Geng Weihua
In 2015, Geng Weihua burst into tears in a variety show, and the host Wang Fang couldn't help but shed tears after listening to his story.
As one of the more popular military singers, Geng Weihua has many widely sung songs, such as "Still Warm Home", "Green Military Uniform", "Mother", "The Most Beautiful Hometown" and so on.
Born in poverty, he became an idol of thousands of fans step by step with his own efforts, but he never expected that he would finally plant a heel on a fan.
At that time, he told the story of himself and this 14-year-old fan named Zheng Jia, the two met in 1998 and had more than a decade of married life.
In 2015, Geng Weihua exposed the news that he had divorced, and now after 7 years, looking at the current situation of the two, what kind of living conditions do they have?
01
Geng Weihua, a native of Zibo, Shandong Province, was born in 1970 in a family of ordinary cadres, the youngest in the family, with two older brothers and an older sister, and as an old man, he was loved by his parents, but he also made him mischievous since he was a child.
When he was 5 or 6 years old, Geng Weihua showed his naughty nature when he first started elementary school, grabbing children's toys, climbing the windows of the next house, and not listening carefully to the teacher's lectures in class.
Often called a parent, he also became a "poor student" in the eyes of the teacher, so he arrived at junior high school in such a muddy way, and his parents had planned to let him go out to find a job after graduation, learn a skill that could support himself, or go to the factory to replace his father's job.
At that time, Geng Weihua's brothers and sisters were all better than him, some went to key high schools, some were admitted to college, in that era of insufficient food, it was not easy for a family to produce a college student, but his family produced several.
Therefore, the only child that parents were worried about at that time was Geng Weihua, although he did not expect much achievement in the future, but at least he had to be able to support himself.
However, Geng Weihua did not intend to follow his parents' arrangements after graduation, because at this time he was already deeply in love with singing.
Although the family has nothing to do with the art industry, Geng Weihua is born with a good voice.
At that time, if he wanted to eat by singing, it was simply a fantasy, and his parents could not support him in doing so.
But Geng Weihuacai, who is in a rebellious period, does not care about this, he runs to a library to find music-related books to read, and when he gets books at school, he wants to sleep, and when he reads music-related books, he picks up his spirit and looks at them with relish.
One day Geng Weihua ran to the library to read books as usual, and happened to meet a music teacher, who asked him:
"You come here every day to read music books, do you like to sing?"
After Geng Weihua answered truthfully, the music teacher called him aside and asked him to sing two sentences to listen.
This opening made the teacher lift a very spirit, "The young man's voice can be ah, I will teach you to sing in the future."
Of course, Geng Weihua readily agreed, and happily went home to tell his parents about it.
Who knew that his parents not only did not encourage him, but also gave him a fat beating and said:
"From a young age, you have been told to learn mathematics, physics and chemistry well, and you are not afraid to go anywhere, but you want to learn what music"
This fight has played out the firmness of Geng Weihua's heart, and it is bound to use music to prove that singing can also make a difference.
In this way, Geng Weihua packed his bags and came to Shanghai alone, while working odd jobs to earn money, and then went to the conservatory at his own expense.
But in a metropolis like Shanghai, even in the 1980s, the trivial expenses of life almost overwhelmed the young Geng Weihua, and he even had problems eating after paying the tuition.
Once, during class, Geng Weihua suddenly fainted on the desk, and the teacher quickly carried him to the infirmary, where he learned that he was starving after examination.
The teacher immediately developed sympathy for him and asked him to come to his house for dinner after school.
At that time, Geng Weihua was very touched, holding the belief in his heart, and he must repay this teacher well after success.
In 1985, Lianyungang sang the recruitment of the troops, Geng Weihua did not miss this opportunity, after taking the stage a high song conquered the judges, successfully became a member of the army.
After arriving in the army, Geng Weihua received more hard training, although he was only 15 years old, but at that time his will had already surpassed that of his peers.
Two years later, many people in the singing unit left, and only a few scattered people could only disband.
The following year, 17-year-old Geng Weihua was successfully admitted to the soldier performance team of the Lianyungang Military Sub-district of the Nanjing Military Region as a literary and artistic soldier, but less than a year later he faced dissolution.
Geng Weihua, who left the army again, did not know how to go forward, during those days, he did not spend more than 3 yuan a day, until this winter, when the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe enrolled students, Geng Weihua stubbornly grasped this "straw."
On the day of the registration exam, Geng Weihua sang three songs on stage, each with a high-pitched part, which made the judges at the scene marvel:
"At such a young age, how can you explode into such a high voice?"
After receiving unanimous approval, Geng Weihua finally entered the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe, where Geng Weihua was valued, singing for one year and growing rapidly, and the next year he followed the song and dance troupe to Beijing to perform.
At this time, Geng Weihua, who was a little famous, finally dared to call his parents, and on the phone, Geng Weihua choked up and said to his parents:
"I'm finally on the big stage"
Parents who had always opposed his singing could not help but have tears in their eyes when they learned about it, and they did not expect that among so many children, the first to become famous was the one who was the most disobedient at the beginning.
