly
Don't dare to accept your imperfections
You will fall into a weak position in your relationship
Desperately cut enough to fit
To please others
Refuse to jump out of the comfort zone
This will limit your choices
Hugging the unsuitable
Don't let go
For feelings
What matters is not how good you really are
It's about how complete your personality is
How much confidence you have in yourself
If you don't believe it yourself
You deserve to be treated well
Naturally, others won't care about your feelings
Plainly
Someone said they liked you
Then you deserve it
Don't feel grateful to Dade
No one said they liked you
Or like yours
You can't even look at it
That means you need to explore
A wider world
Whether in love or not
Have you met the right feelings？
All insist on optimism
Keep moving forward
This is the attitude that girls should have the most
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