In 2001, Yan Xuejing, with the help of Zhao Benshan, made a name for herself in the three northeastern provinces and became known as the "Two-Man Turning Empress".
Subsequently, she followed Zhao Benshan into the show business circle and participated in wonderful works such as "Liu Laogen", "Urban Foreigner", "Woman's Village", "Woman as An Official" and so on.
Yan Xuejing's roles in rural dramas, simple and unpretentious, kind and filial piety are all handy.
However, in real life, Yan Xuejing is also such a person.
As a daughter-in-law, she is filial to her in-laws and treats her as her biological parents.
As a mother-in-law, she is good to her daughter-in-law and treated as her own daughter.
Yan Xuejing, born in 1972 in Liaoyuan, Jilin Province.
Her parents were farmers, and her daughter liked to sing and was sent to learn how to turn between the two.
In 1985, yan Xuejing, who was only 13 years old, entered the Weijin Small Theater Troupe in Dongliao County, Jilin Province, with the talent of the two.
Since she was in the voice change period, the tone range teacher was not satisfied. But she worked hard and became the "drama rake" of the troupe.
Later, Yan Xuejing was admitted to the Jilin Opera School and accepted a more professional duo transfer, so she had the opportunity to perform on stage.
After graduation, she entered the Jilin Critics Troupe and met love here.
In 1992, Yan Xuejing, who had just stepped into society, met Lin Yue.
Lin Yue is divorced, with a daughter, he likes the two very much, and Talks with Yan Xuejing very much.
She thought she had met the man she had spent her life with and wanted to marry him, but her parents objected.
Her parents told her:
You are only in your twenties, the future is bright, such a good condition, why do you have to marry a divorced person.
Yan Xuejing told her parents with a straight face:
He was going to marry Lin Yue
, to be a stepmother.
No matter how much his parents persuaded, Yan Xuejing couldn't listen to it, and his soul seemed to be taken away by Lin Yue.
Yan Xuejing and her parents were deadlocked, she began to use bitter meat, and her parents finally relaxed, acquiescing to her and Lin Yue together.
In Jilin, Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue held a grand wedding ceremony, and the father-in-law and mother-in-law laughed and blossomed, while her parents did not have any smiles on their faces.
In the second year after marriage, Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue's son Lin Aofei was born, from a happy family of two to a happy family of three.
Yan Xuejing's father-in-law and mother-in-law have often quarreled over the years, and their feelings have come to the brink. For the sake of their son, the old couple has been hiding and forbearing.
It was hard to wait until the son got married, and as a result, Lin Yue divorced his wife, and the couple did not want to make their son sad anymore.
Later, Lin Yue met Yan Xuejing, and the in-laws were very satisfied with this daughter-in-law, and the son was very happy with her.
The old couple began to think for themselves and put divorce on the agenda.
Lin Yue learned the news of his parents' divorce, put down his work and went home.
He advised his parents to think about it again, after all these years together, there was nothing that could not be resolved.
And the second elder didn't want him to manage it, just be able to be with Yan Xuejing, don't go to the point where they did.
Seeing that his parents insisted on divorce, Lin Yue no longer stopped him.
After the divorce, the father-in-law moved out of the house. The old man, who was in his mid-twenties, did not know where to go.
Although Yan Xuejing had not seen her father-in-law much, after she knew it, she rented a nice house for her father-in-law and enjoyed her old age in it.
She was afraid that her father-in-law would not be able to take care of him alone, so she paid a nanny to take care of his three meals a day.
Even though Yan Xuejing has made good arrangements, she still does not trust her father-in-law to live alone.
When she was not busy, she would visit her father-in-law, buy him some daily necessities, and bring a little food that she was usually reluctant to eat.
As soon as she went, she let the nanny rest, cook for her father-in-law, dry the quilt, wash clothes, etc.
The relationship between gonggong and Yan Xuejing is not deep, but she does not regard her father-in-law as an outsider, it is Lin Yue's father and her father.
Yan Xuejing thinks that filial piety is deserved, and tells her father-in-law that if there is anything, he will find her.
Yan Xuejing lives with her mother-in-law, and she does not want the old man to enjoy his old age alone after divorce.
Because she and her husband worked and had very little time at home, Yan Xuejing wanted to ask a nanny to take care of her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law refused.
The mother-in-law is still physically tough and does not need to be taken care of by others.
Usually, Yan Xuejing was not at home, and her mother-in-law would clean them up and clean up the house.
Every time she came home from a show, her home was clean and tidy. Yan Xuejing knew in her heart that this was all done by her mother-in-law.
And she also thinks about her mother-in-law outside, especially when performing in other places, and will buy local specialties to bring back to her mother-in-law.
