Soon after Madame Wang discovered that "the benefits of attacking that child are ten times stronger than my Baoyu," she arranged for Wang Xifeng to raise the treatment of attacking people from a first-class big man to the level of an aunt. Wang Xifeng said that she did not understand: "Even so, I opened my face, wouldn't it be good to let her in the house?" ”
Yeah, since you want to be promoted, wouldn't it be more convenient to announce it directly? Why do you want a set of yin and a set of yang?
Madame Wang gave three reasons why it was not appropriate to announce:
One is young, the second is not allowed by the old master, and the third is that the treasure jade sees that the attacker is a, and even if there is indulgence, he can listen to her advice, and now that he is a predecessor, the attacker should not dare to persuade very much. Now and muddy, wait another two or three years. ”
One of these three reasons is "the old man is not allowed", that is, Jia Zheng does not agree.
So the question is, Madame Wang knows that Jia Zheng does not agree, why should she make such an arrangement?
Note that when Madame Wang said this, she was not in a private environment. At that time, "Aunt Xue's mother and daughter and Lin Daiyu and so on" were all at the scene, and afterwards Xiangyun also deliberately asked Daiyu to go together to give the attackers a good day. With Xiangyun's big-mouthed personality, as long as she knew, it would no longer be a secret, not to mention that Madame Wang did not tell everyone not to say it. This shows that Madame Wang is not worried about someone going to inform Jia Zheng.
Combined with the context, it can be seen that Madame Wang's "old master is not allowed" here does not mean that Jia Zheng does not agree to raise the attacker as an aunt, but does not agree to arrange an aunt for Baoyu so early.
There is an essential difference between the two: one is to arrange who will be Baoyu's aunt, and the other is when to arrange an aunt for Baoyu. The former is a matter of principle, which must be agreed by Jia Zheng, while the latter is not very principled, but it is only a matter of advancing what must be done sooner or later, and it is limited to facts and does not make official announcements. Therefore, Madame Wang did not care whether Jia Zheng knew or not, and this was not a deception of Jia Zheng.
Husbands sing with women, there is business and quantity, this is the way of getting along with the couple of Mrs. Jia Zhengwang.
Madame Wang is a Confucian orthodox lady deliberately created by the author, and she and Jia Zheng just represent the image of husband and wife under neo-Confucian culture. They all strictly abided by Confucian etiquette and never went beyond it.
At the beginning of the Red Chamber, Jia Fu has already entered the end of the world, but at this time, rongguo mansion is still a quiet year. The author can show the tranquility and comfort of the backyard of the Rongguo Mansion through the Zhou Rui family's palace flowers in the seventh time, and the masters of each courtyard are doing what they like.
Such a good home environment is not created by Wang Xifeng, because Wang Xifeng's housekeeper is not long. People who have management experience or understand management will know that such a large family, no different from the group company, wants to run well, can not be done overnight, must go through a long period of running in and adjustment, in order to achieve such a good effect.
Therefore, the quiet years of Rong Guofu are the result of the joint management of Jia Zheng and Madame Wang: their husbands and wives follow, have business and quantity, and trust each other. Only in this way can we maintain a long period of harmony between complex families with old and young.
In terms of getting along with husband and wife, Madame Wang especially does not put herself above Jia Zheng. We can see this from the baoyu beating incident.
Usually fathers teach their sons and are most afraid of their mothers. A stronger woman will stand in the way of her husband, or sway or sapop to prevent her husband from educating her son. In the thirty-third episode of "not Xiao all kinds of big throws", Jia Zheng was about to beat Baoyu to death, and although Madame Wang, who heard the news, "hugged the board", she dissuaded Jia Zheng with a begging tone, and she did not dare to say that Baoyu could not beat it.
Let's look at her dissuading Jia Zheng:
"Although Baoyu should fight, the old man must also respect himself." Moreover, on a hot day and summer, the old lady's body is not very good, and the matter of killing Baoyu is small, if the old lady is uncomfortable for a while, it is not a big deal! ”
Baoyu should fight, but "the old man must also respect himself", don't exhaust yourself in order to beat Baoyu. In addition, the old lady is so precious to this grandson, "killing Bao Yu is small", the old lady is in trouble in a hurry.
The only son was about to be killed, and the urgency was to this extent, and Madame Wang's persuasion was still so euphemistic, which was enough to show that she would not forcefully interfere in Jia Zheng's decision, and she would definitely not do what Jia Zheng did not agree to.
The choice of the attacker as Baoyu's aunt was the result of joint consultation between Jia Zheng and Lady Wang.
In the education of Baoyu, Jia Zheng and Madame Wang have common anxiety and helplessness. The anxious thing is that Bao Yu refuses to do the right thing, and only wants to be the "Chaos Demon King". Helplessly, Jia Mu spoiled Baoyu too much, so that they could not control Baoyu.
Because they were both anxious and helpless, they would definitely have to communicate more about how to discipline Baoyu properly.
