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Recently, watching the TV series "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life" starring Yang Zi and Xiao Zhan, I was really deeply touched by the sweet plot inside.
Gu Wei, the doctor played by Xiao Zhan, is honest and kind, sincere and warm, not only good-looking, but also very respected and welcomed in his career and personality.
Lin Zhixiao, played by Yang Zi, is still a college student, lively and cheerful, and is a very loving innocent girl.
The emotional connection between two people, the spark of love produced is warm and sweet.
Although the two of them had an age difference of several years, Gu Wei was delicate in his mind, mature and steady, and could give Lin Zhixue the correct values and give her a sense of security. Lin Zhixue's vitality, kindness and bravery also gave Gu Wei a lot of strength and support.
Many people focus on Lin Zhixue's immature personality, feel that she and Gu Wei are destined to be full of generation gaps, and feel that such love is unrealistic. But I think that "Please Give Us More Advice for the Rest of Your Life" portrays many plots delicately and realistically, fits the most innocent appearance of love, and shows us a very beautiful side.
Good feelings, nothing about a person's age, no relationship about a person's personality, no trade-offs about real material interests, but like is like, no need to delve into what to think about. Mutual attraction, mutual appreciation, mutual achievement of love, this is a very sincere and warm place in the relationship.
01. Whether a person is worthy of love is not about age, but about his sense of responsibility and responsibility.
In real life, many people will feel that age is an obstacle in their feelings.
For example, many people's prejudice against older women, many people's one-sided understanding of the age gap.
We think that with the increase of age, love becomes more and more difficult, because people are rational and realistic, in the life of chai rice oil and salt, love is not the only one, we need to consider the door to the door and the time and place of the people and the problem.
The love between a 30-year-old man and a female student in his early 20s is inevitably suspected and pointed out, feeling that it cannot withstand the test of realistic setbacks, and after all, the feelings are not strong.
But after all, feelings need to be heartfelt, and two people need to pay their hearts to maintain, which is the most powerful guarantee for the perseverance of a love.
Here, what needs to be considered most is not the age gap of a person at all, but the problem of a person's sense of responsibility and responsibility.
Because even if a person looks young and promising, if he does not care about you at all, and does not sincerely like you, such feelings are still not strong.
Just like Shao Jiang, the brother of Lin Zhi school in "Please Teach More for the Rest of Your Life", he looks younger and younger than Gu Wei, and he is already a well-known violinist at the age of 22, but compared with Gu Wei, he may not be more suitable for Lin Zhi School than Gu Wei.
Shao Jiang lacks that firm love belief in Lin Zhixue, if he really likes Lin Zhixue as he says, he will certainly maintain close contact with her during his study abroad, but Shao Jiang is more of a verbal oath, and his performance in action is not as sincere as Dr. Gu.s.
Gu Wei is very delicate to Lin Zhixue, he will notice her emotions to comfort her, he will also care about her body to take care of her, and he will give her guidance when she loses the confidence to practice, which is a very detailed and touching place.
Not just talking, but really making Lin Zhixue realize that she is valued and deeply loved. Such a responsible and careful and warm Dr. Gu is really the ideal perfect lover.
I still think that the love that begins with the heart is the most beautiful and worthwhile, just like Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue, who really like someone and don't care about her personality and age.
Two people appreciate each other, grow, hold you tightly with his hand, and go on a more complete journey of life, which is the best form of love.
02. A person's patience with you is a very necessary thing in the relationship.
Mr. Yang Dai has a sentence that goes like this:
If one day you ask me, "Can we stay together until we are old," I will answer you with "you can, I can."
The unwavering feelings must be the result of mutual trust and mutual tolerance and understanding between the two.
Life fluctuates and changes, and we really can't guarantee how long our feelings will last. But I always believe that those who bring a relationship to the end must pay their true feelings and patience.
The personalities of two people do not have to be similar, the habits of two people do not have to be synchronized, like one person, will not deliberately emphasize each other's shortcomings, nor will they ask each other to change their habits to cater to the other party, because this will be tired.
In a stable relationship, it must be that both parties will consolidate the harmonious place over and over again, and will also self-converge and reflect on their shortcomings, and will not deliberately nitpick.
Just like Gu Wei and Lin Zhi school. Both of them must have flaws.
Many people feel that Lin Zhixue is not worthy of Gu Wei, because she is childish, which will cause him trouble and make people feel too unstable, so many people feel that the mature and rational Gao Huan is more worthy of Gu Wei.
But I don't think so, because love is like people drinking cold and warm self-knowledge, not everyone will use the material eye to weigh the weight.
Gu Wei Ailin's school, love is her frankness and cuteness, love is her bravery and kindness, these qualities are still very precious compared to other women who are intellectually elegant and intelligent.
And Gu Wei likes Lin Zhi's school, and is more tolerant and patient with her small family temperament, which will be part of the love house and Wu, which is also the connotation of love that is very important and beautiful:
I like you, I will not dislike you, we slowly get better together, slowly run together, don't care about other people's eyes, the key lies in how we maintain this relationship.
Perhaps, it is also this firm strength in Gu Wei's body, warm heart and patience with his lover, that will get the love and respect of so many audiences.
Isn't that how love is? Where there are so many rules and regulations, as long as I like, I will unswervingly love, overcome the prejudice of reality, we work hard together, we love simple and sincere, in order to love more securely.
03. No matter how busy a person is, he is willing to take time out of you, which means that he really cares about you.
Teacher Yang Dai said:
There will always be someone who will change themselves and put down the bottom line to cater to and indulge you. It's not that I'm born with a good temper, but I'm afraid of losing you, so I'd rather spoil you more and more badly, trapped in my arms.
Meeting someone who is willing to tolerate you and understand you is something to be cherished.
How many people in real life have not neglected family love for the sake of busy work? Always take no time as an excuse, always feel that you are unreasonable and too ignorant?
A person who really loves you will plan you in his own time, and if he doesn't love you, he will feel that how you look at it is troublesome and cumbersome.
In the TV series "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", the reason why we like Gu Wei is because he is a person with a correct view of feelings and a warm personality.
No matter how busy he is, he will also take time to see Lin Zhixue's sick father; no matter how busy he is, he will also take time to call Lin Zhixue; between vacations, he will also plan time to accompany Lin Zhixue.
A person can share the busy time gap with you, which is the best proof that a person really loves you, he really loves you, and he will not tire of surrounding you and giving you caring companionship.
People who really care about you will not take the time to reject you. He spends his time on you, two people to experience, to live, to live abundantly, this is the truth of emotional preservation in reality.
Write at the end.
The love between Gu Wei and Lin Zhixue is controversial. However, in the drama "Please Give More Advice for the Rest of Your Life", the real and heart-warming emotional details are the most healing places.
Many people are attracted by the gentle temperament of Gu Wei, which makes people believe in love again.
Reality is too anxious, we see love more and more utilitarian, and the love concept of this drama also gives us a lot of positive energy.
Who says loving someone necessarily considers age and door-to-door right? If you can really meet the person who truly loves you and tolerates you, he is steady and responsible, he is self-motivated and kind and just, you may wish to feel and accept with your heart.
I hope we can all meet that beauty, that innocence.
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