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How a person's character is, in fact, can be seen in daily interactions.
People with real good character must be measured in their dealings with the world, know how to maintain distance and boundaries, and if they frequently cross the line, it either means that their emotional intelligence is very low, or their hearts and eyes are very bad. Neither the former nor the latter is necessarily worth associating with.
Because the former will intentionally or unintentionally hurt people and make you feel very tired; the latter may hurt or use you, making you invincible.
People with bad hearts often like to inquire into the privacy of others, because in this way they can grasp the handle of others and pinch others at critical moments. Let yourself take the initiative and let others be passive because of it.
If you find that someone often asks you about the following things, then please be sure to leave it to your heart, his mind may not be simple.
One: Inquire about your family's situation
There is a kind of person who always likes to inquire about other people's family situations, such as what their parents do, how much income they have, how many people there are in the family, how the relationship is, and so on. These are personal privacy, if they are all mastered by him, then you are like a blank piece of paper, which will be manipulated by him at any time.
For example, if you have a good family, as long as you have any different behavior from everyone in the future, then he will preach that you are "the son of a rich family who comes to the company to experience life, of course, there is no need to be with us small citizens", so that everyone's impression of you has become a flying second ancestor.
Or, if you let him know that his family has worked in this company or something like that, then every little achievement you achieve in the future will be advertised as a result of relationships.
When you encounter this kind of question, no matter how you answer it, it is a hidden danger to yourself. So generously perfunctory, directly tell him that it is a normal ordinary family, there is nothing to ask.
Don't worry that such an answer will offend people, real friends don't need to deliberately inquire, they should know. Ordinary friends don't have to care, the relationship is not so good, even if he is really angry, you have nothing to lose.
Friends who are really worth making will not ask this kind of embarrassing question, and only those with bad intentions will try everything to spy on you.
Two: Ask your opinion on leadership
In the workplace, inquiring about your views on leadership is obviously digging a pit for you, but where you say bad things about leadership, there is a high probability that it will be passed out, making it difficult for you to be a person in the future, and even difficult to stay in the company.
So is it okay to just say good things about the company and the leadership? In fact, this is also a trap.
You say good things about the company and the leader, and the initiator who asks you this question will makeover these words to other colleagues, so that you are the dog's leg of the company and the leader in the hearts of other colleagues, even eyeliner, and your life in the company will not be too good in the future.
In the same company, doing a good job is already a task, and this kind of talk about the company and the leadership is harmful to you and not beneficial.
When you have a problem like this, you can kick the ball back and ask him what he thinks.
People who can ask this kind of question will naturally not fall into your hands, either to make a haha to confuse the question, or to give you a flat and stable answer, and then you can echo it at will, and the question will pass.
When encountering such a problem, it is not just the problem that needs to be careful, but the person who asks the question.
Three: Inquire about your income or savings
In addition to the above two, there is also a kind of person who especially likes to inquire about other people's salaries or savings. If your salary is higher than his, he will feel unbalanced inside, comparing himself and your workload, and it is inevitable to make small moves behind his back. If your salary is lower than his, he will be proud, show superiority in front of you, and even look down on you.
The same is true of deposits, the amount of deposits belongs to the category of privacy, no matter what purpose others come to inquire, they are ill-intentioned and untrustworthy.
If you are like a fool and a sweet, knowing everything and saying everything, then the next time you find your problems will only increase. Face is reserved for those who deserve it, not for those who want to hurt you.
What kind of ghost idea is playing in a person's heart, not to see how kind and kind he is with a smile on his face, but to see what he has done. Those who have two-sided and three-bladed honey-bellied swords, once they find the signs, they must stay away. Not all smiling people are good people, but they may also be a smiling tiger.
The adult world can not tolerate innocence, more observation and thinking, is the best way to protect yourself.
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