The more fear you have, the more you ask of your child

Education is a way to wake up, to persuade your child outwardly, to persuade yourself inward.

Do you think you're doing the right thing about your education?

If there is a problem with the flower, it is most likely that the root also has a problem. Parents often "see" their child's problems, which are actually the external projections of their own problems.

Essentially, there are no problematic children, only problematic parents.

Parent means "mind" and child represents "heart". When the existence of life seems to be in trouble, it is the "mind" that is wrong.

Without your perspective, judgment, and opinion, will there be a problem child in your eyes? If you have a problem child in your eyes, whose problem is it?

Who made a problematic child? It's you, you create some problem concept, and then you project on the child.

It is you who are blinded and see a flawless piece of jade as an ugly stone.

If you think you have a problem child, you must turn around and look for the root cause of the problem in yourself.

Just like you see some flaws on the screen, first see if there's a problem with the projector's lens.

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The more fears you have of your own

The more you ask for children

If you are a fearful parent, you will have a problem child. The greater your fear, the more problems you see as a child.

Fear leads to control.

The more frightened you are, the more inclined you are to grasp something in order to make yourself feel secure.

The master is the mind, and children are usually free hearts, they flow like water and are difficult to control. This makes you want to grasp, the more you want to control, the more you want to control, the more you can't grasp, the more you can't control, the more you can't control.

The more fear you have, the more you ask for your child, and the more problems you see as a child.

A child is a problematic child, is that really the case? Is it true that without your fears, without your repression or judgment, he was a difficult child to educate? Ask yourself.

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When you are a completely fearless parent

Your child can grow naturally

People expect their children to grow up wise and capable.

How can a child grow up to show "maximum" wisdom and ability? That is to let him grow up according to nature.

If a child grows up as he is, his wisdom and ability will be maximized when he grows up.

On the contrary, if you deliberately cultivate or train him, in adulthood, he may be good in some aspects, but his wisdom will not be able to fully exert.

It is not easy to put a pony to grow freely on the vast grassland. What a fearless heart the owner of the pony needs!

He would worry about the ponies encountering such dangers on the road, of one kind or another of problems. He would worry, so let the pony go, how it would be in the future, how it would grow, and so on.

How dare you give up on your child? You don't have that much courage. In the free form of a child, we can see how big a parent's fearless heart really is.

Not a man as bold as God, his children cannot enjoy the pure boundless sky and earth.

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Knowledge education and wisdom education

People tend to think of knowledge as wisdom, which is an illusion.

Under the influence of this illusion, people expect more knowledge of their own, and they desperately put knowledge into their minds, which also leads to their educational model.

After the "hope" of parents expires in their own, they put the "hope" they once had for themselves on their children.

They want their child to be a wise man, how do they do it? Put more knowledge into his head.

If a child can recognize two thousand words at the age of four and recite the Three Character Sutra and the Thousand Character Text, we think he is very clever.

And what's the use of that? You're just storing more data on a computer's hard drive.

Wisdom is a state of emptiness, not a state of fullness. Too much knowledge can only make a mind cunning, and cunning is not wisdom.

Computers can dispatch tens of millions of knowledge information at any time, but computers are not a wise human brain.

For man, wisdom does not depend on what is in him, but on emptiness within him.

The more empty parts he has, the more space and ability he has to use his knowledge.

Just like the more blanks in a computer's hard disk and memory, the faster it will run.

Educate your child, give him what he has, keep his emptiness even more, and don't fill him too full.

If you fill his mind too full and too solid, like a bottle that is stuffed too tightly and too solidly, the emptiness in it becomes a dead emptiness, and the wisdom of such a child cannot be exerted.

Therefore, to educate a child, pay attention to the emptiness within him. Knowledge education is an education of existence, and wisdom education is an education of emptiness.

Remember to leave more empty for your child than to have:

That is, please pay more attention to wisdom education than knowledge education.

Learning is not about remembering knowledge, but about awakening love and detonating wisdom.

Knowledge is dedicated, wisdom is universal.

Knowledge is not power, knowledge is only a tool, wisdom is power!

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"Demanding, expecting, and being responsible" is not love

We measure whether we love or love a person, and often look at whether we have demands, expectations, or responsibilities towards them, or how deeply they are.

The more we demand, the higher we expect, the more we control a person, that is, the more "responsible" we are, the more we love that person;

On the other hand, we do not love Him, or we do not love Him deeply.

Is this true? This is a mistake.

Demands, expectations, or so-called responsibilities are merely substitutes for fear. They are another incarnation of fear, another name.

