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Text: Northern Lights
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Preface
Is the chase of love really as romantic as the plot?
The girl who was deeply attracted to idols back then and traveled thousands of miles to pursue her sweetheart, can she really grow old together in the end?
Can persistent love really overcome all the tests of reality?
This true story that happened to singer Geng Weihua and his wife Zheng Jia may give some answers.
Love at first sight
In 1997, Geng Weihua became an instant hit after singing the lyrical song "Wind and Fire Once" at the Spring Festival Gala and became a well-known singer.
This heroic singer in a green military uniform deeply attracted the attention of Zheng Jia, a student of Xi'an Military Medical University.
A year later, in 1998, Geng Weihua was invited to come to Xi'an to sing.
Zheng Jia had already become an avid fan of his, and rushed to the hotel in high spirits.
At the autograph session, she was deeply shocked by the idol's deep eyes, and her inner infatuation was surging.
Emboldened, Zheng Jia asked for a photo with Geng Weihua and asked for an autographed album, even though he had no albums to sell at the time.
Regardless of Geng Weihua's embarrassment, Zheng Jia also asked for his contact information.
She was too young at the time to know that this would be the beginning of an entangled relationship, and she didn't expect that she would be the idol's wife.
I can't sleep at night, and my thoughts linger
After leaving the hotel, Zheng Jia held the idol's number in her hand and was in infinite ecstasy.
That night, she couldn't sleep all night, and wrote a full 11 pages of affectionate letters with a brush, sincerely and warmly expressing her infatuation with Geng Weihua.
When receiving Zheng Jia's letter, Geng Weihua was quite surprised.
It was really unexpected for an ordinary fan to be so obsessed with it.
He didn't reply immediately, and secretly worried that it was just Zheng Jia's impulse and the blind worship of youth.
But Zheng Jia persevered and continued to confess warmly through letters and phone calls.
Seeing her so persistently harassing herself, Geng Weihua began to pay attention to the insights on music in her letters, and looked forward to every call from her.
The communication between the two has gone from shallow to deep, from music to life, and the topics have become more and more extensive.
Surprisingly, Zheng Jia showed quite maturity and stability in the letters, which made Geng Weihua feel warm, and he even began to pay attention to her study and life.
Geng Weihua was sincere to Zheng Jia
Although she repeatedly refused, after patiently listening to Zheng Jia's sincere words, Geng Weihua was still moved by her persistence.
Most of his concerns about the 14-year age difference between the two have also been dissolved.
Despite this, he still didn't want to hurt the youth of this simple girl, for fear that he would regret "raising tigers for trouble" in the future.
But Zheng Jia is like the heroine of an idol drama, full of fearlessness and romance, believing that "love and courage will eventually overcome everything".
In order to see her sweetheart with her own eyes, every two months, she would make a special trip to Beijing, just to meet Geng Weihua.
For this reason, she even bought a property in Beijing, just to be closer to her idol.
Once on a pouring rainy night, Zheng Jia rushed thousands of miles to Geng Weihua's community, waiting in the rain, hoping to meet him.
But Geng Weihua, who had already taken precautions, instructed the security guards not to let her in.
Zheng Jia had no choice but to toss and turn, waiting in the wind and rain all night until dawn when he left in embarrassment.
A few days later, Geng Weihua received a "letter of resignation" from Zheng Jia to him, saying that she would never disturb his life again.
Reading this painful text, Geng Weihua felt heartache and realized that he had already been deeply moved by this persistent woman, and he also had sincere love for her.
He resolutely opened his heart, called Zheng Jia in person, and solemnly proposed to her.
The newlywed Yan'er's life is full of mysteries
In this way, with the consent of both parents, Zheng Jia married the idol Geng Weihua with joy.
In order to make up for his previous indifference to Zheng Jia, Geng Weihua did his best to take care of all the housework such as cooking and laundry after marriage.
In 2004, the two gave birth to a lovely daughter and lived a happy life.
However, behind the happy marriage, this couple with a 14-year age difference, the generation gap is gradually emerging.
Zheng Jia was born in a wealthy family and has been favored by her parents since she was a child.
Geng Weihua, on the other hand, came out of a poor family and experienced an extremely difficult growth environment.
