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"I'm never going to marry a fan again."
This is what the famous singer Geng Weihua said after his divorce.
Once he was chased by a 14-year-old female fan for two years.
In order to catch up with Geng Weihua, the other party also wrote him 11 love letters as thick as letters.
However, none of this impressed Geng Weihua.
But the other party still did not give up, and every one or two months he had to come to Beijing from his hometown to visit Geng Weihua.
This kind of life lasted for two years, and then just when she was ready to give up, Geng Weihua finally "woke up" and finally moved.
I thought that the two would live sweetly together, get married and have children happily.
Unexpectedly, after Geng Weihua spoiled her for 11 years, female fan Zheng Jia filed for divorce.
Geng weihua did everything to keep it, but Zheng Jia was very determined, preferring to abandon her husband and daughter to divorce.
Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia
Geng Weihua, who was heartbroken by marriage, has not been able to get out of the shadow of divorce, and he has pinned his feelings for his ex-wife on his daughter.
Watching his daughter grow up day by day, he told her with tears in his eyes: "If you are in love, don't follow in my footsteps." ”
Now that more than ten years have passed, has Geng Weihua stepped out of the shadow of divorce?
Did Zheng Jia, who once abandoned her husband and daughter, regret it?
1.
In 1996, Geng Weihua, together with Lü Jihong and Yu Wenhua, sang a song "Wind, Wind, Fire and Fire Go Back" on the Spring Evening.
A large audience applauded them, and countless people's attention was on their songs.
Only a little girl who was not yet an adult, her eyes were tightly fixed on Geng Weihua, murmured: "This man is so handsome, I want to marry him!" ”
I thought it was a childlike word, but I didn't expect that she was really obsessed with Geng Weihua, who was 14 years older than herself.
She studied desperately, wanting to be closer to her idol.
So the opportunity came.
In the year when Zheng Jia was admitted to the Military Medical University, Geng Weihua happened to come to Xi'an to participate in the performance.
Knowing that her idol was close at hand, Zheng Jia did not hesitate to ask for leave from school and went to the scene to see Geng Weihua.
Not only that, she also had the courage to rush into the background and ask for Geng Weihua's signature.
However, this did not satisfy her inner love and longing for Geng Weihua.
"Teacher Geng, can you send me a copy of your album?" Zheng Jia plucked up the courage to ask.
Geng Weihua said with some regret: "I'm sorry, the album is gone." ”
At that time, Geng Wei was very popular with Chinese, and his album works were often swept away.
Thinking of the album that did not have an idol in her hand, Zheng Jia was so uncomfortable that she almost cried, and then weakly asked: "Then can I exchange addresses with you?" Rest assured, I will never tell anyone. ”
Geng Weihua didn't want to tell others about his privacy, but when he saw the little girl across from him looking at him pitifully with her big twinkling eyes, his heart softened.
He told Zheng Jia his address.
I thought it was just an ordinary exchange between idols and fans, but I didn't expect their fate to unfold.
2.
Since meeting Geng Weihua, Zheng Jia seems to have fallen into the whirlpool of love, and his mind is full of his appearance.
In her eyes, Geng Weihua has long been not only her idol, but also the man she wants to pursue.
Zheng Jia's action is very strong, and once she has an idea, she immediately takes action.
She wrote a letter to Geng Weihua, and the content of the letter was very large, a total of 11.
All that is expressed in it is Zheng Jia's love and pursuit of Geng Weihua.
At first, when Geng Weihua received the letter, he still felt very special, but when he read the first one, he couldn't read it anymore and directly threw the letter out.
Geng Weihua didn't know how to respond to this little girl who was in adolescence, so he treated it as a fan's love for idols and left the matter behind.
After all, he never thought of having feelings with his fans.
Over the years, he has also talked about many loves, and most of the women are members of their singing group.
He is very specific about feelings, and once he falls in love, he will not let go easily.
Once he loved a woman, had been in a relationship for two or three years, he washed and cooked for her, and as long as the other party had a word of dissatisfaction he would immediately correct it.
