Author:Ai Wen (Emotional Self-Media Person)
If you have been hurt by your feelings, if you have plunged your life into darkness because of a relationship, then you should always ask yourself:
In this life, the purpose of my life is only for this relationship?
The people who pay attention to me are usually people whose feelings have been hurt, and who are difficult to heal after being hurt. Presumably, some of the usual persuasions can no longer solve the problems they encounter, so for such people, sometimes they need a kind of enlightenment.
If you can't get out of a hurtful relationship for a long time, the focus of attention at this time must be taken out of the relationship and placed in the whole life to see the problem.
If life is 100, then feelings are about one-third of the proportion in our lives; and those who fall into it after encountering emotional damage are magnifying the proportion of feelings, and even regard feelings as the whole of life - why your life is hopeless, because your feelings have long died.
So, after a relationship has "died", you have to zero it, but your life is not, if you want, when the feeling is zero, life can just return to one hundred percent, but before that, you must completely give up everything, the so-called "put to death and then live".
Why do we fall into some kind of confinement, in fact, there is no one thing in the world that can really confine ourselves, and if there is, the only thing is only our own heart.
Therefore, those whose lives are killed by feelings are all people who care too much about feelings in their hearts, and even regard feelings as the only thing in life, which is not difficult to understand.
Why in the face of emotional hurt, so many people can't lift and put it down - because your heart is too heavy; why so many people feel hopeless - because feelings have declared death, and life itself has lost its meaning.
Only from this perspective of understanding can you find for yourself a key to open a new door of life, to get yourself out of darkness and despair.
There is nothing that cannot be discarded, nothing that cannot be put down and cannot be given up.
No matter how heavy the feelings are, are they still more important than the parenting grace of their parents? In my lifetime, I don't know how to repay my parents well, but instead because of a person who hurts me, a relationship that hurts me, and tosses myself into this, is it worth it?
How many years have passed since their dignity has been wasted by others, and others have completely ignored themselves, not that they are worthless, but just because they have wrongly paid people, is it worth it?
No matter how heavy the feelings, are they heavy on health and life, long-term depression and depression, are huge harm to a person's body and mind, and once this harm is caused, it is irreversible, and it is too late to regret it in the future...
These are actually the most superficial truths, but why do so many people not recognize them; why do so many people recognize these crude truths but have to do the opposite.
Wake up, those who have completely confined themselves because of a relationship, the prison of the soul, if you do not want to break, is indestructible; if you want to break, it is a finger.
What hinders your happiness, makes you miserable, falls into the abyss, you have to let go, you have to give up, no matter how much weight this thing weighs in your mind.
A rich man, carrying several large boxes of gold and silver jewelry across the river, boat to the river, the bottom of the boat suddenly leaked, someone advised the rich man to throw away the treasure, reduce the weight of the boat, perhaps to escape this disaster. But the rich man was distressed by the gold and silver jewelry, and was reluctant to throw it away, and finally, he sunk into the bottom of the river with the treasure in his arms.
Everyone who sees this story will laugh at the unwiseness of the rich man, but how many people are actually the embodiment of the rich man.
What really made the rich man sink the bottom of the pond was not the hole in the bottom of the boat, but the box of heavy treasure.