Before reading this article, please click "Follow", which is not only convenient for you to discuss and share, but also can bring you a different sense of participation, thank you for your support
The painful experience of divorce
Geng Weihua sat alone in the living room, staring blankly at a yellowed family photo in his hand. In the photo, he, his wife Zheng Jia and his daughter are full of happy smiles on their faces, and the happy appearance of a family of three makes it difficult to connect it with reality.
However, the story behind the photo is destined for the transience and impermanence of this happiness.
Inadvertently, Geng Weihua fell deeply into the whirlpool of memories. He clearly remembers the first time he met Zheng Jia at an autograph session after a concert. At that time, Zheng Jia was still a young and lovely girl, full of idol worship, and eagerly expressed her inner admiration to Geng Weihua.
The day of the divorce is vivid, as if it happened yesterday. Geng Weihua remembered that her daughter's thin body was curled up at the bedroom door, tears surging down like a torrent of bursting embankments, and she cried out to her mother helplessly and desperately, but in exchange for only a deafening silence.
As a father, he was powerless at that time, but could only watch his daughter endure this merciless trauma, and watch her innocence be destroyed by life.
In retrospect, Geng Weihua was simply embarrassed. He was supposed to be a strong backing for his daughter, but he was speechless at a critical time, allowing his wife and daughter to suffer such torture.
A father has even neglected basic protection, and this incompetence and self-blame are destined to become the deepest pain and regret in his life.
After all the hardships, it finally succeeded
Recalling the past, Geng Weihua's memory involuntarily returned to the most struggling and combative years of his life. For the sake of his music dream, despite the opposition of his family, he quit his iron job in desperation and came to the conservatory of music alone.
When he first stepped into the academy, he was aware that he had started late and that if he wanted to make a difference in the field of music, he had to put in more and harder work than his peers.
Therefore, from dawn onwards, he came to the piano room early, cleaned the whole room spotlessly, and immediately devoted himself to daily practice. And when the night fell and the other students left, he still lingered tirelessly in the piano room to study his skills.
Nothing is more difficult than the lack of living expenses. Once, he was hungry and could only pick up the buns from the leftover restaurant on the side of the road to satisfy his hunger. This scene was seen by the teacher who happened to be passing by, and the teacher almost burst into tears, so he took the initiative to warmly invite him to his home for breakfast every morning.
As a man in the prime of life, Geng Weihua shed tears like a helpless child at that time.
Such days lasted for a long time, but Geng Weihua never revealed his predicament to his family, for fear that they would worry about it, which would affect his determination to pursue his music dream.
As long as he can finally realize his dream, he will not hesitate to work hard.
In this way, relying on his innocent love for music and tenacious will, Geng Weihua finally passed the most important hurdle in his life. In 1987, he joined the Army Art Troupe for the first time; In 1991, the Cultural and Art Troupe of the Political Department of the Second Artillery Corps of the Chinese People's Liberation Army finally threw an olive branch to him and invited him to join.
In that place where the artistic elite gathered, Geng Weihua worked hard, worked hard, studied every song seriously, and finally became famous in 1997 with the Air Force song "Green Military Uniform" and became a well-known singer.
After Geng Weihua became famous, he naturally attracted a large number of fanatical fans. Among these fans who are obsessed with him, there is a girl who looks at him differently and follows him tirelessly - she is Zheng Jia.
The acquaintance of the two dates back to the concert held in Xi'an. Zheng Jia, who was still a young girl at the time, was obsessed with idols, and traveled thousands of miles just to see the demeanor of idols.
After the concert, she boldly came to the hotel where Geng Weihua was staying, begging him to give him an autograph and leave a contact information.
In the face of such a sincere and enthusiastic fan, Geng Weihua was inevitably a little flattered. Deep down, he had a faint sense of complacency and joy, so he happily signed his name on the record.
It's a pity that all the records on hand at that time have been given away, so I can only solemnly apologize.
Unexpectedly, Zheng Jia ignored it, but took the initiative to leave his contact information, hoping that one day he would be able to get the news of the arrival of the record as soon as possible. This is clearly a young girl's enthusiasm for her idol, Geng Weihua was moved by this enthusiasm, and couldn't help but be amazed.
Since then, Zheng Jia has sent a letter full of heart to Geng Weihua every week in the form of brush writing, hoping to win the favor of idols one day.
Gradually, Geng Weihua unconsciously became accustomed to Zheng Jia's existence in life, but out of consideration for her future, he never responded positively to Zheng Jia's overtures.
Until one day, Zheng Jia followed the news to Beijing, staring at the window of Geng Weihua's house in the pouring rain. This scene shook Geng Weihua's heart, and he realized that Zheng Jia had such a deep affection for him, so he proposed to her without hesitation.
In Zheng Jia's excited response, the crazy lovers got married.
On New Year's Day 2000, 32-year-old Geng Weihua and 18-year-old Zheng Jia entered the palace of marriage. Their ages are very different, and their living customs are very different, but in the joy of the newlyweds, it all permeates the sweet atmosphere, as if it will never fade.
The life after marriage was quite happy at the beginning, and the two got along quite tacitly. But as time passed, the contradictions accumulated between them gradually became exposed.
The huge differences in living habits and the lack of effective communication are slowly corroding their feelings like a drop of water through a stone.
As Geng Weihua, who has been living in poverty since he was a child, thrift and cherishing blessings have long been internalized into his life philosophy. In contrast, Zheng Jia grew up in a relatively privileged environment, and the concept of money can be said to be careless.
The differences between the two on this point are particularly stark. Geng Weihua would feel extravagant for a dress of more than 8,000 yuan, but Zheng Jia didn't care about it.
In addition to these details of daily life, the bigger rift comes from their different positioning of the family. Geng Weihua regards the family as a whole, and family members should be considerate and tolerant of each other.
But Zheng Jia only regards her family as a part of her personal life, she longs to be understood and cared for, but rarely empathizes with other people's thoughts.
The biggest gap between the two is the educational concept of treating children. Geng Weihua is just an ordinary person with a junior high school education, and it is difficult to give his daughter more academic guidance.
And Zheng Jia also complained about this, thinking that her husband could not establish a correct outlook on life and values for her children.
Such disagreements accumulated more and more in married life, and finally broke out in a quarrel in 2015. At that time, when their daughter had just left home to go to school, Geng Weihua and Zheng Jia had a heated dispute over the cost of a child's living expenses.
The initial contradiction gradually spread, and it seems to shake out all the unhappiness of the years.
"You don't respect me at all, what do you think of me?!" Zheng Jiasheng asked hoarsely.
"It's you who don't respect this family at all!" Geng Weihua was furious, and he didn't have time to care about the wording.
All of a sudden, everything went haywire. The two seemed to confide in each other for several years, as if they had finally waited for an opportunity to pour out.
"Divorce!"
In this way, after an endless quarrel, Zheng Jia neatly packed her bags and destroyed the marriage certificates and photos of the two one by one. And Geng Weihua sat in place, as if he had aged by more than ten years overnight.
Only then did I realize that the happiness that once existed between them was actually illusory and fragile from the beginning.