Demanding, expecting and being responsible means love, are you sure that's true?

In our education, because we have our own fears, the result is that "demanding," "expecting," or "being responsible" becomes our bond with another individual.

When we demand, expect, or take responsibility for Him, it can make us feel deeper and more connected to the other person, making us feel safe ourselves.

Education is to make up for a sense of security, and the more a person emphasizes education, the greater the insecurity behind it.

Education seems to be a kind of control, which is based on illusions of the future and fear. Education is the face of fear, the more one fears, the more one needs it, and the more one fears, the more one seems to need to be educated and educated.

True education is the awakening of inner self-sufficient goodness, wisdom, and love.

Enlightened people do not have the concept of education because they do not need education. Lao Tzu never advocated education because he was at the source of the Tao.

What all things need is not the education given by others, but self-learning and self-education. In essence, in the creation of human wisdom, only this part is truly meaningful and effective.

Is asking, expecting, and being responsible love?

Strictly speaking, that's not love, it's total fear.

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Don't take your child as a "hostage"

Because parents are afraid, in the treatment of their children's education, they unconsciously and inevitably regard their children as "hostages" of their sense of self-security.

You have to be good and good, or I'm not safe;

You have to be capable, otherwise how can I be at ease?

Lo and behold, parents are turning their children into threats to their inner safety.

When a child is a "hostage" in a family, guess what, can the child receive a truly benign education? The child becomes a wave on the inner river of fear of the whole society or the family, and he certainly cannot obtain what is really needed in life.

When you are afraid, he can feel the fear, even if he is small; when you relax or be confident, he can feel it. The child is a sensitive receiver who is reflecting your voice and information.

A good parent should put the focus of education from educating children to educational self-examination.

For enlightened parents, educating their children is just an excuse, and self-education is real. When you educate yourself well, the child is just a reflection of the good you, he will naturally become better.

In your children's education, have you ever taken your children as your "hostages"? Check yourself out. Examining your inner fears is the beginning of your real desire to educate good children.

Education is, in a sense, a healing of the fear and foolishness of the human heart.

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What true love is

We often say that a mother's love for her child is complete, 100 percent, really? When a person still has fear in his heart, his love for another person cannot be 100% 100%.

What is true love? It's not that you can give him your life, or that you can satisfy or give anything he wants. True love has nothing to do with it.

True love is a kind of inaction.

It has no demands, it has no shadow of fear in it, it does not hide any attempt to control.

It gives the energy of nature like the sun gives light and heat to all things. You don't expect him, you don't ask him to be different from who he is, you don't try to reform or correct him.

True love is completely unconditional.

You love him no matter what, you love him no matter what, and your love has nothing to do with him. This is true love. This love is like God's attitude toward all things, giving to you but not demanding or expecting from you, and He does nothing for you.

If this criterion is called the criterion of true love, then check whether your love for your child is true love.

You expect him to learn well, you expect him to be a good child, but do you know how much pressure your expectations have secretly brought him? The more you expect him to be good, the more you develop your own pressure. Is this good for children's growth?

We have no expectations of our little child, how he we all love him; we do our best but do not ask him. This is the love of truly enlightened parents.

An education that does not have expectations for children is no worse than an education that has more so-called good expectations for children. Think about it, do you think so? When it comes to treating children, rethink your love, is that real love?

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Educating children is introspection

When we dig deeper into life's problems, we will find that when you are fine, the problems of the whole world are over.

If I still find that the world is problematic, it must be that I still have a problem. When I cannot accept the world one hundred percent, it means that my mind has not yet achieved its own perfection.

Seeing the world as perfect is only a result of witnessing one's own inner perfection.

If I have anxiety, worry, or demand in the issue of children, it must mean that I still have fear, narrow opinion, self-righteousness, and ignorance in my heart.

When I'm not resting on awareness, I have a lot of problems. When I have a lot of problems, I must be rolling over my thoughts. For one reason or another, as long as I am still in pain, anxiety, or worry, I must not see through the illusion of life, I do not see the truth of existence.

Education is a kind of self-awakening, a kind of human self-awakening, a kind of self-awakening of yours.

On the way to the fulfillment of one's own life, the child and his education are a bridge. Stepping on this bridge, you are back on your own. The child is your projection, and education is your means of projection.

In achieving the perfection of the child, you will complete yourself. In the same way, in the process of consummating yourself, your children will be perfected. The outer world is the result of the inner world, which gives the outer world its beautiful energy.

By having a child and educating him, work on yourself to achieve the consummation of the whole existence.

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