Buy something for her parents, she will buy something for her mother-in-law. Sometimes, she would bring a copy for her father-in-law.
4 old people, Yan Xuejing is not biased towards anyone at all.
When the in-laws were sick, Yan Xuejing was more anxious than her own son Lin Yue and sent them to the hospital for medical treatment.
Push off all the performances and take care of her at the hospital bed, as if she were the biological daughter of her in-laws.
Neighbors often praised Lin Yue for marrying a good daughter-in-law.
Such a good daughter-in-law, Lin Yue missed it.
Yan Xuejing not only took good care of the family, but also prospered.
Since Lin Yue is the boss of Liu Laogen's big stage, Yan Xuejing met Zhao Benshan, Pan Changjiang and others.
Yan Xuejing began to follow them from the two to the stage of the sketch.
In 2001, Yan Xuejing and Pan Changjiang collaborated on the sketch "Building No. 3 Chief" and stood on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala.
She became a household name with her humorous and funny performance, and then Zhao Benshan invited her to participate in "Liu Laogen", opening up the showbiz market with the role of "Mountain Apricot".
Yan Xuejing's work became busier and busier, and there was very little time at home, and the contradictions with her husband Lin Yue began to appear.
Even so, she did not forget to take care of her father-in-law and mother-in-law.
Although Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue often quarreled, they treated their in-laws with the same care and never changed.
In her opinion, a bad relationship with her husband does not mean that she has a bad relationship with her in-laws. Since she has not reached the status of divorce, she should also be filial piety.
Unfortunately, Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue are still divorced, and what she is most reluctant to do is her in-laws, and her in-laws are also reluctant to her.
The mother-in-law learned that her son was going to divorce Yan Xuejing on the same day, scolded her son, and lost such a good daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law still has one last bit of hope, turning her head and tearfully asking Yan Xuejing, can she not divorce?
Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue had reached this point, and there was no possibility of compounding.
She packed up her things and took her son away from the home where she had lived for several years.
Before leaving, Yan Xuejing instructed Lin Yue to visit his father-in-law regularly, clean up his house, and clean up.
He also couldn't rest assured of his mother-in-law's body, and told Lin Yue to take his mother-in-law to the hospital regularly for examination and so on.
Yan Xuejing is like a child leaving home, and the parents are worried and have been instructing.
It can be seen how good she is to her father-in-law and mother-in-law, although she is not a family, she becomes a relative when she enters the family.
There is much to be reluctant to separate again.
After the divorce, Yan Xuejing still did not trust her former in-laws and sometimes went to visit her former in-laws.
Not only that, Yan Xuejing did not trust Lin Yue's daughter Lin Aoxue.
When it's okay,
Yan Xuejing would take Lin Aoxue to his side, and they would get along like friends.
Although Yan Xuejing and Lin Yue did not come to the end, in Lin Aoxue's heart, she was already regarded as a mother.
Lin Aoxue hopes that Yan Xuejing is happy, and she supports any decision she makes.
When Yan Xuejing remarried, Lin Aoxue and Lin Aofei did not stop her, and her in-laws were also happy for her, and someone continued to love her.
After remarrying, Yan Xuejing had a good relationship with her current in-laws and did not stay away from her former in-laws.
Sometimes, she could not visit the elderly couple, and would tell her son and stepdaughter to visit and offer to give them money to buy some good things.
Her husband Ma Mingdong is very supportive of her approach.
In 2011, Lin Aofei was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, and the whole family was happy for him.
But Yan Xuejing was not happy, because her son gradually alienated her, and the relationship between filming for a long time and not accompanying her son became stiff.
At school, everyone said that Lin Aofei was Yan Xuejing's son, and he wanted to get rid of this title.
In his senior year, he began to go out to shoot, although he could only play some small supporting roles, but he realized that it was not easy to shoot.
After so many years, Lin Aofei finally experienced her mother's hardships and began to understand her mother.
After returning home, he reconciled with his mother Yan Xuejing. Seeing that his son understood himself, Yan Xuejing's emotions could not be contained.
Later, Yan Xuejing and Lin Aofei worked together in the show business circle.
With her son's career, Yan Xuejing began to consider her son's marriage.
She asked her son if he wanted to find a daughter-in-law like his mother, or a daughter-in-law like his sister Lin Aoxue.
Lin Aofei replied: Then you still need to ask, I want to find the eldest sister like that.
As a daughter-in-law Yan Xuejing has achieved full marks, who should be her daughter-in-law should be under pressure, and very few daughters-in-law can do better than her.
Yan Xuejing does not have high requirements for her daughter-in-law: she only needs to be like her daughter, and her heart is kind and simple.
Lin Aofei really met such a girl - Xu Mengdi.
