When it comes to the word silly white sweet, everyone should be familiar with it, in many film and television dramas, we will see this kind of heroine.
For example, in the TV series "Summer Family Three Thousand Gold", Summer Beauty is this kind of persona. She is a thousand gold of happy real estate, a well-off family, a simple heart, and a friendly treatment.
Summer Beauty mistakenly hit and bumped into Strict, and the two people had a spark of love, but the appearance of Sun Xiaojing, an ex-girlfriend who is strictly calculating and good at weaving lies, affects their feelings.
In the face of Sun Xiaojing's lies again and again, framed again and again, Xia Mei actually believed Sun Xiaojing many times and was pit by her several times. However, after all, she has the aura of a heroine, and she can turn the danger into a disaster every time, and finally be able to stay with strictness.
However, in real life, if you are stupid and sweet, believe too much in others, and are easily carried away by love, you may not be as lucky as the heroine in the TV series.
Baby Anne said: "Don't easily challenge human nature, human nature can not stand the test, it needs to be preserved and covered, if you go straight in, it will be full of flaws." ”
As the saying goes, it is difficult to draw a dragon and a tiger, it is difficult to draw bones, people know the face but do not know the heart, people's hearts are separated from the belly, what kind of thinking a person thinks, what kind of mind he has, it is not a short time can be seen.
In addition, human nature is complex and changeable, and many people will change when faced with the temptation of interests, so we also need to be cautious in dealing with people, keep our sanity, and don't be calculated.
If you meet someone who calculates you, remember that Ni Kuang once said: "With a calculator, a person who constantly calculates, whether male or female, will not have true love." ”
The person who approaches you and marries you for the sake of profit, when you are unprofitable, he may shift his target, abandon you, and make you rich.
I don't know if it is the TV series of the silly white sweet type heroine who has watched too much, Shen Jianming has a kind of illusion that "the only daughter of a rich family is well protected by her parents, and she is stupid and has more money, and can help my whole family live a good life", and has set her eyes on a girl named Qin Yao in the company, and wants to marry her.
01. How long does it take to change the fate of a large family by myself?
Shen Jianming works in a large Internet company, because of his outstanding performance, very sociable, know how to please his boss, has a strong ability, and his income is not low, with a net income of about 350,000 a year.
In fact, Shen Jianming is a phoenix man, and the situation of the original family is more complicated and bad, which makes him bear great pressure.
"My hometown is in a backward and remote small mountain village, and the young people in my hometown have run out, leaving only the old man and the child. I have a younger brother, three years younger than me, and our brothers are cared for by our grandparents. When I was 6 years old, my parents went out to work, earned money to support the family, and could have lived well, but in my third year of high school, my grandfather had a stroke and was paralyzed in bed, and in order to treat my grandfather, the family's financial situation was even worse. ”
The whole family saved money and saved money for their two sons to study, but only succeeded Shen Jianming. Although my brother is not stubborn and studies hard, he just can't learn it, not the material. So, when my grandfather fell ill, my brother gave up his studies, went out to work after junior high school, and used the money he earned to study for his brother.
As a result, the hopes of the whole family were pinned on Shen Jianming's body. He not only has to solve his marriage problems, marry his wife and have children, but also honor his parents, support his parents who do not have pensions, see elderly grandparents, and solve marriage problems for his brother whose monthly salary has been hovering around five or six thousand.
"They all pinned their hopes on me, hoping that I could take care of the whole family alone, but how difficult it was. Although my annual salary is 350,000 yuan, which is five or six times that of my brother, living in a big city, this money is simply not enough to see. If nothing else, just say buy a house, I once asked the landlord of my rent, the landlord told me, on my community, the house price is at least 30,000 square meters, that is to say, to buy a 100 square meter house, you have to prepare at least 600,000 down payment, the area is not large, at most my parents can live, what about others? My brother is also going to get married and have a house, and he can't afford it, so he has to rely on me. How long does it take to change the fate of a large family by myself? ”
Therefore, Shen Jianming and his parents both thought of a way, that is, through the shortcut of marriage, marry a rich girl back.
02. I chased her for 3 months, confessed 4 times, even if it is an iron heart, it should be moved;
When it comes to Shen Jianming's mate selection criteria, it is not complicated, there are about four.
