I've met many mothers of children at work who have asked me, "What exactly does a father do in the family?" In fact, everyone also knows that under normal circumstances, whether a father can really know and understand his child depends on what the mother does. There are many reasons why it is difficult for dads to participate in the upbringing of their children. In life, "when the child is awake, the father is almost not at home", and sometimes, "the father is at home, the mother will feel a little embarrassed, because she does not know when she can use her husband, and when to let him help".
Speaking of which, if the couple can share a little detail of the parenting process every day, it will also be of great benefit to the marriage of two people, and sometimes these details may seem silly and ridiculous to others, but for both husband and wife and children, this period of time is indeed an extremely important thing. As the child grows up, toddlers, and grows into a child, the details of the growth are becoming richer and richer, and the feelings between father and mother will become richer and richer.
The first person the child knows and knows is the mother, it or early or evening to identify the various characteristics of the mother, and among them, such as gentle, sweet and other characteristics, will make people think of the mother, but the mother also has a variety of serious characteristics, but the mother's serious characteristics are not its essential characteristics, and they will gradually gather in the child's psychology, aggregate into a variety of feelings, and finally guide the child to find this feeling in the father. If we merely combine these qualities of motherhood into rules and regulations, permission and prohibition, rigidity and intransigence, it is far better to put these qualities into a respectable and lovely strong father.
(1) The combination of sex between father and mother also provides the child with the fact that around this solid fact, the child can construct a fantasy, this rock-solid sexual bond fact, which will allow the child to both rely on and rely on, but also kick and fight; furthermore, this fact also provides a part of the natural basis for the child to find a personalized solution to the problem of the three-person relationship.
Dad is at home, mom will feel physically comfortable and in a good mood. The child is very sensitive to the state of the relationship between the parents, and it can be said that if the development of the real relationship between the parents is intimate and warm, the child is the first person to know and appreciate this fact, and the child will also express his gratitude by becoming less problematic, more content, and better supportive. This is probably the child indicating that they have a "sense of social security"
(2) Fathers need to give their mothers moral and spiritual support, support their authority, and become the voices of the law and order that mothers implant in their children's lives. Dad doesn't need to be there all the time, but he needs to be there often to make his child feel that he is also a real and living being.
In the process of growing up, the child will always need to hate someone every once in a while, and if the father is not around to let the child have a person to hate, the child can only hate the mother alone, then it will make the child confused, because the mother that the child hates is also the person the child loves the most from the bottom of his heart.
(3) Children need a father, because their father has many positive and positive qualities, and has unique characteristics that distinguish him from other men, and there is his active vitality in his personality. When both mom and dad are happy to take responsibility for the existence of their children, the stage for a good family is set. The ideal model in the child's heart, at least in part, comes from the father they see or think that he sees the father, when the father leaves early and returns late, gradually showing the essence of his working state, but also opens a new world for the child's world.