Take a look at the article I handed you. I opened it and saw that it was an article called "If your child has the following three characteristics, then he must be a bully in the future", and Grandma said: "You see, our baby may be a bully in the future!" "I rolled my eyes, as a self-media mother who has been writing articles for many years and reading articles for many years, I have seen too many such arguments." These three characteristics that every child will have If it is the seed of the bully, then aren't all the babies in the world a bully?
But I happened to see a popular science article on brain science, but it changed my opinion. On the way to becoming a bully, the material basis of the brain and the learning mode are interactive, that is to say, those children who become a bully in the future can really find clues in childhood, let's take a look at whether there is a "primary school bully" in your home!
Curious and exploratory
In the documentary "Post-00s", Xi Kun is such a baby. In Ba Gakuen he threw toys and shoes. At home, he set fire to the noodles and added a handful of salt. It can be described as a well-deserved "bear child". Fortunately, Teacher Li Yue'er and her mother know that behind these out-of-line behaviors, there is a strong curiosity. So not only did he not blame him, but he also guided him, and in the end, Xi Kun did become a primary school bully.
Scientists at the California Institute of Technology have found that curiosity stimulates the left caudate nucleus and prefrontal cortex regions in the brain.
That is to say, after people have a strong curiosity, the brain will activate the reward mechanism, and when the answer reveals that the curiosity is satisfied, the areas of the brain related to learning, language, and memory understanding will also become active.
Therefore, those behaviors that are naughty in the eyes of adults, such as throwing things, turning over boxes and cabinets, and even dismantling toys. It may be that the baby is constantly exercising his learning ability. After experiencing the joy of finding out the truth and solving problems again and again, the brain "rewards" will form a habit circuit. Such a baby will also be very good academically.
How to protect your child's curiosity:
In fact, every baby is born with a strong curiosity and desire to explore, but in the process of their growth, the parents' behavior may hurt the child's curiosity, so what should we protect the "seed" of the bully on their own baby? Here are three suggestions:
Don't rush the child
If the child is suddenly interested in something, it is recommended that everyone give them some space and do not blindly urge the child. Sometimes when walking with Zhenbao, he would often crouch down and touch the grass and play with ants. If there is nothing urgent, I will stand not far away and wait for him.
Create a safe environment that allows free exploration
Don't stop babies from exploring for fear of danger. You can create a safer space where children can satisfy their curiosity.
Patiently answer your child's questions
3-year-old children may suddenly enter the "100,000 Whys" stage, at which time if parents are patient to answer, their curiosity will be satisfied. If you really don't understand, you can also take your child online or find answers in books.
Long focus time and high efficiency
A friend complained to me that her son had just entered the first grade, and the class teacher told her that the child's concentration was poor and she always deserted, so she was very anxious. Since the first grade, my daughter has almost never needed her supervision to focus on her studies, and has now gone straight to the key junior high school.
We know that "high concentration" has always been the most obvious difference between a bully and a scumbag. Seemingly the same learning time, Xueba is more efficient because of focus. So excluding emotional reasons, where is the difference in concentration between children?
The research of Columbia brain scientists has revealed a mystery: it turns out that the RAS (reticulated activation system) module of the face of the brain develops differently.
Simply put, the mesh activation system is a bit like a spotlight, when there is a lot of information, it can highlight the more important information for us. Like the child who does homework in the market, he actually belongs to the child with a strong mesh activation system, and can only focus on his homework in the noise of shouting and car sounds.
Some children's "focus system" is inherently a little better than others, so whether in learning or at work, they can go deeper and easier to enter flow mode.
However, if your child's concentration is not high enough, don't be discouraged. Scientists also say that the reticular activation system, like the muscles in our bodies, can become stronger and stronger through exercise.
So how do you train? Mom and Dad only need to remember one sentence: don't interfere and don't bother. That is to say, do not disturb your child when he is highly focused. For example, if the baby is focusing on playing with sand, don't always go up to him and tell him: "You don't get your eyes in it, you see that your head is full of sand"; but there is no need to create an absolutely quiet environment, and the whole family will be silent once the child learns. In this way, there is no extra information, how can children exercise the focus function of the brain?
Likes to express her opinion
Once, when I took Zhen Bao to early education, the teacher took out a small drum and asked everyone what it was? Is it a hat? Is it a mirror? Is it a bowl? The children shook their heads and said together, "That's a drum," and only one little boy exclaimed, "If you turn him around, it's a box!" At that time, I was thinking that this child would most likely become a "school bully" in the future.
Why? Because in his behavior, there are already two qualities commonly possessed by academic bullies, the first is the ability to express, and the second is critical thinking.
On the one hand: language ability is an important basis for cognitive development. In the picture above, we can see that as children's language develops, the neuronal connections in children's brains are gradually strengthened, forming a language network. And these brain areas are closely related to the ability to understand and the ability to logic, and these are the necessary abilities for learning. If the child likes to express his own views, it means that he has been able to use language relatively skillfully and has good logical thinking skills.
How to do parents: "Noble people are late" is just a kind of self-consolation, as parents we can establish a better language environment for our children and communicate with our children more. Also create opportunities for children to express their opinions, such as asking their children's opinions before making decisions and patiently listening to them.
On the other hand, the courage to put forward one's own point of view is the embodiment of critical thinking.
There is a "strange" phenomenon in children's academics: in elementary school, children who obediently listen to teachers will get better grades. However, after junior high school, those "lever essences" may suddenly rise. This is because critical thinking, or other opinions, is based on thinking. Such children will have stronger learning ability and independent thinking ability than their peers. And on the basis of "leverage", they will continue to try to solve problems and actively cope with various academic challenges.
I believe that every parent is looking forward to Jackie Chan, looking forward to the female chengfeng, at the end of the article for all parents to share a good book, don't miss it!
Take the words of the world-famous physicist Yang Zhenning:
If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
At the same time, take this book to the child, usually the child also tutors mathematics, sometimes feel that going to cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also apply what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!