"First of all, it must be an only child, and those who have sisters do not want it; secondly, they must have a well-off family, and if the family situation is not good, then the salary cannot be lower than mine, and they must earn 30,000 yuan a month." Then, be gentle and sensible, sensible, filial piety, willing to live with my family, filial piety to my family, those who do not live with their in-laws absolutely do not want. In the end, I had to have the consciousness of an elder sister-in-law like a mother, and I was willing to join me in helping my brother and repay my brother for dropping out of school to help me. ”
In the end, Shen Jianming took a fancy to a new colleague of the company 4 months ago, named Qin Yao, who was three months younger than him.
From Qin Yao's dress, including the clothes she wears, the bags she wears on her neck and hands, the small cars parked under the building, and the frequent invitations to others to dinner after work, it can be seen that Qin Yao's family situation is definitely not bad.
Coupled with Qin Yao's lively personality, good at communication, and likes to chat with other female colleagues, Shen Jianming also learned about Qin Yao's family situation after inquiring.
Qin Yao is a local, but also an only daughter, her parents bought two houses in this big city, the income is very high, the retirement treatment will not be bad, which is very in line with Shen Jianming's mate selection requirements, so Shen Jianming launched a fierce pursuit of Qin Yao.
First of all, Shen Jianming successfully added Qin Yao's friends in the name of work, looked through Qin Yao's circle of friends, and determined that Qin Yao was indeed a rich girl.
Secondly, Shen Jianming began to show kindness, expressing his good feelings for Qin Yao, often greeting Qin Yao on the Internet, reminding her of the weather conditions, and when he found Qin Yao uncomfortable, he booed cold and asked for warmth, and sent gifts to Qin Yao.
Finally, Shen Jianming also courted the female colleagues who played well with Qin Yao, hoping that they would help themselves in front of Qin Yao.
Shen Jianming chased Qin Yao for 3 months, confessed to her three times, all failed, which made Shen Jianming feel very incomprehensible: "The gift was rejected, my mother gave me an idea, let me practice cooking, captured her stomach, she also refused to taste the meals I made, invited her to go out to play, and did not agree." What went wrong? ”
03. After receiving a copy of "Double Sided Tape", I understood that it turned out that she was not a silly white sweet in the TV series;
"I have an annual salary of 350,000 yuan and am handsome, why do you reject me?" Shen Jianming confessed 4 times, all of which ended in failure, feeling incomprehensible, blocking Qin Yao's way, and asking her to give a reason.
As a result, Shen Jianming was given a book and got a sentence: "I don't want to be Hu Lijuan, I can never marry a phoenix man, and bet on your sincerity with my marriage and the family business that my parents have worked hard to make." ”
The book that Shen Jianming was given was nothing else, it was "Double Sided Glue", although he had never seen the book, but he had seen the TV series, and naturally understood Qin Yao's intentions.
"It turns out that those silly white sweets in the TV series are all deceitful, and in real life, the girls of this kind of rich family are quite smart, and they can see my thoughts at a glance and refuse to marry me at all."
Not only that, because his pursuit of Qin Yao was quite big, many people knew, which led to many people talking about this matter, and many people ridiculed Shen Jianming, thinking that he was a toad who wanted to eat swan meat, which made Shen Jianming feel very angry.
"Is it wrong that I want to live a good life and stop my whole family from suffering?" If my family is not well off, do I have to marry someone like me and continue to suffer? Why can't I marry a rich woman? ”
04. Instead of regretting it before getting married, shedding tears and thinking about making up for the dead sheep, it is better to look after the sheep at the beginning.
Shen Jianming wants to marry a girl from a rich family, and his idea is very normal, after all, the water flows to a low place, and people go to a high place. In the same way, the girls of rich families also want to get better and better, instead of marrying you and helping your original family, but they make a mess of their marriages, not to mention, and also involve their parents.
Balzac once said: "The so-called love can satisfy everything, but for couples." As for the couple, in addition to the sky as the roof and the greenery as the carpet, there is a need for something more. “
In marriage, there is love alone, it is not realistic, without bread, you will starve to death, how to talk about love, watch the wind and snow?
I advise girls not to be blinded by love like Hu Lijuan, and choose a mate carelessly, which not only harms herself, but also harms her children and parents. Instead of regretting it before marriage, shedding tears, and thinking about making up for the dead sheep, it is better to look after the sheep at the beginning.
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