If the other person is sick, he will immediately put down his job to take care of his girlfriend.
During that time, he was often referred to as the "best boyfriend."
But even though Geng Weihua paid so much, the other party still proposed to break up with him because of work reasons.
This kind of pain, Geng Weihua did not want to experience a second time, so he put all his mind on work, temporarily did not want to feel feelings.
However, fate is such a coincidence.
Zheng Jia just liked him, in addition to writing to him every day, occasionally calling him.
Geng Weihua originally thought that his non-response was to give her the best response, but he did not expect Zheng Jia to become more and more positive.
Every time I called him, I called for more than an hour.
Zheng Jia is very good at grasping the measure, she never mentions the relationship on the phone, only talks about happy things.
And Geng Weihua also politely answered her phone in the spirit of "a gentleman of men".
Perhaps because of this, Zheng Jia always felt that Geng Weihua seemed to have some interest in her, so she ran directly from Xi'an to Beijing by train to meet Geng Weihua.
When he saw Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua was shocked.
He never imagined that there would be a girl who liked himself, so much so that he could run from his hometown just to meet him.
However, what is more exaggerated is that Zheng Jia's behavior lasted for two years.
Geng Weihua saw that Zheng Jia was getting deeper and deeper into this "illusory" feeling, and he suddenly realized that if he did not personally refuse, the other party would not die.
He really didn't want to delay this enthusiastic little girl.
But Zheng Jia is not willing to admit defeat, age is not a problem, feelings can be slowly cultivated, why can't they be together?
The more Geng Weihua rejected her, the more adept Zheng Jia became.
She did not reject her when Geng Weihua did not refuse her, and still wrote letters every day, still going to Beijing to find Geng Weihua.
She believes that one day, her sincerity will impress Geng Weihua.
But she was wrong.
Geng Weihua found that Zheng Jia was doing business as usual, and he began to close the door to her.
Once Zheng Jia ran far away to Beijing, still carrying the gifts he had prepared for Geng Weihua, but he did not expect to be stopped by the security guards just after arriving at the door of the community.
"Don't look for it, Teacher Geng is not at home."
"Then I'll wait for him."
In this way, Zheng Jia squatted in front of Geng Weihua's door and waited for two hours.
Who knew that there was an unexpected storm in the sky, and it directly rained heavily.
A single little girl was directly drenched in soup chicken, but she still stood in the doorway and waited.
The look in his eyes was full of determination, as if to say: "As long as Geng Weihua does not come out, I will keep waiting." ”
Maybe it's windy, a little cool.
Zheng Jia directly sneezed heavily, and she couldn't bear the rain, so she ran to the security room and said to the security guard: "Can I hide from the rain here for a while?" When Teacher Geng came back, I gave him the gift and left. ”
Looking at this dedicated silly girl, the security guard sighed helplessly: "You go back, he will not see you." ”
"No way, every time I came before, he would open the door to greet me, this time he just wasn't at home."
Zheng Jia's persistence made the security guard very headache, and he had to tell the truth: "Little girl, tell you the truth, Teacher Geng is actually at home, he just doesn't want to see you, otherwise he wouldn't let me stop you at the door." ”
The moment she heard these words, Zheng Jia's heart was like rain in the sky, cold and sad.
Did she do it wrong?
Zheng Jia's whole person was like being hollowed out, and she returned home with a lost soul, and then she had a high fever.
With a fever, Zheng Jia seemed to have thought it through.
She wrote the last letter to Geng Weihua, which read: "Teacher Geng, I am really sorry to bother you during this time, maybe I am too persistent, or maybe I am not good enough, so that you can never be moved by me, but now it doesn't matter, I decided to give up on you..."
Geng Weihua looked at the five big words "I gave up on you", and his heart was sullen and uncomfortable.
At that time, he didn't know that he had already liked Zheng Jia, and he only felt that there was less trouble.
However, there are always times when people regret it.
