Someone in the readership threw up a question: If the other party can't tolerate my "work", then does he really love me?
This question just reflects a certain phenomenon in love - the girl who loves to do it always feels that no matter what she does, how willful she is, as long as the person loves herself, she will choose to tolerate and tolerate.
Some people feel that men should be naturally generous and tolerant, rather than seeing women in general.
So, why do women "do"? It is nothing more than getting the love and favor of men, which is actually a manifestation of wanting to attract the attention of others.
But everything is too late, "doing" too much, it is easy to cause men to resent, thinking that your work is a manifestation of immaturity, this immaturity is not enough to bear future responsibilities with him.
Because I love you, infinitely tolerate your "work", and firmly accompany you, similar plots may only exist in film and television dramas.
Just like the Lin School in the TV series "The Rest of Your Life, Please Give More Advice", the two major taboos of male-female communication are all occupied by the Lin School. Fortunately, Lin Zhixue met the perfect boyfriend Gu Wei - a man who can explain misunderstandings at any time, know empathy, and tolerate her infinitely. If you change someone, it is estimated that this love will not live for more than three months.
I advise you, don't learn from the Lin School, the two taboos that the Lin School touched in love, I hope you take this as a warning.
First, there is no sense of distance between friends of the opposite sex
From the heartbeat to the confession, the emotional development between Gu Wei and Lin Zhi School is relatively rapid, especially Gu Wei, who met the girl who made her heart move to become a "love brain" in seconds, and made many changes for Lin Zhi School, and life habits, hobbies, etc. can give way to love.
In addition, Gu Wei always felt that Lin Zhixue was a "little friend", and he thought of her everywhere in his interactions, tolerated her, and let her go.
Lin Zhixue enjoyed Gu Wei's love with peace of mind, but forgot that even if he was a mature and stable man, he would have many small emotions in the face of his lover, such as: he could not accept that his lover was too close to the other opposite sex.
Lin Zhixue and Shao Jiang have known each other for many years, studied music under the influence of Shao Jiang, and they have many common memories, and Shao Jiang has indeed given Lin Zhixue a lot of encouragement.
But the relationship between the two is only a friend, and Lin Zhixue did not have a clear bottom line with Shao Jiang when he knew that Shao Jiang liked him and did not want to give up.
There is a scene in the play like this:
Lin Zhi School and Shao Jiang rehearsed together, Gu Wei went to the practice room to pick up Lin Zhi School for dinner, Shao Jiang asked to go together, Lin Zhi School did not think about it and agreed, not feeling at all that this was a two-person world that Gu Wei squeezed out time to buy, and there should not be a third person to join.
The three of them went to the place where Lin Zhixue used to go with Shao Jiang, and when ordering food, Lin Zhixiao and Shao Jiang "recalled" the past, talked and laughed, and completely forgot about Gu Wei next to them, let alone taking into account Gu Wei's emotions. When he realized that Gu Wei was sitting next to him, Lin Zhixue only joked: You may not understand what we are saying.
Indeed, Lin Zhixue was frank and frank, and only regarded Shao Jiang as a brother in his heart, but in the face of Shao Jiang's blatant likes and confessions, shouldn't he keep a distance from him?
Gu Wei tried to attract the attention of Lin Zhixue for this purpose, and finally told her that he was jealous.
As a lover, Gu Wei has achieved true maturity, stability and respect. And Lin Zhixue is not a qualified lover at this point.
One of the taboos of male and female interaction is that there is no sense of distance between friends of the opposite sex.
Love is exclusive, if he loves you, he will definitely be jealous and sad, and will doubt in his heart whether you do not love him so much, and will be inferior... A series of negative emotions will make him withdraw from love.
Good lovers can detect their partner's negative emotions in time, examine their own words and deeds, and give their partners peace of mind with actions.
In the interaction with friends of the opposite sex, know how to maintain a sense of distance, try not to cause misunderstandings from lovers, do not create trouble for love, and will not test each other with this.
It is this "responsible" attitude that makes love more stable and solid.
Second, I like to think wildly and make things out of nothing
The second taboo against intersex intercourse is that they like to think wildly and make things out of nothing. This point is reflected in lin school, which often makes people feel inexplicable.
Yin Xi and Jin Shi broke up, Jin Shi told him about the grievances he had suffered in love in front of his classmates, such as Yin Xi forcing him to wear couple clothes, forcing him to show his love, forcing him to show his circle of friends, having a temper tantrum and not moving to mention the breakup, everything had to be managed by him, etc., such as conjoined baby-like love made Jin Shi feel suffocated.
The breakup of lovers who have been in love for ten years has a great impact on Lin Zhixue, and her low mood and doubts about love can be understood.
However, Lin Zhixue put himself in it, thought about it wildly, and was angry in his heart, tentatively asking Gu Wei's attitude towards this.
Unexpectedly, Gu Wei pointed out to the point that no one in love wants to be forced to be managed, everyone is an adult, and should have their own private space, rather than sticking together twenty-four hours a day.
When Gu Wei said this, he did not target anyone, but only discussed the matter and expressed his own views.
Who knew that Lin Zhixue took the initiative to enter, thinking that Gu Wei did not like to stick to him, did not like him so much, and so on.
After some wild thoughts, coupled with Yin Xi's sadness because of the breakup, at the instigation of Xiao Shan, the three of them went to the bar to drink and vent.
In front of strangers, Lin Zhixue complained about Gu Wei--thirty years old, if he is not still single, it is I who saved him, otherwise he will be doomed to be alone for a lifetime.
This was really hurtful, and with Gu Wei's conditions, he wouldn't be alone for a lifetime without meeting Lin Zhixue.
Gu Wei was indeed very angry when he saw Lin Zhi School getting drunk, but he quickly calmed down and took Lin Zhi School home, even if Lin Zhi School continued to get angry and got out of the car halfway, Gu Wei still asked her what was wrong with her.
Under Gu Wei's unremitting efforts, Lin Zhixue said the reason why he was angry.
This alone will mark Lin Zhixue as "doing". Originally two people have nothing to do, happy to fall in love, because the friend lost love analogous to themselves, and therefore angry, who can stand such a lover?
In the adult world, everyone is very busy, there are many ways to solve problems, you can communicate, you can express your thoughts bluntly, this is the love of adults.
Lin Zhixue fortunately met Gu Wei, who liked to explain misunderstandings and was emotionally stable, and the emotional crisis between the two was resolved again and again.
In real life, if one party is always thinking wildly and lacks the ability to think independently, it will only push the lover farther and farther away, after all, explaining these trivial and boring things is really consuming.
Seeing each other's love, understanding his heart, and receiving his overtures, you should put away your worries and get along in a way that is comfortable for both parties.
The more the two sexes interact, the more they love, the more they can't touch the "taboo" - there is no sense of distance between them and the opposite sex, and they like nothing.
Some of the ways in which Hayashi schools love is very naïve, she can meet her own Prince Charming, only because of the protagonist's aura blessing.
I advise girls in the real world, if they want to have a long-term stable love, do not learn from the forest school.
Feelings need to be maintained with heart, good love is not easy to come by, tolerance, understanding, trust, support, respect, these factors are indispensable.
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