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There is a question on Weibo: 'Why does it seem that more and more people, the older they are, the more they like to be alone?' ”
One of the answers said, "Prefer a person's solitude to cheap gregaries." A man's world, quiet and clean. ”
Many times, in fact, we are in an environment that we have to learn to integrate, and what it brings us is not the life we want.
1. Actually, we are all tired of socializing
I have seen a social phobia patient share that due to the needs of his work, he must contact a large number of strangers every day, and these are all a last resort.
In fact, for many people in life, as they get older, people will always find that not all people can approve of their own understanding of the world.
The same thing, most people agree, in which you can only choose to go along with it, even if you have different opinions, this is the so-called social.
And for these people, the process is destined to be painful. Because they can't express their opinions, they won't know if there really is such a person who is like-minded with themselves.
Therefore, when people come to a certain position through hard work, everyone enjoys the process of exploring themselves more than to echo others.
Because, no matter what the occasion, in the face of anyone, any sentence you say, always have to be in the mind after a very complicated consideration, dare to blurt out.
And this process, in addition to the requirements of the work, is more of an ineffective social in life, rather than facing these, it is better to choose to be alone.
In other words, it's not that the vast majority of people love to make social decisions, it's that they have to deal with life and deal with the social interactions they have to face.
2. Being alone is the sublimation of the self
The famous writer Haruki Murakami once said that he liked the process of being alone, which made it easier for him to concentrate on his own life.
He would choose to get up at five o'clock every day, go to bed at ten o'clock every night, create and exercise regularly every day, and live a regular life to make him enjoy himself.
In his view, life does not have to be used to cater to someone, in contrast, his current life model is what he likes.
Although, sometimes he also feels lonely. But compared to more freedom, these short-lived lonelinesses are not worth mentioning.
In fact, in the lives of many celebrities, most of the time is alone, as Mr. Lu Xun said; "Cattle and sheep are herds, and beasts of prey always go alone." ”
For them, it may seem like a lonely and cold life, but this environment makes it easier for them to look at the world through their own subjective judgment.
Whether it is a grass or a tree, or a little bit around them, there will always be some scenes that make them feel what they have been waiting for for a long time.
This process, which is brought to them by being alone and accepting solitude, is a process of their self-sublimation.
3. It is not necessarily gregarious to be called life
Writer Zhou Guoping once said: "Compared with socializing, solitude is definitely an ability." ”
What people really care about now is a little sense of presence in the people around them, even strangers.
They crave recognition, fear isolation, and even say that they see it as a sign that they are capable enough.
Some people on the Internet said: "The world is panicked, but the picture is broken silver, but this broken silver is a few pairs, which can solve thousands of panics in the world." ”
People are running around in a foreign land, abandoning their original comfortable and comfortable living environment, expecting themselves to live better, and gradually even forgetting their original selves.
Finally, as many people say, "You have everything you didn't have, and you also lose the best of yourself." ”
In fact, many times, it is not what others value is the best, the beauty of high and low, only when you have personally experienced, you will understand.
In other words, being gregarious doesn't mean that everything is right for you, maybe it's just that you've been pushing yourself to be someone else.
4. It is loneliness and enjoyment
Perhaps, now you are still struggling for a dream to meet a group of strangers who are not so suitable for you.
However, one day you will understand that there are some roads that no one can accompany you, some things you can only do yourself, and some words that only you are willing to listen to.
So, the friend you need most is not someone else, it's yourself. Be friendly with yourself, slow down once in a while, and see if you're really here.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.