Since Zheng Jia disappeared from Geng Weihua's world, Geng Weihua felt that his life had become boring.
No one wrote to him, no one came to visit him, and no one gave him a small gift he had made by himself.
At that moment, Geng Weihua realized that Zheng Jia had already become a very important part of his life.
He immediately rushed into the room, took out all the letters that Zheng Jia had written to him, and read them all in their entirety.
The feeling of panic in my heart couldn't help but rise.
He tried to calm himself down, trying not to think about Zheng Jia.
But as long as he calmed down, all of his mind was Zheng Jia's appearance.
Geng Weihua finally affirmed his heart, and he liked Zheng Jia.
In order not to lose more, Geng Weihua immediately called Zheng Jia, first apologizing and then confessing, and even said that he was willing to fall in love with her for the purpose of marriage.
Hearing Geng Weihua's confession, Zheng Jia's first reaction was to hang up the phone.
3.
Zheng Jia couldn't believe that what Geng Weihua said was true, but her heart wanted to believe it.
So she broke through her heart again and ran from Xi'an to Beijing.
This time, Geng Weihua did not disappoint her, he personally went to the door to receive Zheng Jia, full of sincere confession to her.
The two-year love finally came to fruition, and Zheng Jia couldn't help but cry bitterly.
Geng Weihua took her in his arms, his eyes full of her, and said softly, "From now on, I will not make you sad anymore." ”
Geng Weihua did what he said, and the two fell in love for a long time and got married.
After marriage, Geng Weihua did not let his wife shed a tear.
As long as he was at home, cooking and washing clothes was his job, and he was never willing to let his wife suffer.
Once, Zheng Jia told Geng Weihua that he wanted to eat spicy meals.
Geng Weihua didn't say a word, he found pictures of all the spicy dishes from the Internet, let his wife choose, and he would make which one he liked.
After eleven years of marriage, Geng Weihua changed from a famous singer to a "family cook".
Of course, Zheng Jia did not do nothing.
Educating her daughter and picking her daughter up and down from school is her task.
During that time, the couple lived happily.
But occasionally there is some friction.
Perhaps it is the problem of the age gap between the two, Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia have a big difference in the way they solve things.
Once, my daughter had a conflict with her classmates at school, and her little face was scratched and scratched.
Zheng Jia, as a mother, rushed to the other party's house without saying a word, and scolded the other party's entire family.
Geng Weihua, who learned of this matter, dragged Zheng Jia out of other people's homes for the first time, let her be rational, and then go to find someone else when she found out the truth of the matter.
But Zheng Jia had the heart to understand the truth, she only knew that her daughter had been wronged: "Your daughter is injured, how rational am I?" ”
Originally it was a daughter's matter, but I didn't expect the two adults to quarrel.
Not only that, but the couple often clashed over their consumption concepts.
When Zheng Jia is fine, she likes to shop, arrange some flowers and plants for the family, or buy some clothes for her husband and daughter.
Flowers and plants should be bought to look good and easy to raise, and clothes should be bought of good quality.
Although Zheng Jia is indeed for the good of the family, these things she bought are not cheap, and one potted plant is one or two thousand.
This is a very wasteful and unbruly performance for Geng Weihua, who has always lived a very frugal life.
So they often quarreled over this matter, but Geng Weihua never thought of divorce.
He even laughed in the show: "That's all angry words, is it possible to leave?" ”
It is also possible that in 2015, Geng Weihua personally admitted that he was divorced.
4.
The divorce was initiated by Zheng Jia.
At that time, Geng Weihua did not agree to the divorce, and he painstakingly retained Zheng Jia, assuring her that he would absolutely follow her in the future and would never quarrel again.
But Zheng Jia resolutely decided to leave, preferring not to have a daughter or divorce.
Any method was exhausted, and Geng Weihua, who had no choice but to agree to the divorce.
On the day of the divorce, Geng Weihua locked himself in his room and did not come out for an afternoon.
It was already night when he opened the door.
At that time, my daughter was crouching in the doorway of his room.
