Under all the happy life, there is some unknown heartache.
However, after surviving those "heartaches", life will really be successful.
When people reach middle age, they are the most bitter age, but if you learn to cut the door hard, everything will be fine.
01
Tighten your wallet and leave your deposit.
There is a saying in Zhihu: "At a certain age, I suddenly found myself beginning to live carefully, calculating every dime, and beginning not caring about face." ”
Yes, there is no money, what life do you talk about, where is the face. Walking on the steep slope of life, your pace is supported by money, otherwise you will roll down and fall to the bottom.
Friend Adou said one thing: on Valentine's Day, he came home from work, and there were flower sellers along the way, pulling him along. He said that if he had to use flowers to express true love, then he chose cauliflower, and after seeing it, there was an extra bowl of vegetables at home.
The flower seller let go and turned his gaze to the little young ones.
If a middle-aged man does not have enough money to spend, then the most romantic thing in his family is to talk about how much income there is and how good the opportunity to make money is.
"Improper home, do not know that chai rice oil and salt is expensive", tightened the wallet, refused to "buy, buy and buy", every month there is a deposit plan, then after ten years, there will definitely be a lot of money, so that people will no longer panic.
02
Tighten your feelings and keep your happiness.
On one forum, netizens "cautiously" said that he was 35 years old and his wife was 31 years old. Originally, they had a happy family of three, but since the wife went to several class reunions, she became unruly.
One day, he checked his wife's call logs and found that there were two abnormal calls during work hours, and after the call, the wife said "to the party" and then went home until the second half of the night.
Netizens said: "For several days, it is difficult to sleep, as soon as I close my eyes, I think of the messy picture, the whole person is going to collapse, is it a showdown, or hold back?" ”
As the saying goes, "No wind, no waves." ”
Between husband and wife, once they are jealous of each other, it is difficult to live a life. However, when people reach middle age, they really need a powerful helper, and this helper is best their lover.
Tighten your feelings, don't easily give to the wrong person, don't be destroyed by the "third party", this is a problem that middle-aged people must face.
Normalized communication, pleasant getting along, separation of time concerns, sincere greetings, holiday travel... Let two people open their hearts and yearn for happiness.
"There are few misfortunes for women and husbands, and filial piety and fatherhood are wide", in addition to the feelings of husband and wife, we must also tighten the feelings of the big family, and at the critical time, only relatives will help you.
03
Tighten the social, the circle is clean.
True friends must be "less and more refined".
Those who go to socializing two or three times a day are actually going through the circle. Pick up the wine glass, take turns drinking with the people at the feast, and then say "lost", go to the next place, and push the cup with another group of people.
At the urging of alcohol, he said a lot of nonsense, and the next day he woke up confused, not knowing that in the clouds and fog, he couldn't remember anything.
"Friends have more roads to go", is a famous saying, but can not blindly believe. True friends need to exchange benefits, at least they need to exchange courtesies.
Instead of trying to seduce others, it is better to find a way to make yourself bigger and stronger.
"If you bloom, the butterflies come from", people with their own fragrance, wherever they go, will make people shine, and have full confidence and cooperate with people.
The social interaction of middle-aged people should pay attention to cleanliness, rather than generalization. As Chen Guo, a university teacher, said: "The motivation for socializing is the relationship of interests and the practical relationship in the future, using the tools he uses by others, or the mutual warmth of a group of lonely people." ”
04
Tighten the time and strictly self-discipline.
The ancients said, "Between the heavens and the earth, if the gap between the white colt is sudden, it is suddenly over." ”
Before I could feel young, I was already old, my white hair was quietly bubbling up, and my wrinkles were already deep.
If you don't know how to cherish time, then you are doomed to achieve nothing.
If you go to a class reunion, you will find that people of the same age have been in the society for more than ten years, and they have pulled away.
You think that your family is too thin, and your parents have no ability, which affects the future. In fact, this is not the case, behind all the successes, there is a great plan, all of which are the same for ten years.
There are many people in all walks of life, but there are very few people who can survive to the end. If you want to achieve great things, you have to "survive", and when others can't survive, you will naturally be outstanding.
When people reach middle age, you must have a strict schedule, you can turn time into money, and you are the winner in life.
The time is too thin, the finger seams are too wide, how can you do it without tightening?
05
Tighten education, and children will be blessed.
Socrates said, "Education is not indoctrination, but lighting a flame." ”
As a parent, how can you not hope that your son will become a dragon and your daughter will become a phoenix?
However, how to educate children is indeed a headache for middle-aged people.
Smart people will be children's friends, and find ways to guide children to have the desire to pursue wisdom, and stimulate the child's own motivation.
Firmly grasping the child's nature and the direction of development, step by step guidance, is more important than scolding, punishment and control. The method is right, everything is right.
In middle age, cultivate good children, and when you are old, whether you can get good filial piety or not, at least your heart will be very comfortable, and you will also be immersed in the happiness of the family's increasing prosperity.
06
Liang Shiqiu wrote in "Life Is Nothing But That": "Man's life begins in forty. It seems that forty years ago, it was just a few supporting plays, and the good plays were all in the back, and I think this was related to health. ”
What is health? It does not refer to physical health alone, but more to mental health, emotional health, future health, and healthy ways to spend money.
A person who is strong in martial arts, but does not know how to control his own strength, can only do low-level physical work.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, if they want to live as much as possible, they must live more and more sharply, and do not spend time and energy on meaningless things.
We must understand that only by cutting it can we keep it; only when we keep it can we last a long time.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.