Author: Creative Group Small Universe
At the end of the night, my son, who was excited, shouted at me: "Mom, these 4 brothers are so powerful, I also want to make a lot of money like them." ”
When I looked at it, it turned out to be the "Xueba Dormitory" that had recently exploded all over the Internet.
But children, you only stare at how many bonuses they have, but you don't see how much sweat they pay behind their backs.
During the day, they concentrate on their own studies; at night, they often discuss problems until late at night.
For four years, they had little entertainment and were racing against time.
After unremitting efforts, they have won 26 discipline competition awards in four years, including 2 international competitions, 3 national competitions and 5 provincial competitions, and the prize money has accumulated nearly 200,000.
It is reported that at the beginning, only one person decided to go straight to the game, and the other three people, under his influence, felt that they would stay together and were determined to work together to achieve common goals.
Today, they are all ashore and go straight to the school to complete the original agreement.
Many netizens shouted: It turns out that excellent will really be contagious!
There are also people who express envy: I don't care about how much money I have, but there are people accompanying me on the road of struggle, helping each other and achieving each other.
As Han Han said: "How far a person can go depends on who is with him; how good a person is, depending on who he has guidance; how successful a person is, depending on who he has with him." ”
The essence of excellence will be "contagious" is that the bullies have strong self-control, strict execution, will form a circle of healthy competition, and affect others to become better together.
Flying with the phoenix, it will be a handsome bird; walking with the tiger and wolf, it will be a beast.
Children, if you want to go further in the future, fly higher, who you are with, it really matters.
The quality of the circle determines your height
There was a topic on Zhihu: how important is a person's circle?
A netizen replied:
Since my son went to junior high school, he was often complained by teachers about fights and truancy, and they had a headache.
She and her husband had to take turns going to the school to check it out, only to find that their son had met bad classmates and was taken to play games or secretly smoke cigarettes.
After discovering the reason, they immediately educated their son, picked up and dropped off the children every day, and also let the classmates who were both excellent in character and learning come to the home.
Slowly, my son improved in his studies and was finally admitted to his ideal high school.
At work, my son also has the consciousness to make positive colleagues and learn from them.
A few years later, his son became a mainstay of the company.
Writer Jia Pingwa wrote in "Game People":
"The circle of friends is actually the world of your life, and your struggle for fame and profit is the history of your friends' likes and dislikes."
In fact, the quality of your circle determines the quality of your development;
The circle you are in directly affects the value judgment of others about you.
At that time, when Shi Yuzhu was preparing to build the Giant Building, because of the shortage of funds, he had to transfer all the funds in the health care products to the Giant Building.
The health care products business was overdrawn due to the "blood draw" of funds, coupled with poor management, and finally the debt was 251 million.
He shut himself in his room and didn't go out for months.
At this time, his classmate Duan Yongji came to the rescue, and only then did Shi Yuzhu make a comeback.
The two golden partners have made a business legend of brain platinum.
In the book "Give a Reason for the Deal", it is written: "How high a person can reach depends on what kind of person he can connect with.
By getting to know someone, you can reach out to his resources. It is these resources that can help you reach higher platforms. ”
Sand is waste, cement is waste, but they are mixed together as concrete;
Rice is a fine product, and so is gasoline, but they are mixed together and become waste.
Therefore, the breadth and precision of the circle layer determine the height of your life.
The lethality of making friends carelessly, you can't imagine
American sociologists Nicholas and James Fowler, by studying "the influence of friends on our behavior," point out:
"On average, we spend 80% of our awakening time with friends. They are the most important part of our environment. So they influence us, and that's a natural thing. ”
The so-called near Zhu is red, and near ink is black. It doesn't matter who you are, what matters is what kind of people you are around.
You never know when your friend will stab you in the back.
Tang Bohu, who has been smart since childhood, has been a high school talent at the age of 16 and has caused a sensation in the township.
Later, he went to Beijing to take the exam and became acquainted with Xu Jing, a son of a rich family in Jiangyin, and the two talked happily and worshipped as brothers.
However, Xu Jing did not learn any techniques, used the left side door to get the test questions, and also set out the answers to Tang Bohu.
As a result, he became the top spot. The crowd was dissatisfied and filed a joint complaint.
Officials found out that Xu Jing had cheated, implicated Tang Bohu, and directly cancelled their meritorious names and were not allowed to participate in the examination again.
Deeply affected, Tang Bohu has since let loose the skeleton and entered the fireworks willow lane with Xu Jing.
He ended up depressed at the age of 54.
Liu Tong wrote in "Whose Youth Is Not Confused":
"What kind of person your friend is, what kind of person you will become."
