"You enrolled in a new school bag, someone to get you;
Your flowers in the rain fold umbrella, someone hit you;
You love to eat three fresh fillings, someone gives you a bag;
Tears of your grievances, someone wiped you..."
How many people cried in a song called "Mother",
And its original singer Geng Weihua failed to save her mother for her daughter.
Geng Weihua's wife had been pursuing him bitterly for 2 years, and once stood outside the door in the heavy rain and waited for him in the rain.
After the two were finally together, she gave birth to a child and resolutely left.
Even the photo will not be left, what happened to make this woman so desperate?
"Dad, I'm not going to school, I'm going to learn to sing."
As soon as Geng Weihua entered the door, he threw down his school bag, and he leaned back in his chair with a big grin, looking fearless.
"You're crazy! What is the best way out of singing? Your brothers and sisters are all in college! Only you have not let us worry about it since we were young! If you don't go to school and have no culture, you won't want you to do anything! His father was furious, and his fingers were trembling as he pointed at Geng Weihua.
"I don't care! Anyway, I can't keep up with my grades, so I love to sing "This son is really here to collect debts!"
Geng's father was so angry that he didn't sleep all night, the son didn't teach the father's fault, no matter how muddy the son was, the father must also be responsible for him.
After much thought, he decided to retire early and give up the factory quota to his son to take over, and he couldn't really do nothing without going to school.
Hard times blossom into the flowers of dreams
Geng Weihua was not a family member, and was stuffed into the factory with his head,
Here he lives a boring life every day, and this factory will have a fixed literary and artistic performance.
Geng Weihua actively sang on stage every time, and he felt that he could sing for his co-workers under limited conditions and be welcomed by them, which made him feel very proud.
However, after all, this is not a real literary and art group, and more time is busy, which makes Geng Weihua feel painful and unwilling.
So he secretly ran to the door of the conservatory, wanting to buy this professional material and take it home for self-study.
When he passed the classroom and heard the teacher lecturing, he stopped and listened,
In the future, whenever he has the opportunity, he will come to observe,
Finally the teacher was impressed by his concentration and persistence,
Willing to teach him for free, just eat and live to solve himself.
Geng Weihuasheng was afraid that the teacher would repent, so he turned around and went to the factory to submit his resignation.
He had almost no luggage, and negotiated with the school to live in the piano room and make a bunk.
Father knew that he had quit his job, so angry that he almost fainted,
Pointing at him and scolding him several times, "Filial piety!!! ”
Thrown out of the house along with his clothes.
In this way, Geng Weihua took up residence in the school's piano room,
Every morning after getting up early to practice in the piano room, he went to the classroom again.
It's just that the living environment here is too poor, mosquitoes are rampant in summer, the room without air conditioning is sweltering and unbearable, there is no heating in winter, he spreads his military coat to the ground, and the moonlight in the wet and dark room looks more and more lonely on his face.
Because he had almost no income, he secretly picked up the leftover buns of others in the shop and stuffed them into his mouth, turned around and ran.
Once, he was seen by the teacher who got up early for morning exercises, and after understanding his situation, the teacher would let him come to the house every morning for breakfast and then go to class.
It lasted for a long time, and the kung fu paid off.
In 1987, Geng Weihua was admitted to the soldier performance team of the Lianyungang Military Sub-district of the Nanjing Military Region.
Coming here, Geng slapped his fist for Hua Mo, and he finally had the opportunity to show his skills,
Every day he got up first to finish his housework, but in the canteen he was the last to arrive.
At any moment, he had to seize the opportunity to practice singing.
Who would have thought, due to the disarmament of the troops, the performance team was disbanded in more than a year.
Geng Weihua was assigned to a grass-roots company and worked with his comrades-in-arms every day.
In addition to daily training and standing guard, they grow their own vegetables, but also to help their fellow villagers to catch pigs, mow grass, the life of the troops is hard and monotonous, Geng Weihua often asked himself", "Is this the life I want?" ”
Those who dare to change will always succeed
He knows that if he wants to change the status quo, he has to jump out of this circle.
In 1988, he was admitted to the Nanjing Military Region Song and Dance Troupe, and after more than a year of training, Geng Weihua went to Beijing with the troupe the following year to participate in the all-army literary and artistic performance.
After seeing the wider sky, Geng Weihua decided to stay in Beijing.
After the Spring Festival in 1991, Geng Weihua waited for the telephone notice of the examination of the Cultural and Labor Corps of the Political Department of the Second Artillery.
Because it has just finished the Spring Festival, catching up with the boom of rework, the place where the train can stuff luggage is also full of people.
