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Writer Liu Liangcheng once said:
"The snow that falls on a person's life, we can't see it all. Everyone spends the winter alone in their own lives. ”
The sorrows and joys of mankind are not connected, and each has his own obscurity and purity.
Many times we are sad and depressed, not because no one accompanies us, but because no one understands.
When you feel wronged, think about the following three sentences.
- 01 -
Never need to explain yourself to someone else
Older generations often say this:
"Don't envy anyone's life, in fact, everyone's pot has ash at the bottom, not that others have unlimited scenery, but that they have not shown chicken feathers to others."
What is even more terrifying than the eyes of the world is actually his own heart that cares about the eyes of the world.
When The Song Dynasty Prime Minister Lü Mengzheng had just been appointed deputy prime minister, on the first day he entered the dynasty and took office, he was walking on the main hall with great vigor and vigor, when he suddenly heard someone say:
"Even with this bit of seniority, he has also become a suffragan?"
In the face of this basin of cold water, Lu Meng pretended not to hear and left.
However, his accompanying colleagues complained about him and wanted to track down who this person was.
Lu Meng was hastily stopping and said:
"If you know his name, you will never forget it for the rest of your life, it is better not to know it."
Word spread about the incident, and people praised Lu Mengzheng.
Later, Lü Mengzheng assisted Emperor Taizong in consolidating the rule of the early Song Dynasty and became a generation of famous courtiers.
As the saying goes, it is difficult to adjust the crowd, it is difficult to call the hearts of the people.
The world is big, there is really no way to make everyone like you, the world is very realistic, really powerless.
As there was once a topic on the Internet:
"Why am I doing everything wrong?"
The following answer is:
"If everything is wrong, why should we care?"
People who like you, see everything good; people who don't like you, you don't do anything right.
Life can't do everything as you want, those who can't get the hand of the son, the workplace fight that can't be avoided, and the empathy that can't be done are always haunting.
Since you can't do everything as you wish, just go with the flow, you don't have to force yourself.
Never explain yourself to others, know that every way in your life can only accompany you for a while, and you need to face everything yourself.
A life is very long, there is little consummation, and whoever is born is indestructible, but constantly learns to be strong.
Only when you are really independent and strong, do not care about the eyes of others, and do not insist on explaining yourself to others,
The sense of ease, ease, and unfetteredness that you exude is the most fascinating.
- 02 -
In a person's life, love is easy to get, and it is difficult to understand
There is a hot topic on Zhihu:
What kind of person should we find to spend the rest of our lives in this life?
Someone said:
"I'm tired enough to live, I just want to find someone to warm me."
It was also said:
"In the final analysis, love still has to return to chai rice oil and salt, and I want to find someone who can live a life."
Prefer this answer:
"I hope to meet someone who can read myself, because a life is too long and I don't want to settle down."
In this life, I have met many people, but very few people really understand you.
Slowly, it became clear that people's sorrows and joys were not the same, and there were very few real empathies.
Most of those feelings that are scattered halfway are because they don't understand each other.
Not everyone can feel your mood swings, and not everyone can understand your desire to stop talking.
Comfort is never stretched, only cold and warm self-knowledge.
After all, there are very few people who can appear in time, instead of always expecting the comfort of others, it is better to learn to be strong alone.
There are also a lot of people getting off the bus halfway, you don't have to worry about it, they are already doing their best to accompany you to here.
Gathering and dispersing can only follow fate, and no one can force it.
There is a passage that says:
"Loving someone is always very simple, nothing more than the heart, and there are thousands of joys.
Understanding a person needs gentle patience for a long time, gathering sand into a tower, dripping water and wearing stones. ”
Strong feelings are often not because they are naturally suitable, but because they are willing to tolerate each other.
The tacit understanding of two people is often not born, but slowly grinds together in a life of mixed feelings.
We spend our whole lives seeking to understand.
Understand, not only to make people move, but also to make people settle.
As Miyazaki put it:
"The happiest thing in the world is that what you say is heard, and the thoughts you express are understood."
May there be one who knows what you love and what you ask for.
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Turn negative emotions into silent mode
I don't know when I saw it clearly, and I also looked down on a lot of experiences.
I don't know since when, I am always silent about my heart, and I am reluctant to talk to others.
I don't know when I began to be afraid of showing my weakness, so I adjusted my grievances to a silent mode and made the sorrows and joys visible only to myself.
When I was young, even the change of seasons had to be rendered earth-shattering, but when I grew up, I learned to be more and more silent the more painful, and the more bitter I became, the more silent I became.
Growing up is about turning your cries into silent mode.
When we were young, we couldn't say what we wanted, and when we grew up, we couldn't speak insincerely.
Even if the heart is already uncomfortable and crumbling, the surface will pretend to be, but it is quieter than usual.
Because I understand in my heart that some grievances are not not said, but when I say it, no one may be able to understand it.
Mayday sings in the song:
"You're not really happy, your laughter is just the protective color you wear."
Life is destined to be a one-man war, a man's single-handedness, a man's soldiers and horses, chaos and earth-shaking.
Many things, after seeing through, do not want to say; when you are used to seeing them, you feel that there is no need to say them; when you look down, you really put them down.
No matter how much suffering, you have to learn to endure it yourself; no matter how much grievance, you have to learn to swallow it all without alarm.
As the saying goes:
"In this world, some people live in tall buildings, some people are in deep ditches, some people are naked, and some people are rusty."
But no one tells you how this building was built so high, how people climbed out of the ditch, how many injuries the radiant people have suffered, and how many rusty people have ever been high.
On the red dust, everyone is walking alone.
Along the way, we learn to grow, learn to bear our own sweet and sour alone, learn to keep our original intention in the hustle and bustle, and learn to let the tired soul take a nap.
Along the way, one person's grievances, one person understands, one person's life, one person carries.
At this point, don't worry, don't panic, because this is the true portrayal of the journey of life,
As long as you move forward firmly and calmly, you will always see the clouds and the sky.
For the rest of your life, may you grow on your own, work hard, have the sun in your eyes, and smile with openness.
Although the years are long, and you are worth the wait.
● End of the article soundtrack: Zhou Bichang - "The Most Beautiful Expectation" ●