There is a kind of "target infectious disease" in psychology, that is, in a circle, the target will be transmitted to the other party, such as excellence, persistence, etc.
Conversely, bad temptations can also be contagious, such as alcoholism, fighting, etc.
Good friends can lead you to forge ahead; bad friends can send you to hell.
Remember the sensational Japanese post-war "biggest killer" Uematsu Seiji?
He came from a family of scholars, and was also a kind and sunny teenager.
Unfortunately, when he became an adult, he slipped down step by step, hitting studs, tattoos, and even group beatings and drug abuse.
At that time, he was working in a welfare home, and he felt that these mentally retarded people always caused trouble for themselves and were dissatisfied.
My friend encouraged him, and if he was not happy, he would kill them all. He couldn't help but feel evil thoughts.
Late one night, he infiltrated a welfare home and used daggers, hammers and other tools to kill 19 people and injure 26 people.
When he was arrested, he looked proud and shouted, "I am doing harm to Japan." ”
Eventually, Uematsu was sentenced to death.
Science proves: "Man is the only animal that can accept hints." ”
What information you receive, what kind of mental state will appear in your body.
Child, if you want to be an eagle soaring in the sky, you must stay away from the short-sighted bird.
Choose a friend and make friends, and you will be halfway on the right path
Business philosopher Jimmy Ron once said in the famous "Five-Dimensional Theory of Close Friends":
"A person's wealth and wisdom is basically the average of 5 close friends with whom they interact."
In the circle, the better the friend, the higher the value to you and the greater the help to your career.
Yan Ning and Li Yinuo are known as the most cattle girlfriends by the world.
One became the youngest doctoral supervisor at Tsinghua University, and later accepted the invitation of Princeton University in the United States to become a tenured professor and conceived Tao Li;
One became a global youth leader, founded a local school, and devoted himself to public welfare.
From youth to maturity, this 20-year friendship began in 1996.
At that time, they were admitted to the Department of Biotechnology and Technology of Tsinghua University at the same time and moved into the same building.
Yan Ning, a gifted student who was raised by the stars and the moon, the pressure of the master like a cloud followed, and she was like living in purgatory when she was difficult to adapt to for a while.
The high score of the midterm exam was only 67 points, and she felt that her self-confidence was slowly withering and splitting into pieces.
But the forgiveness of her parents made her stop feeling guilty and start to enjoy her university life to the fullest.
If she hadn't met Li Yinuo, maybe she would have been willing to be ordinary.
At that time, Yan Ning was a naughty and unreliable "learning scum" in the eyes of the teacher, while Li Yinuo was a well-rounded "learning bully".
In the summer of their freshman year, they met unexpectedly in the library due to their high numbers, and a wonderful intersection has occurred since then.
The two have very different personalities, Yan Ning is lively and outgoing, Li Yinuo is independent and calm, and they have become friends who have nothing to talk about.
And Yan Ning admitted that his Tsinghua years can be colorful, all because he ran with Li Yinuo along the way.
Li Yinuo felt that there were fewer classes, and she could go to the TOEFL to improve her English, so she followed the new Oriental, and the final score was ridiculously high;
Li Yinuo thought that if she wanted to enter the laboratory early, she was completely fascinated by scientific research, and later became the youngest professor at Tsinghua;
Li Yinuo contacted the Nord China R&D headquarters in Shangdi to do the completion, and she also followed without hesitation, brushing out a bright undergraduate CV.
They feel sorry for each other, you chase after me, become each other's companions, and eventually climb to the top of the mountain.
Those who follow the flies can only reach the dirty ditches; those who follow the butterflies can smell the fragrance of flowers.
A person's circle often determines your character, knowledge, and even life achievements.
Just make good friends and you're halfway there.
Wei Zheng, a famous minister of the Tang Dynasty, once said: Success or failure lies in the contamination.
Energetic people can make friends interesting; negative and decadent people can make friends consume morale.
Child, what kind of circle you choose directly determines what kind of height your life can reach.
When you are in a circle of positive energy, working hard for your future and realizing your self-worth without distraction, money and fame will always come just right, naturally.
The rest of your life is not long, the mountains and rivers are thousands of journeys, may you improve your rank, all the encounters are beneficial to friends, and the way to go is smooth.
Small universe: the left hand writes, the right hand loves flowers and raises babies, a treasure mother engaged in psychological research. New Oriental Family Education (ID: xdfjtjy) transmits the concept of professional family education, provides family education information at home and abroad, and shares absorbable and operable methods and suggestions. Make continuous learning a habit for families.