Looking at her father's red and swollen eyes, her daughter's eyes also became red, and she quietly asked: "Daddy, did Your mother make you sad?" ”
A sentence directly stimulated Geng Weihua's brain, and he directly hugged his daughter on the spot and cried bitterly.
He had always felt that men would rather bleed than shed tears, but at this moment he really couldn't help it.
He never imagined that his marriage would come to this point.
He kept blaming himself, thinking, "Is this retribution?" ”
Once he ignored Zheng Jia, now that Zheng Jia has left him, why does fate torture him so much?
Geng Weihua wiped away his tears and sighed helplessly: "Never find a fan to marry again." ”
Geng Weihua, who was saddled with divorce, began to focus on his daughter.
Every day, he would tell his daughter to get up and go to school, then make breakfast, watch her pack up, and go out to work on her own.
Geng Weihua is well aware of his daughter's lack of maternal love, so he will never interfere with her daughter's contact with Zheng Jia.
Later, someone introduced Geng Weihua to the object.
Geng Weihua also rejected the other party on the grounds that "her daughter will think again when she goes to college".
He regards his daughter as the whole of his life, he wants to watch his daughter go to happiness, and he does not want her to follow her own old path.
In 2021, Geng Weihua sent his "daughter" to marry with tears on the program "Vietnam War and More Courage".
The "daughter" on the program is actually not Geng Weihua's own daughter, but an ordinary person named Yang Lan, who only temporarily regarded Geng Weihua as a father according to the requirements of the program group.
Yang Lan's husband is a security guard at a supermarket, and the two have been in love for ten years.
At the scene, Geng Weihua personally sang for them, and he hoped that they would be happy.
Looking at the "daughter" on the show, Geng Weihua's eyes flashed with tears, as if he saw his own daughter.
I'm afraid that in a few years, his daughter will also walk into the arms of other men.
After the show, Geng Weihua returned home and watched his daughter fold up the washed clothes one by one, and his mind suddenly flashed Zheng Jia's appearance.
There was some bitterness in my heart.
If he and Zheng Jia had not divorced, their daughter would certainly not have worked as hard as she is now.
Geng Weihua sighed helplessly, walked to his daughter's side and said: "In the future, if there is someone you like, you must cherish each other, love each other well, don't follow in your father's footsteps, your father can't always be by your side, you have to learn to protect yourself." ”
His wife left, and his daughter would leave sooner or later, and Geng Weihua felt that he was about to become alone.
Hearing this, the daughter hugged Geng Weihua tightly and said, "If there is such a day, I will bring him to my father and let my father decide, no matter what, I will not let my father be alone." ”
His daughter's words made Geng Weihua's eyes red, and he really wanted his daughter to stay by his side for a lifetime.
On this side, Geng Weihua and his daughter are dependent on each other, and on the other side, Zheng Jia has long become a free little bird.
Perhaps because of the age gap, when the passion faded, Zheng Jia felt that she and Geng Weihua were not suitable.
She never regretted pursuing Geng Weihua so passionately, nor did she regret marrying Geng Weihua to give birth to him.
Now she just wants to live her life well.
epilogue
Love may be a matter for one person, but marriage is a matter for two people.
When we are young, we may be full of spirits and fall in love with someone on impulse, but when you decide to love him, you have to think that this "freshness" will disappear sooner or later.
But love and marriage are not governed by "freshness."
Since you have decided to get married, you must accept the rice, oil and salt in life, and you cannot take marriage as a child's play.
But then again, everyone has their own choices.
Some people choose to move forward hand in hand with another partner in a dull life, and some people choose a more enthusiastic life to escape from the dullness.
Just like Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia.
Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia have been in love for 11 years, although their divorce has broken Geng Weihua's heart, but he has not been lost, he strives to get out of the shadow of divorce and take good care of his daughter.
Now 51 years old, although he is still single, he has long looked down on everything he once had.
Isn't that how life is?
Ups and downs, stability with some waves, people are intoxicated and sober.
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