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I saw a passage on the Internet: "You are alive and don't need to explain everything clearly." This only makes the art of communication lose its beauty. “
Many times, people subconsciously hope to prove their innocence through certain things, but in reality, this will only make things worse and worse.
Because, people who don't believe you, will only think you're looking for reasons. And those who believe in you never need you to open your mouth.
1. What are you explaining?
A colleague I once knew, he liked to give himself everything he wanted, to find a suitable reason.
For example, if someone says that his photograph has been refined, he will tell the details of the photo and prove that there is no refinement.
If something goes wrong, and someone throws the pot at him, he will have to find many ways and means to prove his innocence.
However, these explanations only made his life worse and made the people around him feel that he was an unreliable person.
Many things in life, especially at work, are never an explanation that others are waiting for.
What the owner needs is excellent results. They don't care how you get it done, who does it, they just want the answers he needs.
And in life, the person who loves you, because he knows you well enough, so he knows your temperament. People who don't understand, don't care who you really are.
As Guo Degang once said: 'The person who wronged you knows better than you that you have been wronged.' But he still wronged you. ”
So, don't rush to explain everything. You should believe that things that should be clear will always be clear.
2. Not everyone, have patience
Sometimes, we see things online, and it's okay to express your opinion from your own point of view, but don't attack others with a gun and a stick.
Because, we are not them, we have not experienced what they have experienced, and naturally we do not understand how they really feel.
Just like the incident of Jiang Ge's mother, watching her cry and complain about the feelings of being wronged, listening to her arguments, how many people really care about her feelings?
Most of the time, when we explain something, we're actually wasting time. Because of your heart-telling voice, not all people have the patience to listen to it.
For those, these pale arguments are irrelevant, what they hope to skip as soon as possible.
Not all people care if you've been wronged in something, they care more about their own interests.
So, you don't have to impose all people's ideas on yourself, those people never understand you, why do you have to care about their feelings?
3. You should, be confident
I once read a psychological blogger post a point of view, he said: "Women have been disciplined since childhood psychological defects, resulting in many women, subconsciously like to explain." ”
People always have a subconscious, when they encounter unfair treatment, they want to defend their dignity through language.
A friend once complained that he could not understand why he was experienced and engaged in related work for many years, but his income was not as high as that of a newly hired college student.
In his opinion, she obviously has a lot of hard work, and the company treats herself like this, which is an unfair treatment, and she wants to go to the leader and argue for herself.
But does the argument make sense at this time? It doesn't make much sense, on the contrary, there are many people who have been fired from the company because of this.
In the workplace, unfair treatment can be seen everywhere when wronged, but these times are by no means the best time to fight back.
What you need to do is first of all to strengthen your self-confidence and belief, and start using this job as a springboard for yourself.
A person who doesn't value you, who doesn't value you, isn't worth your efforts. However, this is not your problem, and there is no need for you to waste time on it.
You have to believe in yourself, you're great and working very hard in life, you just need to prove yourself for the time.
4. Not everyone will understand you
There are many things in this world that are not right or wrong, just because people look at the same problem from different angles.
So, don't affect your emotions for the sake of others. Just like them, they don't care how you feel.
It is enough to make yourself happy, not to explain or argue, to do things with your heart, and to live seriously.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.