1.8 Zi said: "If a gentleman is not heavy, he is not powerful." Learning is not solid. Lord faithful. Those who have no friends are inferior to themselves. Don't be afraid to change it. ”
If a gentleman is not heavy, he is not powerful. Heavy is self-respect, in the words of moderation is "caution and fear", according to ZengZi's words is "like walking on thin ice", in the words of our current people is to pay attention to their own image, pay attention to speech and behavior, and cannot be casual. Heavy, but also the meaning of thick, thick, thick and moral carrier. Majesty, not fox false tiger might, not bluff, but Tarzan appeared in front, and its majesty manifested itself. This is sincere in the middle and outward in form. And there were exceptions, those sages of the Wei and Jin dynasties, outside the wandering skeleton. Some of the great practitioners of Zen, such as Ji Gong, were also insane. But deep inside, it is extremely solemn, and there is a pure heart, so the root is still inside.
Back to myself, I dress very casually, talk a lot of times, like to joke, that's not heavy. But there is no solemnity and sincerity in the hearts of Ji Kang and Ji Gong, which is what individuals need to change.
Learning is not solid. Confucius said, "Don't be mean, don't be stubborn, don't be me." Solid, is stubborn, stubborn, stick to the rules. Not solid, just not so stubborn. Especially when getting along with people, you can listen to each other, you can accept the good suggestions of others, and if you have done so, you can change. In terms of learning, being able to talk is an open life, a life that can be touched by Xingfa, and a life that can move others. Life is fluid, alive, and can be connected with things, with people, and with one's own heart. Not solid, is not insensitive, is to continue to learn and reach.
If it is said that learning is not solid, and the previous sentence "a gentleman is not heavy, he is not powerful" is a submissive relationship, because a gentleman is not heavy, not self-respecting, and frivolous. He has no majesty. Nor can the knowledge it learn be deeply entrenched. Casually shaken. Gentlemen are poor, villains are poor, and they are indiscriminate. According to this management understanding, it is also feasible.
This brings a paradox, do we want to be "fixed" or not? This is the middle way, not in place, just not enough. Overdone, too stubborn, ego, that's over. The Middle Way is nothing wrong. You see, this is where the classics are more interesting —the Tao, the Very Tao. There is no way to objectify, to fix, to logical, to dogmatize. Once it becomes a dogma, the problem is big.
This is a big reminder for a person who loves to read books to come to books. Is what we have learned solid? Whether it is in place, many times it is shallow taste, dragonflies point water. In returning to the spirit of our lessons, have we been able to choose the good and be stubborn? Every weekend, all kinds of things interfere, sometimes I think, stop once, it doesn't matter, we always find reasons for ourselves.
Lord faithful. Lord, with so-and-so as the main. To be a man of the world, to be faithful. This is what Zeng Zi said when he reflected: "Seek for others and be disloyal, and make friends without believing?" "Loyalty, in the heart." Believe, believe in people.
In fact, we will follow the meaning of the previous two sentences. The Lord's faithfulness is to hold on to the weight, to strengthen his heart. To believe in words is to choose good and be stubborn. In the heart, it is also the choice of good and stubbornness.
Those who have no friends are inferior to themselves. Don't make friends with people who are inferior to you in every way. This sentence sounds a little hurtful at first glance, is this person too snobbish, is he looking down on people? Let's cut the words, what is a friend?
Not everyone comes over and becomes friends. Two people feel each other, make friends first, do not rebel against the heart, so as to become friends, it can be said that they appreciate each other. What is mutual appreciation is that the other party has a place worth learning and admiring. Friends are very precious, not at the wine table, drinking a meal is a friend, wine and meat friends, not real friends.
If you are threesomes, you will have my teacher. Choose what is good and follow it, and change it from the bad. A humble person, he is always able to see the shining points in others and learn from them. It can be said that a person who is good at learning, all the time, is everywhere to learn. From these words, we can see the continuity, continuity, and omnipresence of the Master's way of learning.
In terms of making friends, those who have no friends are inferior to themselves are also the law of a gentleman who holds a heavy weight, and it is the law of a gentleman who adheres to morality. You see, this is the same thing.
Another solution. To be like oneself is to be honest with oneself. If you are inferior to yourself, you are a self-deceitful person, and you do not be friends with such a person, even if you make a friend, if you find that he is such a person, you will break off relations with him. Insincerity is nothing, sincerity in Confucius gate is a very core idea.
There is also a solution, that is, "inferior to oneself", that is, not similar to oneself, that is, the Tao is different, and it is not conspiratorial. Friends of the same door, comrades know friends. If you don't have the same ambition, there is no need to be friends.
Don't be afraid to change it. Confucius's biggest evaluation of Yan Hui was "not to be angry, not to be angry." "In a person's life, it is impossible not to step on the pit and not make mistakes. The key is whether to admit it in time and correct it in time after committing it. This is very important, in fact, it is a lack of understanding, a lack of awareness, or it may be that the preparation is not in place, timely adjustment, timely correction, and walking on the right path, which can be described as a great good thing. In Buddhism, there is also a saying that "put down the butcher's knife and become a Buddha". As the saying goes, there is also a prodigal son who does not turn back to gold. It is not so easy to change, it is very subtle, and it requires the work of self-denial and self-examination.
Fear is a word that we need to pay attention to, very important. In some aspects, human nature is not honest enough, that is, it is easy to cover up their faults, and many times they cannot afford to lose and make mistakes. In particular, some well-known people do not dare to make mistakes, for fear of making mistakes.
Similarly, this is also a kind of persistence and stubbornness in choosing the good, adhering to morality, not afraid of losing face, personal image or something. If you make a mistake, you make a mistake, and you don't hide it. The courage to admit and correct can gain people's respect and trust.
I am in the dating, in fact, is very vague, in the end those people are my close friends? Is it possible to communicate with each other, to have common aspirations? Such a reflection is really shocking!
Gentlemen are not so good at being, they should be self-sufficient. Self-respect, prestige is sufficient; if you do not study and do not progress, you become an old stubborn, and you are no longer a gentleman. Don't deceive yourself, don't deceive others, be sincere. Gentleman, the sky is evaluating, the people around you are commenting, you are also commenting, there is one place that is not passed, you can't become a gentleman. However, it is not a mistake that cannot be made at all, and if you know your mistake, you will correct it and return to the gentleman. What if you knowingly commit a crime and do it when you know it's wrong? The hypocrite himself knows that he is a hypocrite, and if he does not change completely, he will be isolated from the gentleman forever. Loyalty, first of all, is the middle of the heart, the middle way, the right way, and naturally there is loyalty.