In fact, his parents have always been worried about him, and after receiving this call, they dropped the stone in their hearts and told him:
"Mom and Dad don't ask you how capable you are, you just take care of your body."
In this way, after experiencing a series of twists and turns, Geng Weihua went more and more smoothly on the road of music, and soon met his first love.
02
In 1989, Geng Weihua had begun to perform with the song and dance troupe, and his fame was getting bigger and bigger, mainly because his singing voice was really loved.
At this moment, a girl who admired him very much confessed to him, and the two of them quickly came together.
However, while his fame increased, he also faced the dilemma of needing to perform around and not being able to often accompany his girlfriend, and later his girlfriend also went to Beijing Television because of her career and became a host.
Ben's two people during the love affair, because the career is often separated between the two places, the long-distance relationship life makes their feelings more and more flat, and they broke up peacefully after less than two years together.
After the breakup, Geng Weihua also focused all his attention on his career, and at that time he earned more and more money, because he often gave money to his parents and was rejected by his parents:
"Save some money yourself, and buy a house and marry your daughter-in-law in the future"
However, at this time, Geng Weihua did not consider getting married at all, and his eyes were full of careers.
Over time, Geng Weihua gradually grew into a well-known high-pitched singer, attracting a large number of fans who liked him.
In 1997, Geng Weihua participated in the CCTV Military Song television competition and won the gold medal and the best newcomer award in the professional group.
But the things that make them more pleased are still behind, this year's Spring Festival Gala, he and Lu Jihong, Yu Wenhua, Li Danyang chorus song "Wind and Fire Go Back", the Spring Festival Gala is a stage that many people dream of, Geng Weihua used music to prove that singing can make a difference.
This made him, who had been scolded and wronged since he was a child, because of his "unprofessional work", completely vent it.
But what he didn't expect was that the appearance of a fan would disrupt his future life.
In 1998, Geng Weihua came to Xi'an to participate in a performance, and Zheng Jia, who was still studying at the Military Medical University at the time, came to the scene as a fan, and it turned out that Geng Weihua was so kind and simple in life, without a little big star shelf.
After seeing the idol, Zheng Jia could not hide the excitement in her heart, and took the initiative to go forward and ask him:
"Can you give me your signature?"
Looking at this little girl who was more than a teenager younger than himself, Geng Weihua did not embarrass her, but said to her very gently:
"Okay for a short stay"
However, the signed certificate was not satisfied, and asked him if he could take a picture.
Geng Weihua still agreed to the request for a photo, but Zheng Jia asked him if he could give you an album.
Geng Weihua said:
"Today's album is finished"
Zheng Jia is not going to give up, "Then you leave me a phone number and address, and then give it to me when you have an album."
In this way, Zheng Jia got Geng Weihua's contact information.
At that time, Zheng Jia was only a teenager, and she fell deeply in love with Geng Weihua because of a song "Green In the Army" sung by Geng Weihua, and the image of a soldier's brother fascinated her.
However, in Geng Weihua's eyes, this is just a meeting with fans, and he does not intend to have any intersection with her life.
However, two months after the performance, Geng Weihua received a letter, a letter to be precise, because there were eleven pieces of paper, which were full of text in neat small letters.
When I opened it, it was Zheng Jia who sent it, and it said her love for Geng Weihua.
Just after reading a little more than a page, Geng Weihua couldn't read it, because he only thought that this was a letter from a fan, and did not think much about it, nor did he consider accepting the pursuit of fans.
And Zheng Jia is 14 years younger than him, and feelings are just a whim at her age, and time has passed after a long time.
However, Zheng Jia did not think so, and after the first letter was written, she wrote a second letter, and every once in a while she would send a letter to Geng Weihua, which lasted for nearly two years.
But Geng Weihua never replied to Zheng Jia with a letter, and the phone call she called did not answer.
Until one day two years later, Geng Weihua answered Zheng Jia's phone, and the end of the phone stumbled for half a day, which roughly meant love for Geng Weihua, but it didn't take long for Geng Weihua to hang up.
Since then, Zheng Jia has often called Geng Weihua, and Geng Weihua has gradually been moved, taking the initiative to tell her about his experience in music or humming two sentences to her.
Soon after, Zheng Jia came to Beijing from Xi'an, and Geng Weihua also invited her to a big meal.
However, if two people stay together and are seen by the media, they don't know what kind of public opinion there will be, and their reputation is not very good.
So Geng Weihua said that he would not meet in the future, and something was said on the phone.
Unwillingly, Zheng Jia still often traveled back and forth between Xi'an and Beijing, but always pounced, and it turned out that Geng Weihua had long known that she was returning, so he said to the security guard:
"A girl comes to me in a moment and you say I'm not home"
Zheng Jia, who has repeatedly hit the wall, may have lost confidence, and when she bought a ticket to go home the next day, she wrote a letter on the car and sent it to Geng Weihua.
It basically means that I won't pestering you anymore.
Unexpectedly, after receiving this letter, Geng Weihua actually had a hint of disappointment and uneasiness in his heart, and the sudden loss after getting used to it made him panic in his heart.
