Say a word of encouragement and praise to make a friend; if you say something hurtful, you will have one more wrongdoer. For others, a wise word can save a life; a negative word may mislead a person for a lifetime. Praise is just the work of opening the mouth, in the face of others, praise a sentence of praise? A sentence of "You're really amazing" can make your relationship with the person being praised more harmonious.
Praise is relative. Many times, after we praise others, others will also say, "Thank you, you are not bad!" "Just as you stand on a bridge and look at the view, the people who watch the view look at you upstairs. Therefore, praising others is actually praising yourself. Sometimes, a casual compliment can surprise us. Therefore, while cultivating ourselves to speak boldly, we must also learn to praise others.
There was a cleaner who went viral for fighting with thieves. Why?
The reporter asked him: "When I heard that your company suffered a theft, you bravely rushed up to stop the thief, and launched a thrilling fight with the thief, and finally subdued the thief." How much does your company give you in a month? ”
The cleaner said: "The money is very small, just 1200 yuan." But I am willing to maintain the company's property because I am a member of the company. ”
The reporter asked: "What is the reason for this?" ”
The cleaner replied, "Because my boss always praises me for sweeping the floor very clean and saying that I am the best performer in the whole company!" ”
A simple sentence of "sweep the floor is clean", what an encouragement! Mary Kay, a famous entrepreneur, once said: "There are two things in the world that people need more than money and sex – recognition and praise." ”
Money cannot fully motivate subordinates for work, but praise can make up for its shortcomings. Because everyone in life has a strong sense of self-esteem and honor, your sincere praise and approval of them is the best recognition and attention to his value. Being able to sincerely praise subordinate leaders will allow employees to meet their self-esteem and sense of honor needs, thereby stimulating their potential talents.
People always like to be praised, whether it is a child or an old man. Praise is appreciation and gratitude, and the joy it gives is incomparable to money. If you want to be popular and bring happiness to others, praise others more.
Two women treat their husbands this way.
Wife A said to her husband every day after she came home from work: "Honey, hard work! I'll go get you a hot meal and you'll take a shower!" "The husband happily went to take a shower.
The next day at work, wife A said to her husband, "Come on! Work hard, go home early after work, I will make you food! ”
Wife B said to her husband every day after he arrived home from work: "How to come back!" Which buddy did you drink with today? Or was it scolded by which leader? I'm starving, you go cook! The husband looked unhappy, but still dragged his tired body to cook.
The next day at work, wife B said to her husband: "Why don't you leave, be careful of the company's fines for being late!" ”
In this way, the first couple grew old together, and the second couple divorced before the second year of marriage.
The two wives' different attitudes and language towards their husbands led to two diametrically opposed outcomes. It is human nature to prefer to do something on their own initiative, rather than passively accepting orders. The more you sincerely praise a person, the harder he will try. And the more you count him down and criticize him, the more he will be lost and sadder. Therefore, we should praise one more person instead of criticizing the other person as often.
A person's progress comes from self-confidence and hard work, and most of the self-confidence comes from the encouragement of others. The best way we can impress others is to genuinely appreciate each other and praise each other with kindness.
There are two small children, studying in the same school. At first, both children had good grades, both taking about 90 points. Later, the grades of both children suddenly declined. Child A's grades slipped after being criticized by a teacher, and Child B's grades slipped because of a serious illness.
However, parents on both sides have taken different approaches to their children. The parents of child A often say to the child, "Why are you so useless?" It literally threw my face away, guy who didn't show up! The parents of child B often say to the child, "Don't worry, you just experienced a small cold." Grades are not the most important thing, let's take care of your body first. ”
The two children grew up in such different families from an early age. When Child A grows up, he becomes a worker; when Child B grows up, he becomes the director of a company.
Compared with the criticism and education of the parents of child A, the parents of child B are kind and kind in education, even if the child makes a mistake, he will not be harshly accused, but through praise and encouragement to stimulate the child's potential. It is this implicit expectation and praise that makes child B more enterprising, become more self-respecting, self-loving, confident and self-reliant, and become very successful when he grows up.
Lack of praise in life, lack of passion in life, too plain life, it is difficult to blossom beautiful flowers. Wonderful life needs nourishment, and we need to constantly water it with praise.
Praising others makes others happy, and the benign reward of the praised person also makes us feel happy. And people who are stingy about praising others often find it difficult to gain the support of those around them, and it is difficult to achieve greater achievements. Therefore, we must not only speak boldly, but also know how to praise others.