Life changes all the time, when problems arise, your reaction affects your destiny, and controlling yourself is the best way to change your destiny.
First, when you are down, adjust your mentality. Some people say: "When something bad happens, it is not necessarily necessary to have a bad ending, and if you look at it with a different mentality, bad things cannot be regarded as good things." "When people live in the world, it is inevitable that they will encounter several obstacles that are difficult to cross. If the mentality is unstable, the wind and rain can crush themselves. At the trough, go against the grain, don't be depressed, don't complain, and life goes against the grain.
An ancient expedition went to the forest to explore, they crossed the mountains and crossed the river. There was not enough water to bring, so everyone evened out with each other, and when the moment of "running out of food", they drank the rainwater from the leaves to quench their thirst and pick wild fruits to fill their hunger. Unfortunately, when they were climbing over the mountain, they accidentally lost their compass, and they returned to the right path according to their own feelings. But the tribulations continued to test them, and someone got sick. The captain was afraid that he would infect the team members, and when he decided to abandon him, he was opposed by everyone. The expedition, struggling with adversity for 49 days, all returned safely
At a low point, being passive doesn't solve anything. A good mindset is the ladder you climb out of the bottom. "The moment you change your mindset, your life takes a turn for the better." At the low point, see adversity as a tempering before the transformation, calm your mind, bury your head in hard work, and even the hard days can survive the return to happiness.
Second, when you are proud, controlling your desires and indulging your desires is the greatest scourge. When you gaze into the abyss, sink in desire, the abyss will return to gaze. When you are proud, properly control your desires and be strict with yourself, in order to be able to enjoy the scenery for a long time. We are not Wu Song, and we cannot all have the strength and courage to "know that there are tigers in the mountains and prefer to go to the tiger mountains" like Wu Song. So we must have self-knowledge, do not have so much strength, do not try to eat the sweetest fruit, if people can not correctly understand themselves, then you will always be in a painful life can not extricate themselves. Desire can accomplish a person can also destroy a person, do not become a slave to desire. When you become the master of your desires, you can control your life.
Third, people live a lifetime, and it is inevitable that they will encounter rotten people and bad things. Maybe you are not wrong, but you will still be misunderstood by the other party, and even insulted. If you can't control your emotions and get entangled with the other person, in the end it is you who are not decent.
The novel "I Am Not Pan Jinlian" tells such a story. Li Xuelian, a rural woman, was slandered by her ex-husband. The ex-husband splashed her dirty water: "Are you Li Xuelian?" Why do I think your name is Pan Jinlian? Li Xuelian felt aggrieved, and in order to return her innocence, she fought a lawsuit for 20 years up and down, in all aspects. In the past twenty years, she has exhausted her youth and happiness, experienced the cold and warmth of the world, and filled her whole life with grievances and resentments. But even so, she was not able to correct it in the end.
It is often said that don't get entangled with rotten people and bad things. Why? Because you are entangled with rotten people, rotten people have nothing to lose, and you have wasted time, consumed emotions, and even lost your life.
I agree with this sentence: whoever is happy gives way. When two people have a misunderstanding because of some small matter, the person who is better and happier should bow his head first, because once there is a dispute, in terms of cost, the happy person loses more.
Fourth, in life, no one can not be misunderstood. When you are lonely, keep your posture. When you are wronged, you don't have to explain, and you don't have to argue. Straightening out emotions and making yourself better off than the other person is the wisest counterattack. Movie star Zhang Xiaofei, when she was not recognized, she silently suffered and polished her acting skills. The director said that she was ugly and could not play the heroine, so she studied the sketch. Grinding over and over again, practicing again and again, and insisting year after year, she finally waited for the opportunity to participate in "Hello! Lee Hwan Young". In the end, she became a 5 billion box office heroine with this film, and won the best actress at the 34th Chinese Film Golden Rooster Awards.
Can't help but think of a lyric: indifferent people, thank you for once looking down on me, let me not bow my head, more wonderful life. "When you are lonely, you must not stop crying." What you have to do is not to blindly fit in, not to go with the flow. A man's achievements are directly proportional to the loneliness he endures. When you are lonely, keep your own unique posture, work hard calmly, struggle alone, and wait for yourself to slowly bloom.
As the old saying goes, "Destiny is made by oneself, and blessings are sought by oneself." "No matter what kind of environment you are in, it is possible to turn the situation around. A person's fate is hidden in the way he deals with problems. The weak are resigned to their fate and at their mercy; the strong, in control of themselves, change their destiny. Controlling yourself well in case of trouble is the best transfer. May you take your destiny into your own hands and live a better life.
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