Hans Grimmelshausen said: "The mind of a man who has no upbringing, no knowledge, no practice is like a field which, even if it is born fertile, will not bear fruit unless it is cultivated and sown." ”
For women, when we look for the other half, we should not only focus on material appearance, but more on the most essential things of a man, that is, his character, upbringing and knowledge.
A person's character has a lot to do with his original family, and this characteristic thing is immutable once formed, and through his character, we can also get a glimpse of the education and living environment he received before the age of eighteen.
A man's cultivation and knowledge can fully show his self-pursuit and his vision, and at the same time, to a certain extent, can reflect the family influence brought to him by her parents.
Standing on objective conditions, some characteristics of the individual are unselectable and innate, but a person's upbringing and knowledge are shaped by our acquired pursuits, and this process may be painful, but the more people who pursue the higher self, the higher the pursuit of life.
Usually a man chooses to deliberately approach a woman, either because he likes it or because he is mixed with other interests.
The former type of man, he will give selfless love to the woman, even if the process is very bumpy, but he will still love this woman, the latter type of man may lead the woman to an endless abyss.
Looking back at recent years, many incredible things have happened, such as "the biological father Zhang Mou and his lover threw his own children to death", "The Hangzhou wife killing and shredding corpse case", "The Lin Shengbin incident", "The Shanghai wife killing case" and so on.
These incidents must have been familiar to everyone, the woman behind the victim is the most pitiful, originally thought that she was married to love, did not expect that the other party was a wolf in sheep's clothing.
For women, seeing a man clearly is more important than anything, and if you want to see a man clearly, you don't have to be tempted, and you will have the answer after talking with him.
Quality and upbringing cannot be pretended
Emerson said: "The essence of cultivation, like the character of man, ultimately comes down to the question of moral sentiments." ”
The quality and upbringing of the individual cannot be pretended, and when a woman chats with a man, she should not just listen to what the other party is expressing, sometimes what he says is deliberately assembled.
Because language tends to have a second consciousness, he will express it through the processing of the brain, and it may be that in many cases what he expresses is not consistent with what he thinks in his heart, and some men will think and sort out these words in advance in their minds in order to have a better impression in front of women.
Therefore, when women chat with men, they must learn to be the active party and ask more questions about men's hobbies, lives, ideals, and friends and family.
Usually under the woman's inquiry, the man's answer is often the most intuitive, and the time he processes in his mind is also the shortest, and the content expressed subconsciously is also relatively high in authenticity.
First of all, through the man's hobbies, the woman can understand what his real preferences are, which entertainment activities he prefers in life, some entertainment activities are static, some entertainment activities are more dynamic, and through his hobbies, he can also spy out where the man usually spends his time, which can fully explain what kind of person he is.
Talking about his relatives and family, on the one hand, we can see his relationship with the whole family, his attitude towards relatives and friends, and on the other hand, we can also see whether he has some basic character.
Men whose language and behavior are inconsistent are the most frightening
Lu Xun said: "If a person does not have the ability to help the person he loves, it is best not to talk about love and non-love, of course, help is not equal to love, but love can not include help." ”
If, when you are chatting, you find that this man is particularly fond of promising things, usually a man who likes to promise, but the content of his promise is very different from his actual situation, such a man is often difficult to do things responsibly.
We need to understand that a person with responsibility and ability will not easily promise others, because a promise means to be fulfilled.
In addition, if a man likes to talk about it, but when he expresses it, the content he conveys is very different from his actual look, then the content of his talk to you must be the opposite of what he really thinks in his heart, and this kind of man must not be sincere when he gets along with you.
Men with inconsistent language and behavior are the most terrible, women should stay away from such men in time, and in the process of chatting, men's subconscious behavior and looks are the most real.
Seeing a person clearly is actually very simple, women should be less emotional and more rational when chatting with men, so as not to be overwhelmed by love.
References: Psychology of Love, Subconscious