When Madame Wang discovered the treasure of the raider, she would of course discuss with Jia Zheng for the first time how to use this treasure well. The seventy-second time Jia Zheng and Aunt Zhao said, "I have already taken a fancy to two servants, one with Baoyu and one to Huan'er", and this one for Baoyu is undoubtedly attacking people.
This is not speculation. It is the mother's duty to appoint an aunt to her son, because it belongs to the inner courtyard. Madame Wang made her own decisions, and Jia Zheng could not say anything. However, because this couple has always had a business relationship, and their family's situation is special, Madame Wang is more willing to discuss with Jia Zheng.
Saying that the situation is special, it is special that Baoyu is doted on by Jia Mu to the point of completely losing her principle, which makes Lady Wang not know what to do to neither offend her mother-in-law nor delay her son's future. She was originally a not very smart person, not as much as Wang Xifeng's ideas. So, she very much hoped that someone could discuss the idea. Husbands are of course the best candidates, and they not only share common values, but also share common goals and anxieties in educating their sons, so it's easy for them to agree.
In addition, there are many places in the book that Jia Zheng's respect for Lady Wang is reflected.
The twenty-third time, because Yuan Chun ordered his younger brothers and sisters to move into the Grand View Garden, Jia Zheng called Bao Yu to ask him a few words, and here is a description of Jia Zheng's change of attitude towards Bao Yu:
In one fell swoop, Jia Zheng saw Bao Yu standing in front of him, his charm was flowing and his beauty was dazzling; he looked at Jia Huan, the character was trivial, and his demeanor was absurd; suddenly he remembered Jia Zhulai, and then he saw that Madame Wang only had this one biological son, Su Ai Ruzhen, and his beard would be pale: because of these few pieces, Su Ri's dislike of Bao Yu's heart was unconsciously reduced by eight or nine.
From baoyu's grasp of Zhou's only grasp of "ring fat powder", Jia Zheng was "very displeased" with him. At this point, Jia Zheng "unconsciously reduced Su Ri's dislike of Baoyu by eight or nine", one of the reasons was to understand Lady Wang's "only this one biological son, Su Ai Ruzhen".
There was also the thirty-third time, when Jia Zheng was about to kill Baoyu with a fierce hand, Madame Wang moved out of the old lady to dissuade him, and Jia Zheng could not listen to it at all. But when Madame Wang played the bitter love card with herself and said, "I am now fifty years old, only this evil obstacle", Jia Zheng stopped. This fully shows that Jia Zheng is more emotionally inclined to his wife and cares about his wife's feelings.
Therefore, if Jia Zhengwei designated an aunt for Baoyu, he would also consult with Lady Wang and obtain Lady Wang's consent, rather than making his own decisions.
Jia Zheng will not make decisions privately, and Madame Wang will not make decisions privately, so choosing to attack people as Baoyu's aunt is the result of their joint consultation.
Lady Wang privately made this news public on a small scale and gave the treatment of the attacker's aunt, is it against Jia Zheng's wishes?
In fact, it does not count, from the three reasons that Madame Wang said, we can see that the first and third reasons are all to explain the second reason. That is to say, both Jia Zheng and Lady Wang decided to choose the attacker as Baoyu's aunt, but they both felt that it was not appropriate to disclose it now, because one of them is young, The three Bao Yu saw that the attacker was a, even if there was an indulgence, he could listen to her advice, and now that he was a predecessor, the attacker should not dare to be very persuaded, so Now and muddy, wait for two or three years to say. The meaning of "and muddy" is not to pick out, but everyone tacitly agrees.
In fact, if Madame Wang did not propose to give the attackers a higher treatment, the essence of the matter would not make any difference. From the perspective of Lady Jia Zhengwang, they already had a number in mind, sooner or later; from the perspective of attacking people, whether there was this news or not, she would dutifully complete Lady Wang's entrustment.
So, why did Madame Wang do this?
This is madame Wang's goodness. She once asked the attacker, "I will hand him (Baoyu) to you, so be careful, to save him is to save me", and promised the attacker, "I will naturally live up to you." The actions of the attackers have long been overpaid, and they should be paid accordingly. Since it has been decided to promote the attacker as an aunt, and the attacker is already assuming the responsibility of an aunt, it is not against the principle to give the aunt treatment in advance. Moreover, Madame Wang still used her own private money, and did not take the public account, "taking out two or two pieces of silver and one hanging money out of my monthly monthly routine of twenty-two silver to give to the attackers."
This is like the management talent in the enterprise, the person has been put on the job, but there is no official document publicity. In order to be worthy of the payment of talents, salaries and treatment should naturally keep up, which is what managers should consciously do.
Therefore, Madame Wang's approach does not conflict with "the old man is not allowed". Her practice is in line with Jia Fu's "poetry heirloom" and "leniency to the next person", otherwise it will become a exploitation of labor.
It is precisely because Madame Wang's approach is reasonable, everyone present does not feel that there is anything wrong, and BaoChao and Dai Yu Xiangyun are even more rarely and consistently thinking of following the attack on Humanity at the first time, indicating that this is a great thing that everyone recognizes.