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The days with the baby are always a few joys and a few sorrows. Some children may be born to repay the favor, quiet and well-behaved, never get into trouble, the mother is very worry-free. And some children, I am afraid that they are born to take revenge, all kinds of mischief, toss their parents enough.
A few days ago, colleague Xiao Mo poured bitter water in the office and complained that his children were under-beaten. "That kid always likes to hide things. When I got home yesterday, I found that the jewelry box was missing, but it contained my real gold and silver jewelry! I really thought it was a thief in the house. Xiao Mo was scared enough.
Still Xiao Mo's husband bystander Qing, said: "Ask your precious daughter, he likes to hide things the most." Sure enough, Xiao Mo's gold and silver jewelry was quietly hidden under the sofa by his son.
Xiao Mo was angry and funny, and asked his son why he hid the jewelry. The son smiled and replied, "I think it's funny!" "That boy, he just under-beats!" This is Xiao Mo's final summary.
Having had parenting experience with two sons, I was also a mother who objected to this. I told Xiao Mo: Don't compare the thinking mode of children with adults, in our opinion, children deliberately hiding things is mischievous and unreasonable. But in the eyes of the child, in addition to finding it interesting, it also means that he has a strong curiosity. This is a manifestation of self-exploration in the process of children's growth.
"Do you still think this is a good thing?" Xiao Mo asked me back. I am sure to tell Xiao Mo that this is a good thing, a manifestation of the child's brain development is healthy and smart.
In fact, it is not just hiding things, many "absurd" behaviors in the eyes of adults are the manifestations of children's intelligence and extroversion.
▼ Tearing paper when I was a child, I broke up my family when I grew up
Regarding the destructive power of children, I believe that mothers who raise children have a deeper understanding. My family's big treasure, the second treasure, when it was seven or eight months old, there were all kinds of naughty behaviors, tearing paper, throwing toys, and when it came to freedom of action and running and jumping, the skills of demolition were about to catch up with the "professional demolition team".
To this end, I specifically asked professionals, how can we eliminate the destructive power of children? Unexpectedly, professionals told me that the child's demolition behavior is the embodiment of the intellectual development of the brain. In this way, they explore causality, and curiosity prompts them to understand the internals of objects. If I am rude and strictly stopped, it is not a good thing for the child's intellectual development.
▼Imitate the behavior of adults and wear adult shoes
Many mothers have a similar experience, children can walk, put their own cute shoes without wearing, always like to wear adult shoes. My family's big treasure seems to be particularly keen on doing this, even wearing my high heels, "snapping" at home, adults are afraid that they will wrestle because the shoes are not suitable, but the children themselves are happy to dance.
Not only that, but children seem to love to imitate all the behaviors of adults, such as adults stir-frying, adults eating, etc. In fact, imitation is a big challenge to the ability that children set for themselves. If they want to complete this series of imitation actions, they have to use their brains, think about how to imitate to be more like, and invisibly exercise their thinking and behavior ability.
Of course, children have these smart outward performances, and parents must learn to guide them correctly while stopping them.
How to guide your child correctly?
First of all, in the face of imitation children, parents should seize their imitation sensitivity period, respect the child's actions and behaviors, and do not stop or laugh at the baby.
At the same time, imitation needs positive guidance, and parents should filter out some negative information for their children. For example, violent cartoons, dangerous actions, etc., set a positive example for children, meet children's desire to imitate, and increase children's passion for imitation.
The imitation period is also a learning period, and children can learn various life skills by imitating their parents and the family around them. Conditionally, you can also provide some scene props for the baby, so that the baby can imitate the adult in the rich and interesting game scene, through such a role-playing opportunity, broaden the baby's horizons, increase the baby's insight.
In addition, in the face of children who have demolished their homes, the parents' educational mentality must be good, because you may face the scene of chicken feathers at any time. Simply stopping and scolding is meaningless to the child, and if you are not careful, you will snuff out the child's angry little flame, is this not a waste of the child's talent?
For children who love to tear down their homes and engage in destruction, parents should learn to see the education of stitches and needles, after all, life is full of learning. Tell the child what can be dismantled, because there is something inside, what things cannot be dismantled because of danger, and what serious consequences will be caused by dismantling.
In addition to gentle preaching, parents are encouraged to buy some props and toys with strong hands-on ability to satisfy children's desire to explore details, so that they can find happiness in disassembly and make continuous progress.
Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator, has a saying that goes like this: To cultivate educators, like planting flowers and trees, we must first understand the characteristics of flowers and trees, distinguish between different situations to fertilize, water and cultivate education, which is called "teaching according to aptitude".
I hope that all parents can master the educational skills of "teaching according to their aptitude", so that every gifted and intelligent child will not be "strangled" in the cradle of dreams.
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