In the process of chasing girls, it is indispensable to chat, but these five performances will make you quickly lose your charm, and boys must read it to prevent them from stepping on the pit later.
First, constantly expose the sense of need
Some boys will ask," what exactly is the sense of need?" Just like you like a girl, you will constantly want to get close to her, want to chat with her, all kinds of good performances in your words, when your sense of need is getting stronger and stronger, the more you want to let this girl like you quickly, you will involuntarily lower your posture to please the girl. But if you do this, girls will dislike it more and more. Because the essence of love is not to rely on chasing, but to attract, doing such a bargain when attracting girls will only make girls feel that you are not attractive.
Second, don't start by confessing
No matter what kind of confession, it is always based on the premise of attraction, and without the confession of attraction existence, everything is hooliganism and meaningless. And confessing first will make the relationship between the two of you unequal, which is equivalent to giving up the initiative first. To put it more simply, you give the initiative of the whole game to the girl, and everything is decided by her. The next development, you have no way to control, confession is the final victory of the horn, not the charge of the attack.
Third, constantly doubt and deny yourself
There are some boys who have a favorite girl, waiting for girls to reply every day as the top priority, staring at the mobile phone screen every day expecting girls to message. Because they can't master the rhythm of chat, girls can't raise their interests, don't reply to messages for a few days, and even when they disappear, they will be uneasy inside. Tell the girl, is not where I do not do well enough, I will change, where I provoke you are not happy, are you angry and the like, the girl will feel that you are very annoyed after seeing it, you must know, the inner and outer have a strong aura of the boy has a market, the girl will not like that kind of only promise no position look, do men should have their own framework.
Fourth, often defend yourself
For example, if you communicate with your superiors, the leader will not explain to you, but you will explain to your leader. This is because people with a low sense of value will explain it to people with a high sense of value. In the same way, when chatting with girls, it is the same, and many boys explain it to girls like writing small essays. At this time, girls may not have finished watching it, in fact, they don't want to watch it. Many boys are obsessed with reasoning with girls and try to convince girls, which is a very wrong and unconfident performance. When you try to use this logic to convince girls, the other party is likely to refuse.
Fifth, take the initiative to offer courtesy and blindly show goodwill
Many boys in the process of chatting with girls, as long as the girl message is sent over, the first time seconds back. In fact, this is also a very cheap move, which will make girls think that you are very idle and have nothing to do. More importantly, throughout the chat process, blindly show kindness. For example, if it is cold, do you wear more clothes and feel bad? I'll invite you to dinner, or I'll pick you up from work." This series of tian dog talk to girls is like the slaves who served their masters in ancient times, and only people with low status will go to court people with high status. If you do this in the chat, it will only make your status and sense of worth lower. How can a girl have a crush on you?
The emotional path is not smooth, but also needs to be slowly tasted and run into each other. In the process of chatting with girls, we must be gradual, we must not be too hasty, but we cannot be steady and steady, this scale you must learn to grasp. In the communication with girls, if you also have the above problems, pay close attention to correcting, or the girl you like will only leave you.