Every child is a treasure held in the palm of their parents' hands, and at home they are treated like stars and the moon. However, children always have to go to school to live a group life, and parents will have a lot of worries.
School is a miniature version of society, where each child has his or her own role in the class. The teacher is the ultimate boss, the class leader is like a manager, and the ordinary students will have their own small gangs. In addition to caring about their children's academic performance, parents are also very worried about whether their children will be bullied and isolated by others.
When a child says, "They don't play with me," parents should know that the child may have a little problem with social interaction in the class. If you don't guide your child properly, it can cause tension in your child's relationships at school. Children are isolated, in addition to other people's reasons, but also part of the child's own problems. If we can guide the child correctly, we will avoid the child being isolated. If your child has interpersonal problems and doesn't know how to answer and deal with them, you might as well check out this dad's textbook answer!
▼ Maverick children are easily isolated by their classmates.
The daughter said, "Dad, I'm going to go to school in my newly bought dress today, and my classmates will praise me for being good-looking." ”
Dad: "No, today is Monday, the school is going to raise the national flag, you must wear a school uniform and a red scarf to go to school." ”
The children get along very similarly with the adults, we are all wearing overalls, and here comes a person who is dressed up in a fancy way, will you take the initiative to approach her? It is estimated that he wants to stay away, and he feels that he is not the same kind of person as us, and it is best not to deal with him.
Therefore, if children want not to be isolated from their classmates, they must first learn to be a person who abides by the rules of the school, not to be a different kind of person. Regardless of whether the family conditions are good or bad, parents should not dress their children too differently, and popularization is the best state of integration into collective life.
▼ Children who like to complain are generally less popular.
My daughter complained: "My water cup fell to the ground today, all because the classmates in front of me were too fat, and my table shook." ”
Dad: "The classmate in front of you is fat, you can leave a larger gap for him, didn't you put the water cup well?" ”
The child fell down and hit the table, which is the reason why the ground is uneven and the table is obstructed, and many parents like to coax their children in this way. In fact, this is a demonstration of the error.
Some children, when getting along with others, if there is anything uncomfortable, always like to find reasons from others. The game is not smooth, the peer is too stupid, the grade has dropped, and the teacher is not clear. Children always like to complain, never know how to solve their own problems, will be full of negative energy, become a person that others hate.
When the child complains, the parent should listen carefully, and then help the child to objectively analyze the problem and find a way to solve the problem. Let your child gradually know that complaining is better than acting and changing can solve the problem.
▼ Learning hard work is also very important, and good grades can bring good popularity.
In a class, children with excellent academic performance are generally very popular. Children have an attitude of hard work, and the teacher also looks at it and likes such students.
Therefore, some children who do not study well and have poor academic performance are more likely to be isolated by their classmates. And those children who have good academic performance, or good sports, good art, and special skills are more popular.
The student's duty is to study hard and develop his or her abilities in an all-round way, which is also a necessary condition for bringing themselves a pleasant relationship with classmates.
▼ In the face of bullying by others, you must know how to protect yourself.
The daughter said, "Daddy, the boy next door, always tries to get me up when I walk out." ”
Dad: "Then this is a very serious matter, did you tell the teacher?" If the teacher didn't handle the matter well, Dad would have to go to school to talk to the classmate. ”
When the child is deliberately harassed and bullied by the classmates at school, the parent is the child's biggest backing. We can let the child communicate with the teacher first and see if the effect of the teacher's coordination is good.
If after the teacher's education, the child has no problem, of course, it is the best. If the problem cannot be solved, we must come forward to make decisions for the child. In the process of interacting with classmates, teach children to protect themselves as parents must do.
▼ Cultivating children's ability to resist setbacks is a compulsory course.
Daughter: "I don't want to go to school, I did a bad test this time, and my classmates will look down on me." ”
Dad: "One exam doesn't mean anything, as long as you work hard, you will definitely make great progress next time." ”
The children are very concerned about the test results, and they are afraid of being laughed at by their classmates if they do not take the test well. We as parents must first give our children the confidence to progress, so that children have the confidence to overcome difficulties. When a child is discouraged, we should stop criticizing him, but should give him encouragement and support.
A good parent is better than 10 good teachers, so let's learn quickly, so that children become more and more independent and more and more capable of solving problems.