She never thought that her child would cry all day long, and she never thought that it would be so difficult to feed her child herself.
Qianqian smoothly gave birth to a big fat boy of 7 pounds and 8 pairs, and there was no side cut in the smooth birth, and the family was very happy. Unexpectedly, before the person was discharged from the hospital, Qianqian cried until he collapsed.
It turned out that on the second day of birth, the child had jaundice, and the doctor said that it would be better to eat more and more rows. Who knows that the amount of milk is not enough, and the child keeps crying.
In order to ensure breastfeeding, the stubborn Qianqian refused to add milk powder to the child.
The next day the child's jaundice index went up, and the doctor said he was going to be hospitalized. At this time, Qianqian felt that it was all his own harm: "If you feed your child milk powder, you don't have to go to the hospital, don't you cry, don't you have to leave me... I did it all. ”
Since then, Qianqian has become crying, anxious, sensitive, suspicious, coupled with the discharge, every day to take care of the child, serious lack of sleep, have deepened her emotional burden.
What's more, every time she breastfeeds, she can ask for half a life, and every time the child sucks, she is in pain and sweat, tears are flowing, and her body is trembling. It is not an exaggeration to say that he is being tortured.
The unsmooth feeding also made Qianqian constantly deny himself: I am a mother, even the child can't be fed, what else can I do?
If the child cries again at this time, it is all his own fault, he is a waste...
Gradually, she became less interested in anything, like living in a sealed plastic bag, suffocating every day. She knew she was stuck in postpartum depression.
However, at this time, the evaluations she received were all
- How can your psychological quality be so poor
I'm so tired of earning money outside that I'm not depressed, and you're depressed when you have a baby
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When these words came, Qianqian collapsed, and one night, she held the crying child and raised the knife...
Fortunately, her husband found that something was wrong, so there was no major incident, and the doctor diagnosed moderate to severe postpartum depression.
Because of hormonal changes, there are also interruptions in the rules of life, insufficient sleep, coupled with the support of family members... For other reasons, about 80% of postpartum women will experience postpartum depression and serious development into postpartum depression.
Postpartum depression, learning to care for yourself is the first step
1. Be gentle with yourself
You can let go of being harsh on yourself and not have to strive for perfection. Acknowledge your limitations and accept that you are a mother who is not perfect, but has been learning, growing, and improving.
2. Resume social interaction
If you have the conditions, you can go out and chat with friends, and being alone can relax our body and mind
3. Ensure sleep
Ensuring adequate sleep can help us stabilize our mood,
4. Look for support
You don't have to do everything yourself, family, lovers, hourly workers, and sisters-in-law can help you get rid of trivial matters.
For children's problems, find professional help in a timely manner.
Emotions really can't be resolved, you can also find a professional psychological counselor for help.
We are first ourselves, then the mother, and only when we are good can the children be good.
For the family, being a supporter behind her is the most important step.
Please tell her that it is not her fault and accompany her through this difficult time.
Taking care of the child with her, sharing her stress, and facing it together is the most important thing you can do.
Life is like this, hard forward, there will always be dawn.