Zeng Guofan once said that being a human being is just a lump of spring meaning, two poor bones.
The square is a person, the circle is also a person, the soft with the rigid, the circle in the square, is the way of wisdom.
The best way to live in life is to have a soft heart and wear hard armor.
When the opportunity comes
Toughness does not only mean that a person is not humble or profane, but also has a degree of progress and retreat. It also refers to a person's positive and enterprising attitude.
In ordinary times, hard gas is dispensable. When it comes to the critical time, be tough and you can get what you want.
Many things are not heavenly eccentricities and treat you badly. It's that you yourself are not tough enough, and you hesitate in the face of opportunities.
Qin attacked Zhao, and Zhao Pingyuanjun took his guests to ask for help from Chu. Ben wanted twenty disciples, but there were only nineteen of them, at this time Mao Sui came out of praise, and The Plain Junsu took Mao Sui as a guest.
During the Warring States period, the Zongheng family traveled back and forth between countries, and it was a manifestation of hardness to sell their strategies everywhere.
The wine aroma is also afraid of the deep alley, you yourself do not take the initiative, even the gods can not force the success of the success to you.
Everyone says luck is important, but don't forget, luck means you have to take a step first, and then someone will help you on the way.
When life is at a low point
The poorer the road, the more it will be broken.
The most terrible thing about people is not that others look down on you, but that you yourself look down on yourself. The doubts of others will only make you strong, but the doubts of self will hurt people's bones and kill people.
When people reach a low point, be tough. As long as you don't bow your head, the world won't be dark. Grit your teeth and hold on to this last second, and reap the blue sky of dawn.
If you instigate it during the trough period, you may not be able to turn over in this lifetime. Don't concede when you shouldn't. Embattled, the overlord Bieji, Xiang Yu Wujiang bowed to the valley and wrote his own ending early. If you insist on it a little longer, maybe you can really "Jiangdong disciples are talented, and their comeback is unknown."
When you are taken advantage of
Kindness should not be a person's weakness.
As the saying goes, "Ma Shan is ridden by others, and people are good at being bullied", kindness is not to take a soft heart to fight against open guns and dark arrows, not to be stupid and undefended and bullied.
Don't turn kindness into a reason to be attacked. Your kindness should be based on hardness.
To someone who betrays you, don't forgive. You just have to recognize their essence and forgiveness is something God does. Don't accept unreasonable demands. No one is a fool, taking your true heart and hurting you in turn, such a person is not worth your sincerity.
In terms of money, it is not your own not to, but your own also to give in, many times your little concessions will make some villains have more thoughts.
"Brother, settle the account", in terms of interests, your intransigence is the greatest kindness.
When family members are attacked
Often the more successful people are, the more they can understand the importance of family.
Home is our last line of defense, and we can comfort ourselves by being abducted and deceived. But when it comes to the family, it must be hardened.
Family members are treasures that others can't touch and guard in their hearts. There are many words that it doesn't matter if family criticizes each other, but when it comes to outsiders' mouths, it will change its taste.
You can not value your family, but please don't let them be attacked. If you can't even defend your family when they're attacked, there's probably nothing worth worrying about. A person who doesn't even care about his family has no future.
When educating children
As the old saying goes, "A loving mother is a loser" and "a filial piety comes out of the stick." Stick education is not worth advocating, but educating children can not be too doting, in the child's education, parents should be tough.
Parents are tough and should be strictly disciplined in dealing with some bad habits of their children. It is said that when she is three years old, a child does not restrain her during the cultivation period of her habits, and when she establishes the habit of three views, it is too late to change.
Treat the child's unreasonable demands and strictly refuse. Many parents treat their babies eagerly to pick the stars and the moon, and the requirements for their children are always "good". Many teenagers who go astray are raised by their parents.
Society is not your child's parents, it is impossible to spoil her like you, if you do not educate him well now, society will teach him to be a good person in the future.
Being a person, there are round and square, soft and rigid, one leg walking is too tired, two legs can walk like a fly. Soft hearts can be there, but don't let softness be your label. Be human, be tough, put on the hardest armor, and take the sharpest sword on the road!