Geng Weihua curled up in the corner, he couldn't even drink water, afraid that he would have no place to stay when he came back to the toilet.
No matter how harsh the environment, he could not shake his pursuit of singing.
Later, he succeeded and successfully entered the second cannon to become a solo actor.
In the army, there are too many people who are better than him, and if he wants to get ahead, he must learn to work hard.
Every day before dawn he practiced in the distant playground, when his monthly income was very low.
I found several comrades-in-arms to borrow money to buy a tape recorder, and I wanted to go to the teacher to record the songs I learned during the day, and he wore headphones again and again after the lights went out at night.
After years of polishing, in 1997 Geng Weihua brought a song "Green Military Uniform" to the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and after he became popular, he received many commercial performances.
This time the performance was held in Xi'an, and after the end, Geng Weihua went to the hotel to rest.
There was a knock at the door, and outside the door stood a teenage girl,
"Hello Teacher Geng! I am a student of the Military Medical University, my name is Zheng Jia, I am your fan! ”
The girl who reported herself at the door looked at the idol with a look of adoration.
"Hello" Geng Greeted Hua politely, and after taking photos and signing, Zheng Jia asked Geng Weihua to give her a tape as a souvenir.
Unfortunately, it was delivered today, "Then you leave me the phone number!" ”
Geng Weihua saw that the other party was just a little girl and very sincere, so he wrote down the phone,
He did not expect that this meeting today would allow him and Zheng Jia to plant the seeds of marriage from then on.
After that, Geng Weihua often received letters from Zheng Jia, unlike other people's letters.
Zheng Jia wrote a good hand, he opened it with great interest, only read one page and put it down,
A dozen pieces of paper full of expressions of admiration for him,
Geng Weihua felt that Zheng Jia was too young, and he did not think about this at all.
He intended to treat her coldly and ignore her.
Who knows that Zheng Jia persevered, she insisted on Hongyan intercession, Beijing and Xi'an are far apart,
She came by train to see Geng Weihua every two months.
Rao's heart is hard and can't help but be moved by her persistence,
So Geng Weihua met with her at a distance, urging her to return to Xi'an as soon as possible every time, focusing on her studies.
"I like you, very serious, I hope to follow you forever," Zheng Jia confessed to him again.
"You're still too young, don't think about these messy things," Geng Weihua didn't care.
After returning home, Geng Weihua received a call from Zheng Jia, and she will come to him next month.
Geng Weihua explained to the security guard in advance, "If someone comes to me, I will say that I am not there."
It was pouring rain that day, and Zheng Jia stood in the rain, her tears were already mixed with the rain, and she didn't know how much was flowing.
Finally, the security guard couldn't look down and told her the truth, she was very sad,
This time she turned around and left without nostalgia, and wrote a farewell letter when she returned home.
"I won't bother you anymore, we don't have any more entanglements"
When Geng Weihua saw this line, he suddenly panicked,
Scrambling to pick up the phone, dial the familiar number
"Zheng Jia, let's get married, would you like to?"
Heavy rain witnesses each other's sincerity
In this way, the two people took back their former words and quickly became a couple together.
In 2000, Geng Weihua accompanied Zheng Jia home to meet her parents.
Because of the age difference of 14 years, Zheng Jia's father did not agree at first.
Geng Weihua showed sincerity, personally cooked every day, and finally won the favor of the old man,
After returning to Beijing, he and Zheng Jia lived like ordinary couples.
After the two were together, Geng Weihua still focused on work.
Zheng Jia loved literature, and Geng Weihua encouraged him to write lyrics for himself
"You see, this is the real husband singing with the woman, and in the future my songs will be written by you."
"You write down the words in your heart, I will sing them, others know how much envy us"
Zheng Jia, who was encouraged, began to write, adding incense to the red sleeves in the small study every night, and Geng Weihua felt that this moment was the most reassuring time for him.
At this time, his work was very busy, and he once again appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and the singing of "Wind and Fire" and "Flower Good Full Moon" were very high, resulting in the couple often gathering less and leaving more in private.
After a long time, Zheng Jia felt that no one in the world of the two was comfortable, and she felt that geng Weihua had a big contrast between private and on stage.
She once bought back a dress of more than 8,000, and was loudly accused by Geng Weihua after knowing the price, saying that she was extravagant and did not know how easy it was to make money.
But Zheng Jia is also very aggrieved, this dress was bought for Geng Weihua and not worn by herself,
After the two people had a big fight, Geng Weihua coaxed her for a long time.
