The cousin's daughter Xinxin is the famous "drag king", the cousin is originally a chronic child, but Xinxin is a child who can drive the cousin of the chronic child crazy.
Although Xinxin has gone to elementary school, she has no concept of time at all, every day before getting up early, she has to urge her cousin three or four times, it takes half an hour to get dressed, and her homework is even more procrastinating, and she can't sleep before ten o'clock every day, which makes her cousin a headache every day.
Later, I chatted with a few colleagues in the office and found that their children had more or less procrastination problems, and even some children had reverse psychology, and the more parents urged, the slower they were.
Later, I read an interview with a parenting expert, and learned a good way to prevent children from procrastinating, and suggested that parents correct from these 3 aspects, which can easily help children slowly change bad problems.
1. Help children establish the concept of time
In order to prevent their children from procrastinating, many parents have also summarized a series of methods:
For example, when writing homework, everyone first continues to urge, the result is that the child is not right, and the parents have no patience and start to yell at the child, maybe at the beginning the child will change a little, but in the long run, the child is not taken seriously.
Or when the child is writing homework, some parents will tell the child to play with the mobile phone within half an hour after writing the homework, and eat an ice cream after half an hour of writing the homework.
Experiments have proved that these methods are not the most effective methods, psychologists study the psychology of children found that in the face of parents urging them, most of them have a rebellious emotion, the way to express this emotion is: the more you urge me, the slower I am.
Therefore, in the process of parents urging children, the child's heart will germinate emotions against you, resulting in a vicious circle of slower and slower, slower and more urgent.
After parents understand this, they must try to control themselves, fundamentally solve the problem, cultivate their concept of time when the child is young, let them bear the consequences of procrastination, and after developing good habits, the child's procrastination problem will be greatly improved.
2. Help children clarify their goals
Since the child went to primary school, the academic pressure will increase a lot, and the teacher of each subject will leave homework, not to mention the child, even the parents will feel a lot of pressure when they see it.
So children procrastinate not because of their personality, but because of too much homework, they don't know where to start, and they lack clear goals.
Therefore, it is recommended that parents first classify their children's homework from simple to complex before writing homework with their children, first do simple and easy to do, and then do complex. This can exercise your child's motivation and boost their self-confidence.
In addition, parents should not skimp on the praise of their children, when they have completed their homework independently within the prescribed time, they must praise them in time to make them more active to adhere.
In this way, children can slowly quit procrastination and develop good habits.
3. Let the child pay for his own procrastination
Parents should teach their children to learn to take responsibility from an early age, especially the losses caused by procrastination, and let them bear it themselves.
Let the child develop the habit of doing their own things, especially learning, if the parents mean to urge the child to do homework, to tutor the child, the child will write homework as a parent's business, not his own business.
This kind of psychology will make children procrastinate more and more, so parents must clearly tell their children that this is your homework, and I remind you that it is just to help you, so when you can't complete your own homework because of procrastination, you have to pay for it yourself.
Only in this way will the child set himself in the right position, shoulder his own responsibilities, make his own plans, and actively complete them.
If parents want to educate an excellent child, they must first clarify the role they need to play in the growth of their children, what things need to be done by you, and what things need to be done by the children themselves.
Every parent hopes that their children are independent and do not procrastinate, I hope this article can bring help to everyone, I hope these suggestions can help parents find a more suitable way to educate their children close to procrastination, we cheer together!