Geng Weihua's original family is a family of six, completely dependent on the meager income of his parents working outside.
Growing up in this environment, he developed a bohemian and not very pragmatic personality.
In school, he was always at the bottom of his grade, and the dean of students often asked his parents to go to school.
Later, out of desperation, Geng Weihua could only drop out of school to work in a factory to make a living.
But he was born with an extraordinary talent and a passionate love for music, and soon quit his job to pursue his musical dreams and came to Shanghai alone to study music theory.
During those days, in order to devote himself to studying, Geng Weihua could often only eat other people's leftovers to satisfy his hunger.
On several occasions, he fainted in the classroom due to excessive hunger, and was found by the teacher and had to feed him before going to class.
But in the end, with his extraordinary talent and diligence, Geng Weihua joined the army art troupe, and his singing level became more and more sophisticated, and he created a number of excellent lyrical works, among which "Green Military Uniform" became an instant hit, and he also became a popular singer all over the country.
The parents from poor families did not have time to see their son's musical attainments and missed the most precious time.
And Geng Weihua's habit of thrift and thrift, which he has cultivated in a poor environment since he was a child, is in stark contrast and divergence with the extravagant and profligacy habits that Zheng Jia brought from a wealthy family.
Once Zheng Jia took a fancy to a brand-name men's coat priced at 8,000 yuan in the mall, and thought that her husband, as a singer who was popular all over the country, should buy a more decent dress.
But when he went home that night, Geng Weihua was furious when he saw the price of the coat, and the two broke out into a violent quarrel.
The undercurrent of conceptual differences is surging in the line of defense of love
Zheng Jia's parents have been spoiled since she was a child, and she naturally developed the habit of spending money and spending lavishly.
Geng Weihua has developed a thrifty attitude towards life from the difficult environment during his studies.
After marriage, although Zheng Jia took care of all the housework such as cooking and laundry, and shared her husband's worries, she also had opinions about her husband's excessive frugal spending habits.
There are huge differences between the two in terms of life philosophy and values.
The husband and wife often find each other incomprehensible because of their words and deeds, and the contradictions continue to accumulate, and the quarrels become more and more intense.
Sometimes I get angry and say a cruel word of "divorce" in anger.
But at that time, none of them took it seriously, only as a momentary battle of will.
However, as time passed, Zheng Jia was no longer fascinated by Geng Weihua's aura, and gradually recognized the ideological differences between the two due to differences in origin and growth environment.
In 2015, Zheng Jia ruthlessly filed for divorce, asking to break off all this with Geng Weihua, and not giving him any room to maneuver.
Divorce is ruthless, love is more than hate, father and daughter snuggle and cry bitterly
After going to the Civil Affairs Bureau to complete the divorce procedures, Zheng Jia completely disappeared from Geng Weihua's life.
That afternoon, a heartbroken Geng Weihua locked himself in his room and cried bitterly for a whole afternoon.
The daughter knocked on the door and saw that he would not come out.
It wasn't until dusk that Geng Weihua walked out of the room with difficulty.
As soon as the daughter saw her father's haggard face, the father and daughter hugged each other tightly and wept bitterly, as if at this moment they were left with each other.
From then on, only the two of them depended on each other.
After this traumatic divorce, Geng Weihua had to come out of the haze, and he had to cheer up again for the sake of his daughter.
Since then, he has devoted all his energy to raising his daughter, trying to make up for the impact of his child's original family.
Later, in an interview with the media, Geng Weihua admitted frankly that he would not have a new love life for the time being, at least until his daughter went to college.
As for remarrying, he shook his head and said, "I won't look for female fans in the future." "
Now 53 years old, he is still alone, buried in work and taking care of his daughter all day long.
epilogue
The attachment of love often comes from the blind obsession of idolatry, but marriage is realistic and cruel after all.
Zheng Jia pursued persistently and finally achieved a 14-year marriage, but they parted ways due to huge differences in living habits and values.
Persistent love failed to overcome the cruel test of reality, leaving a lonely and desolate figure like Geng Weihua.
Happiness and well-being often come from a high degree of tacit understanding and recognition between husband and wife for life and the future.
Without this, even the most romantic and moving love stories will inevitably usher in a regrettable ending.