Women are weak, but mothers are strong. After having children, we as mothers have both weaknesses and armor.
In the mother's view, no matter how old the child is, no matter how old they are, the child will always be the child, and the mother will always be the patron saint of the child, and dare not be vulnerable and dare not fall.
But this mother is faced with the fact that the child cannot grow up, and she is already old.
She is Cheng Fuxiu, 75 years old this year, she once said: "If I die one day, it is this son who can't rest assured." ”
Her small son, whose name is Huang Kaiquan, known as "dwarf brother", is 52 years old this year, but the psychological age is always stuck at 3 years old.
From the birth of his son to the age of 52, Cheng Fuxiu has been taking care of his son step by step, taking care of him meticulously and without complaint or regret.
Many people pay attention to Huang Kaiquan's legendary life, and I want to record Fuxiu's selfless and great maternal love for children, soft and firm protection...
This mother should be recorded, praised, and treated tenderly by the world.
What kind of story is this? Let's take a look.
(Cheng Fuxiu and Huang Kaiquan)
1, the second child made up "good", but began to fall into the abyss
Cheng Fuxiu and her husband come from an ordinary rural family in Luzhou, Sichuan.
In February 1970, Cheng Fuxiu's second child gave birth to his son Huang Kaiquan, and he made a "good" day for a family of four, plain and simple, but also happy.
But the good times didn't last long, and the nightmare came.
After Cheng Fu showed the confinement, he found that his son was born at about 5 pounds, the full moon was still about 5 pounds, at first he thought that it was only slow to grow, and did not find abnormalities, after all, the children in the family were healthy and healthy, and their sons would certainly not have problems.
As the days passed, Cheng Fuxiu found that other people's children as old as him had begun to learn to speak and toddlers, while his own son could not speak fluently, walked unsteadily, and grew slowly. My son is almost 3 years old, and he can even wear the jumpsuit he wore shortly after he was born.
Cheng Fuxiu and her husband began to get nervous, so they began to take the child to seek medical treatment, "Shangluzhou, lower Chongqing, all the big hospitals have run over and over", and the final result was that the son had dwarfism.
The situation itself is more serious, coupled with the lack of timely medical treatment, the son's future life is likely to be:
76 cm tall, two or three years old child's IQ, never grow up, and can not live to be 30 years old.
This result is nothing less than a thunderbolt on a sunny day, giving this ordinary family a heavy blow, and no one is willing to accept such a result.
As a mother, Cheng Fuxiu had to accept and face this result, only by cheering herself up, she could protect the child, she said: "Just treat him as a child and take care of him for a lifetime."
The mother's idea is very pure, the child can grow up, then accompany him to grow up; the child can not grow up, then take care of him for a lifetime.
How long his life is, take care of him for as long as possible.
Since fate has made such an arrangement, accept it.
In any case, pulling the children up is the insistence of Cheng Fuxiu and her husband, so Cheng Fuxiu takes care of the children at home, and her husband earns money outside to support the family, and the days gradually return to calm.
Later, Cheng Fuxiu gave birth to two daughters one after another, and the family added new laughter and laughter, and the days should have become more and more hopeful.
Unexpectedly, heaven brought a heavy blow to Cheng Fuxiu.
2. The husband dies, and one person supports the home of 4 children
When the son was 6 years old, her husband died of illness, leaving 4 young children, the eldest daughter was 8 years old, the second son suffered from dwarfism, and the youngest daughter was only more than 1 year old.
The death of her husband, who was the pillar of strength, undoubtedly put the family in trouble again, and the burden of life was all on Cheng Fuxiu.
At that time, Cheng Fuxiu was less than 30 years old, what to do for a rural woman who had lost her financial resources, had no diploma, and had 4 children? Where's the way out?
At that time, enthusiastic neighbors advised her:
"Why don't you send your children to a welfare home?"
"If you don't remarry"...
(Cheng Fuxiu and neighbors)
Sent to a welfare home? How to give up?
remarry? With 4 children, how easy is it to talk about?
Thinking about it, Cheng Fuxiu decided that no matter how hard and tired he was, he would also have to pull up these children, and none of them could be less.
Without the father of the 4 children, she chose to be both a father and a mother, and supported the home of the 4 children alone.
This is the soft and firm protection of an ordinary mother to her children: since she has brought them into this world, whether they are poor or rich, whether their children are sick or healthy, no matter how much difficulty they encounter, they will not give up on any of them.
Without economic resources, Cheng Fuxiu created his own economic resources.
So while taking the children, he planted vegetables and sold vegetables.
I thought my days would get better day by day.
Unexpectedly, God closed Cheng Fuxiu's door and seemed to have forgotten to open a window for her, and fate once again took away her love.
Eight years after her husband's death, the eldest daughter of 16 said goodbye to the world before she had time to feel the world.
Cheng Fuxiu once again suffered the pain of cutting his skin.
(Cheng Fuxiu and Huang Kaiquan)
3. Accept fate calmly and go on bravely
"It is often difficult to fulfill people's wishes"
"Everything is fate, half a point is not up to people"
"Instead of lamenting your own destiny, believe in your own strength"
From the diagnosis of dwarfism by his son to the death of his husband and daughter, fate has repeatedly attacked Cheng Fuxiu, and Cheng Fuxiu has chosen to face it positively, go on bravely, do not complain about others, and do not give up on themselves.
To her relief, her two daughters grew up smoothly, married and started a family, and were very filial to her.
The son, who was initially asserted by the doctor that he "will not live to be 30 years old", has lived past 30 years old, is 52 years old this year, developed a smoking addiction when he joined the troupe in 1997, and now he can't live without smoking every day, and he also has to smoke well. Despite this, Cheng Fuxiu did his best to satisfy his son.
(Huang Kaiquan is smoking)
When Cheng Fuxiu said: "Just treat him as a child and take care of him for a lifetime", now Cheng Fuxiu has taken care of his son for most of his life, for his son, he has not remarried for 46 years.
How many 46 years can you have in your life? After more than half of her life, Cheng Fuxiu was no longer willing to count the hardships she had suffered over the years, she said, "Some of the sufferings cannot be said."
Yes, in addition to birth, illness, and death, everything else in the world is a small thing.
If fate is giving you a dilemma, then strengthen yourself in the predicament.
As long as you live well and walk bravely, there is no dilemma that cannot be walked out, and you will always walk through the night and go to the light.
Looking back, the meaning of the dilemma makes us even more convinced: the darkness will pass, the light will come, and the world is worth it.
It is gratifying that in 2021, a reporter went to interview Cheng Fuxiu, who is over seventy years old, her body is still tough and her spirit is strong, and she hopes that in the years to come, this ordinary and great mother can be treated gently by the world.
Mothers love and protect their children, are innate, unreserved, and do not mix with interests.
But that doesn't mean that maternal love is a matter of course.
Parents are kind, higher than the sky, deeper than the sea, love for parents, don't wait for the coming of Japan.
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