Interacting with idle people is a kind of self-consumption

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There is a saying in the "Little Window Chronicle":

Life is like idleness, too idle to produce bad karma.

We all yearn for a leisurely life, but once people are completely idle, they are prone to breed countless troubles.

These troubles pile up, so that people are no longer leisurely, but full of hostility and evil with people.

Provoking such idlers will only push themselves into the endless whirlpool.

No one can fight a man who has nothing to do.

The best way to face idle people is not to compete with them and be reasonable, but not to be calculating, not to entangle, to try to stay away from them, and to stay away from those trivial negative emotions.

Entanglement with idlers is a disaster

Rousseau wrote in his Confessions:

In order to keep his distance from unrelated idlers, he would rather play puppets himself than communicate with them too much. Because there is more communication, it is inevitable that you will get into trouble for yourself.

Everyone understands the truth, but in life, we often struggle with idle people.

In the end, not only will you catch up with your own great time, but you may even lose the rest of your life, and the gain will not be worth the loss.

In the movie "I am not Pan Jinlian", the heroine Li Xuelian is like this.

Because the ex-husband said, "Are you Li Xuelian?" Why do I think you are Pan Jinlian? ”

For this sentence, she spent 20 years fighting with her ex-husband and fighting with her ex-husband, just to prove that she was not Pan Jinlian.

However, from youth to vicissitudes, she also failed to achieve her wishes, but let herself live as a "talking point" for others.

This farcical lawsuit was finally over because of the death of her ex-husband, and Li Xuelian realized that all the entanglements had lost their meaning.

Li Xuelian's life could have had a better way of living, she could have cut off the past with the past, and started a new life with Zhao Datou, who liked herself.

However, she was too entangled in rotten people and bad things, and wasted half her life.

We always like to waste our precious lives on competing with idle people, but we don't understand that idle people are like a quagmire, and the more you struggle, the more difficult it is to extricate yourself.

Entanglement with idle people is the disaster of a lifetime, and it is also the beginning of pain.

Some time ago, I saw such a sad thing.

Cheng Mou, a 20-year-old third-year girl in Xi'an, rented a house for internship, and later because she wanted to go back to her hometown to see a doctor, she wanted to quit the rent in advance, so she contacted the landlord, hoping that the landlord could refund the money as promised, but she did not expect to be rejected by the landlord.

Cheng had no choice but to sue the landlord, and under the mediation of the police, the landlord only refunded a little money in order to calm the people.

Cheng could not accept this result and continued to claim compensation from the landlord, who refused and abused her continuously on WeChat for a month.

After repeated mental torture, she collapsed and drank poison in the rental house.

Voltaire said:

What makes people tired is not the distant mountains, but a fine grain of sand in the shoes.

The greatest misfortune in the world is that we should have crossed the mountains and strided forward, but because of the insignificant people, we disrupted the rhythm and overdrawn our mood.

As Nietzsche wrote in The Other Side of Good and Evil:

If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself. Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back.

If you are too entangled with idlers, you will only be hurt in the end.

Interacting with idle people is a kind of self-consumption

"Persuasion" poem cloud:

I don't see idle people with long energy, but I see people who work hard.

Once people are idle, they will waste their time on trivialities and add a lot of resentment.

Interacting with idle people, over time, we will also become lazy and lose motivation.

During a chat, my friend Xiaoxi talked about her experience.

When she first started working, Xiaoxi had a good relationship with her colleague Xinxin, and the two often ate together.

After getting along for a long time, Xiao Xi found that Xin Xin always got by and never wanted to spend time to improve herself.

The work is not smooth, Xinxin put the responsibility on the colleague, complaining that the colleague is not serious about the work, but he never thinks about how to remedy.

Seeing that some people have been promoted and raised, Xinxin also complained that others are "good at doing things in the DPRK", but she can't see the time when others are working hard in order to win the project.

She always brushed the drama on the one hand, and complained that the company did not give her a chance, but whenever the department technical training, she always said that she was very busy and tried to shirk it.

After getting along for a long time, Xiao Xi felt that he began to be surrounded by negative energy, often feeling tired, and gradually, Xiao Xi chose to slowly distance himself from Xin Xin, and finally broke off contact.

Spending time with idle people for a long time, the light consumes energy, and the heavy makes us lose the desire to fight and become the people we hate.

When I returned to my hometown during the Spring Festival, I happened to have relatives visiting at home and asked about my work.

I smiled and responded, "It's good, the people in the company are very good and can learn a lot." ”

Unexpectedly, this relative actually replied: "What do girls work so hard, is it not good to find a good family to marry?" ”

Similar guidance is everywhere in our lives, and the other party may not really care about us, but just idle and like to interfere in the lives of others.

Bai Yansong once said:

Sometimes, we live very tired, not because life is too mean, but because we are too easily infected by the atmosphere of the outside world and swayed by the emotions of others.

Many times, it is not that life is difficult for us, but that we care too much about the opinions of idlers, so that they can easily shake their hearts.

Instead of letting idle people consume themselves, it is better to cultivate themselves silently.

It is better to stand out from the flock than to stay away from the flock.

Stay away from idle people and focus on your own life

The writer Feng Tang once said:

Too little time, too many fun things, from the perspective of respect for life, there is no need to entangle.

Looking at the past and the present, those who have achieved great things will not waste their time on idle trivia.

Lu Mengzheng, the prime minister of the Song Dynasty, became prime minister in less than 12 years, so he was also jealous and slandered.

When he was appointed to the Governor's Office, on the first day of the Court, someone on the road taunted him: "Can this boy also participate in the Governor's affairs?" He also let out a particularly harsh laugh.

Lu Meng did not turn his head back and continued to walk his own path.

After descending the court, seeing that he never mentioned this matter, his colleagues were indignant and said that they wanted to track down this person for him.

Lu Meng was hurrying to stop it: "Don't find out who said it, otherwise I will never forget it for the rest of my life." ”

Not knowing, not tracking, not caring, is the best response to idle people and gossip.

People who really have a pattern will not change the direction of their progress because of the words of idle people and so on.

They know that idle people are irrelevant compared to their own lives, and that valuing them too much will only add to their troubles.

Su Shi, a great scholar, had been framed by Zhang Huan many times, degraded again and again, but he had never been assimilated by false accusations, and he had never taken Zhang Huan's harm to heart.

Later, when Su Shi encountered a general amnesty, Zhang Huan was worried about Su Shi's retaliation, so he asked his son to write a letter and ask him to open up.

Unexpectedly, Su Shi just replied lightly:

But in the past, it is more beneficial.

What's the point of talking about the past?

Living your own life is the truth.

The rest of your life is expensive and there's no need to waste it on people who don't deserve it. Instead of tangling with idle people, it is better to withdraw decisively and focus on yourself.

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In this world, there are many idle people who do not seek progress, and there are many gossip.

If we dwell on this, our lives will be plunged into endless troubles.

The Tang Dynasty monk Han Shan once asked:

There are people in the world who slander me, deceive me, insult me, laugh at me, belittle me, despise me, hate me, and deceive me.

Answer:

Just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, be patient with him, respect him, ignore him, and in a few years, you will see him.

A few years have passed, idle people are still idle people, still trapped in their own acres and three points of land, and the real wise people have long gone to the sea of stars.

The heavens and the earth are vast, and the idle are self-absorbed; the years are long, and the busy are self-promoting.

For the rest of your life, may you and I not covet a moment of comfort, and not fall into unnecessary internal friction.

May the places you go to be hot lands, and may all those you meet be good friends.