Chatting with her girlfriend in her spare time, she said that her children were "hopeless" and were particularly worried about their children's future. It turned out that the five-year-old girl of the girlfriend's family had already applied for countless interest classes, but each time she only attended two or three classes, she began to retreat, all kinds of crying and soft and hard bubbles, forcing the girlfriend to obey.
In life, children are the same, no matter what they do, it is always three minutes of heat. Even the mobile phone games that children like will not exceed 5 minutes, which makes the girlfriend cry and laugh. In desperation, I can only force my child to go to an interest class, but the effect is minimal.
Why do children only have three minutes of heat?
In life, many children are like this, their interests and hobbies, initially out of curiosity, and finally end in practice. The reason why I gave up halfway is mainly because the process of practice is not as beautiful as imagined. In the process of learning or doing things, the child may be frustrated and do not feel any sense of accomplishment.
To put it simply: the things that are initially interested in the child think are very simple, but when they really learn and operate systematically, they find that the difficulty is not generally high, and they cannot be controlled at all. As a result, the initial interest was also defeated by these setbacks, and there was not even the courage to stand up again.
In addition, the pressure and persecution of parents are also the main reasons why children give up halfway. The so-called interest must be based on the child's like, if everything is forced by the parents, naturally they will only think of escaping.
Parents do not need to force and punish, three ways to easily change the status quo of their children.
First, give the choice to the child
At any time, don't impose your own ideas on your children, this is the practice of smart parents. I especially like a sentence: only after walking more roads and seeing more scenery, do you know what is best for you.
So, let the child make choices and follow the heart to do what they like. Even if they are three minutes of heat, they can finally find the most favorite and the most suitable thing among many choices.
Second, leave curiosity to children
Curiosity is the key to success. It is precisely because of curiosity that children are willing to keep trying, rather than being like obedient machines, at the mercy of their parents. In childhood, it is normal to do things without qualification, because their self-control is not enough to resist the temptations of the outside world.
Since the child has curiosity, the parents will keep it for them, and then constantly guide the child to leave the most correct choice. In fact, growth is like this, constantly screening, trying, failing and succeeding.
Third, let the child learn to decompose the task
Since the learning process is somewhat inadequate, parents lower their requirements and teach their children to break down tasks. Many difficult tasks are divided into small things, and then slowly overcome them. In the end, this difficult project will eventually be completed, and the results will be ideal.
Children who are good at decomposing tasks will experience more sense of accomplishment in the process of doing things, and self-confidence will follow. Parents will find that the child seems to have a new life, and the state of the whole person is different.
Written in the end: learning, it is necessary to use the "edutainment" method, so as to be more effective. Occasionally, you can also nudge behind your child's back to help them get out of the confusion of the moment. But remember: parents must not use too much force, otherwise they will not achieve the desired effect.
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