When Lin Aofei introduced her daughter-in-law to her mother Yan Xuejing, she saw that she was very satisfied with this daughter-in-law at first glance, and the more she looked at it, the more she liked it.
Xu Mengdi wanted to help her clean up the room, but yan Xuejing stopped her, so she could just watch TV and play, and didn't have to do anything.
But which can let the elderly take care of the young, Xu Mengdi will still take the initiative to help do some things.
At the dinner table, when Yan Xuejing was uncomfortable, she could not eat, and Xu Mengdi would feed her with her own hands.
Yan Xuejing is sick, Xu Mengdi will be around to take care of, busy before and after the hospital. Yan Xuejing told Xu Mengdi to let her son do it, and she said that she was relieved to do it herself.
Yan Xuejing is usually very frugal and reluctant to spend money on herself, so Xu Mengdi spends one or two thousand yuan to buy her clothes.
When she told everyone about it, her eyes were full of love for her daughter-in-law.
Xu Mengdi is not yet married, Yan Xuejing is called a daughter-in-law, and the relationship between the two is very close, just like the biological mother and daughter.
In June 2021, Lin Aofei and Xu Mengdi held a wedding in Beijing, Yan Xuejing was very happy, and after busying herself for the couple, she greeted the guests at the door and greeted the guests to sit down.
Yan Xuejing paid special attention to the life events of his son and daughter-in-law, and also invited his friends Pan Changjiang, Cheng Ye, Li Yugang and others to participate, and invited nearly hundreds of tables.
On the wedding day, Yan Xuejing invited her ex-husband Lin Yue to attend, while her current husband did not appear, and the two took the stage together to send blessings to their son and daughter-in-law.
The host asked how about the daughter-in-law? Yan Xuejing shouted loudly: Good!
Subsequently, Yan Xuejing sent her blessings to the couple.
She said excitedly:
Since I realized with my daughter-in-law, you know that your mother's personality is more urgent, and it has always been you who understand your mother, and it is also your tolerance mother.
When your mother is sick, you take the initiative to eat your mother's leftovers, and from now on your mother will listen to you
。 We will be a family in the future, and we will love you well."
Yan Xuejing also promised Xu Mengdi's parents:
"If the child is wronged and goes home one day, it is that I, the mother-in-law, have not done a good job."
It can be seen how satisfied Yan Xuejing is with Xu Mengdi and completely regards her as his own daughter.
After marriage, Yan Xuejing is even more so.
Although Lin Aofei is Yan Xuejing's biological son, if there is a quarrel between her son and her daughter-in-law, she will always stand on Xu Mengdi's side.
He even educated Lin Aofei for his daughter-in-law and made him listen to his daughter-in-law.
When the daughter-in-law disciplined her son, Yan Xuejing would not intervene, and she let her daughter-in-law educate.
As a mother-in-law, they never interfere in the affairs between their husband and wife, whether it is big or small things to make decisions, they are up to themselves, generally Xu Mengdi is in charge.
Lin Aofei had no status at home at all, as if he were an outsider to this family. All along, Yan Xuejing has been very respectful of her daughter-in-law.
Sometimes, Yan Xuejing would leave her son and go out to play with her daughter-in-law Xu Mengdi.
Two people talking and laughing are often mistaken for a mother-daughter relationship.
Daughter-in-law Xu Mengdi has a birthday, and Yan Xuejing, as a mother-in-law, attaches great importance to it.
Choose gifts for your daughter-in-law early and arrange a place for your birthday.
Not only did the whole family go to the scene to celebrate Xu Mengdi's birthday, Yan Xuejing also invited Feng Gong to celebrate her birthday, which was better than her own son.
It is said that Xu Mengdi married a good husband, and in her opinion, she has a good mother-in-law.
Saying goes:
It is better to marry a good husband than to find a good mother-in-law
It is completely a true portrayal of Yan Xuejing and Xu Mengdi.
As a daughter-in-law, Yan Xuejing filial pieted to her in-laws and treated them like biological parents.
As a mother-in-law, Yan Xuejing loved her daughter-in-law and treated her like a daughter.
It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem, and there is no such problem in Yan Xuejing's family.
Whether it is as a daughter-in-law or a mother-in-law, she treats her sincerely, in exchange for sincerity.
Because of a daughter-in-law like her, the ex-in-laws were well taken care of even if they were divorced.
Because there is a mother-in-law like her, there is no contradiction with the daughter-in-law before.
Therefore, Yan Xuejing and her former in-laws and daughters-in-law are not biological, but they are better than their own.
Whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or not depends on how well the two sides are operating. As long as one party pays sincerely, the other party will be the same, and it will be exchanged for the same return.
As the saying goes: treat each other as your own care, and treat each other as guests.