So I picked up the phone and called Zheng Jia, saying only one sentence:
"Would you like to marry me, and if you can, we'll register right away"
Finally impressed by the idol who had pursued for more than two years, Zheng Jia of course immediately agreed, and even couldn't believe that this was true.
The two quickly registered as husband and wife.
However, how sweet it is after marriage, how uncomfortable Geng Weihua is when divorced.
03
One afternoon in 2000, Geng Weihua received Zheng Jia, who had come to Beijing from Xi'an, and the two of them went straight to the Civil Affairs Bureau, where they took her to eat a bowl of fried cold noodles.
You may think about eating bowl noodles to calm down first, think well and then go to register.
However, Zheng Jia said:
"I've already thought about it, let's register directly"
In this way, the two got the marriage certificate, they looked at the red book in their hands, and their hearts were full of emotions...
After getting married, Geng Weihua was very fond of Zheng Jia, after all, she was so much younger than herself, and she had to take care of her and let her do everything.
After getting married, Geng Weihua said to Zheng Jia:
"You chased me for 2 years, I used 10 years to pay you back"
Just like he said, after marriage, Geng Weihua spoiled Zheng Jia as a "daughter", did not need her to go out to earn money, did not need her to do housework, and stabbed Lou Zi to help her settle down.
This happy and sweet life made Zheng Jia have a different understanding of Geng Weihua.
Later, Zheng Jia gave birth to a daughter for Geng Weihua, and Geng Weihua, who loved his daughter happily, treated their mother and daughter as treasures, but Zheng Jia's idol view of Geng Weihua was lost little by little.
Originally, What Zheng Jia liked was Geng Weihua, who shined on the stage, Geng Weihua, who was dressed in military uniform and upright, and Geng Weihua, who sang a high voice at the Spring Festival Gala.
But now, he cooks and takes the children to clean up the housework every day, which has changed a lot compared with the previous idol Geng Weihua.
Perhaps this is called "not knowing the blessing in the blessing", the age gap makes them have a great difference in their concept of marriage and love, Geng Weihua believes that this is her favor, but in Zheng Jia's eyes, it has become not the same as before.
The sweet marriage lasted for 10 years, and at this time, Zheng Jia's heart had begun to change.
Spending a lot of money, a very ordinary-looking dress costs more than 8,000, and Geng Weihua usually has more than a thousand clothes, he does not look at it, at most buys hundreds of pieces of clothing.
Because of this incident, Zheng Jia also quarreled with Geng Weihua and even filed for divorce.
It's just a little bit of life, but such small things accumulate and eventually break out.
The divorce was proposed by Zheng Jia, and Geng Weihua had repeatedly retained it without success, and finally went from a fan to a lover and finally to a passerby.
On the day of the divorce, Geng Weihua was very sad, even the daughter who was only 10 years old could not help but cry when she saw her father's appearance, and on the day of the divorce, the father and daughter cried outside the door.
The nanny at home saw it and quietly wiped her tears.
At that time, Geng Weihua's mother was still eating, and after hearing the news that her son had divorced, tears flowed down her face.
Today, 7 years have passed since the two divorced, and the current life gap is completely different.
After the divorce, Zheng Jia did not take away the children, Geng Weihua has been living with her daughter, when Zheng Jia threw away all the photos about the two, and the daughter secretly picked up a group photo and left it to her father.
During the time of the divorce, whenever Geng Weihua picked up this group photo, his nose would be sour, remembering the bits and pieces of the past, and an indescribable discomfort would come to his heart.
This relationship hit Geng Weihua hard.
Since the divorce, she has not talked about a girlfriend again, and she plans to live with her daughter and not get married again.
Today, Geng Weihua is 52 years old, still living alone with his daughter, and his life is getting more and more dull than before, and he has also performed a lot less in music.
Later, Wang Fang asked Geng Weihua, will you still consider remarrying?
Geng Weihua replied:
"I don't have any expectations for marriage, let alone marry female fans, but the future is uncertain, even if I want to get married, it is until my daughter graduates from college and joins the work."
Love is like a gust of wind, after blowing she will leave, this gust of wind not only takes away the people Geng Weihua loved, but also takes away his expectations of feelings.
However, in contrast, Zheng Jia's life is very different.
After the divorce, Zheng Jia did not feel ashamed of Geng Weihua in her heart, as if the divorce had no impact on her.
Even if the two meet on the road, she can go up and say hello.
Maybe this is the gap brought about by age, maybe he really loved Geng Weihua, but she loved the idol Geng Weihua, not the Geng Weihua in life.
It is said that after the divorce, Zheng Jia remarried, her husband is an outsider, divorced she can still live a two-person world with her current husband, and the matter about her ex-husband has become a thing of the past.
To her, Geng Weihua is like a passerby, but for Geng Weihua, this is a scar that is difficult to erase.
Today's Zheng Jia is only 38 years old, saying that old is not old, saying that young is not young, and now she may understand what marriage is and who is good to her.
After remarrying, she remembered Geng Weihua again, and I don't know if she ever regretted it...