She didn't know that Geng Weihua was used to living a hard life, no piece of clothing exceeded 800 yuan, and 8,000 was too luxurious for him.
Not only that, after Geng Weihua took his parents from his hometown, Zheng Jia and her mother-in-law also looked at each other unfavorably.
Zheng Jia felt that what she couldn't use had to be thrown away, and the province occupied the place.
And the mother-in-law watched the good things being thrown away, don't mention how painful it is,
So their family often staged a situation of throwing garbage and picking up the rags.
Geng Weihua knows the contradiction between his mother and his wife, he is busy working and refereeing to break the housework, there is no way, in order to avoid the escalation of the contradiction, he can only send his parents back to his hometown.
Not only Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua himself was exhausted by the toss,
He comes home from work and mops the floor, buys vegetables, cooks and washes clothes.
Because Zheng Jia doesn't like to cook, she doesn't even want to wash her clothes, and the best thing she does is to give these to Geng Weihua to do.
Until 2004, when their child was born, it was a beautiful little girl.
Zheng Jia, who upgraded to be a mother, has changed, and she has put more energy into her children.
Although she will still spend a lot of money, but no one will say anything about her when she buys it for her children.
She also shouldered the education of her children, because Geng Weihua only had a Chinese in the first year, even if she later got a college diploma in the army, compared with his wife who graduated from the Fourth Military Medical University, the knowledge reserve of the two people was not a star and a half.
After having children, their contradictions are more,
Even for the sake of what children wear today, there is a possibility of quarreling,
Zheng Jia is in a bad mood, Geng Weihua is not good at coaxing people, every time he gets angry, Zheng Jia will shout out "Divorce!" ”
After more times. Geng Weihua's temper also became grumpy, and he began to drop things without moving.
"Divorce is it! Well, fulfill you! ”
This time they dropped their marriage certificate.
"Jiajia, just for the sake of the child, I promise not to lose my temper in the future, let's live well in the future, okay?"
"Wife, the child really can't do without you, I can't do without you, obedient, we don't make trouble"
"Zheng Jia, really I beg you, our family is less than anyone, do you want me to kneel down and admit your mistake before you are willing to give up the divorce?"
Repeated quarrels have made Zheng Jia tired of her life now, "there is no possibility of turning between the two of us"
Geng Weihua's painstaking retention did not make Zheng Jia change her mind, she packed up all the things related to the two and moved directly from here.
Years are hard to beat
In April 2015, they went through divorce procedures, and the custody of their daughter was here in Geng Weihua.
After returning home from the Civil Affairs Bureau, he locked himself in his room for an afternoon without going out.
The daughter knew what was going on between her parents, and she squatted in the door of her father's bedroom, buried her head in her knees, and her shoulders shook and sobbed.
She was a child of a single-parent family, and she didn't have a complete family.
Geng Weihua did not know how to explain things between adults to his daughter, he often heard her sobbing at night, and could only do his best to enlighten her.
Sometimes work is busy until one or two o'clock in the morning, and when he comes home, he also has to go to his daughter's room to see her and help her cover the quilt.
Until half a year after the divorce, he once walked into his daughter's room as usual.
Just wanted to help her lift the quilt, suddenly skimmed to the table a family portrait,
He didn't expect his daughter to secretly hide a photo, he thought it was all put away by Zheng Jia and thrown away.
In an instant, his emotions collapsed, and his daughter didn't say anything, but her heart must have been very uncomfortable.
She has suffered the hurt she has suffered from the people she loves the most, but she still chooses to love her parents deeply.
He turned and went into the room, put himself in the quilt, and cried silently.
Is for myself and for my daughter,
He was sorry for such a sensible child, and he was sorry for his wife,
He didn't have time to hear much about her inner world,
He failed to do a good job of fatherhood and husband responsibility, he really tried his best,
He really wanted to do everything well, but it backfired and he hurt the people who loved him again and again.
Geng Weihua's parents knew that their son was divorced, and they took a train from their hometown to Beijing to visit their son and granddaughter.
The two elders are more than 80 years old, holding their granddaughters in pain and wiping their tears, even on the train home, the old lady has been in tears.
In 2016, Geng Weihua participated in the variety show "People's Spring Festival Gala".
Although the marriage is over, but the days are going to go on, he once said to a friend, "I will not be with the fans again"
As for whether he will be exposed to new relationships, Geng Weihua said that he will wait until his daughter goes to college.
The evaluation of friends around geng Weihua is industrious and simple and responsible, he uses singing to convey love but does not open his wife's heart, now 51 years old, he and his daughter rely on each other for their lives, let us wish him less bumpy life in the future, more joy.