Yesterday was Women's Day, and the news of big S was seen.
Our message area here is also very lively. Some people say that Big S is really brave. Some people say that big S is really dizzy.
Yesterday I also saw a news called:
Qi to swallow antihypertensive drugs.
This is really the feeling of being helpless every moment of my mother.
Seriously, Big S is so brave, as an individual, I admire. But if it was my daughter, I guess I would worry about it too.
Don't ask! Asking is the mother's worry.
In fact, when the mother of people, who does not often want to swallow antihypertensive drugs!
I am really not a great person, but I am lucky to have a platform to communicate with everyone, and like everyone, I pick up and drop off my children every day, commute to work every day, and I am also troubled by trivial things every day, and when I am tired, I walk by the side of the road.
I haven't talked to you about parenting for a long time. Just take advantage of today to talk to you about the recent surge in blood pressure.
I have always encouraged everyone to raise children, and the process of raising children will allow you to experience different lives and see people, but pay attention: the heart stent explosion and blood pressure surge are really not accidental.
After my sister went to elementary school, I had a more objective standard, and I was able to understand it instead. No more surprised feelings.
The days are always full of anticipation - every day when I go home to check my homework, it is like smoking a blind box, whether it is surprise or fright, it is all turning the page.
There was not much fear in the first grade assignments, and of course, there was nothing to be excited about.
My biggest requirement for my children is: before the third grade, develop the habit well. That's the foundation of everything.
Of course, the degree of cost of this process is simply amazing.
You read that right! Fei Mom!
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First of all, it is to adjust the way children are educated.
My sister's concentration has always been good, but this is good, and it is also the positive encouragement of the teacher. Because it is too far away from the so-called self-driving force.
Usually, doing homework at home, I work behind her and read books, so I can't see the whole picture of homework. It's not bad that every day's homework is done on time.
But she can probably feel the great allure of other things for her
For example, if the pencil breaks, it starts to sharpen the pencil, and after cutting one, it will be cut again and again. You tell her, you don't cut it. She retorts to you: What if the previous one breaks.
Accidentally, it was cut off, so it was cut again.
For example, while her homework was being done, her mother-in-law was downstairs telling her whether she wanted to eat apples or not. I thought I would eat apples for 10 minutes, but I didn't go upstairs for 20 minutes.
There is not much homework in the first grade, and it is occasionally possible to touch the fish, but it is not efficient, and it is not impossible for the third grade to fall off a cliff.
On the weekend, after sitting across from her to study, I finally felt a brain congestion. Simply unfathomable, a test of 180.
Oral arithmetic has a name called "visual arithmetic".
I found that as soon as she arrived, she liked to look up and say that she was thinking, and the eyeball kept glancing elsewhere.
Mind wandering, naked mind wandering.
I asked her, "You look at your homework and do the math." ”
She said: "That's what I think. I don't look up and I can't think of an answer. ”
Because of the library, her back talk was even more unscrupulous. She knew that I would be decent in public.
In order to lower my blood pressure, I changed seats in the afternoon.
Looking at the results, it is easier than staring at the process, and you don't have to suffer.
The schedule table is listed first, and then the results are given to the point.
I was only responsible for checking the results, and she was responsible for completing the homework.
As a result, I saw her work order and only needed to look at the answer within the allotted time, which was far more worry-free than staring at the whole time.
02
Second, we must learn to fight against external interference.
The biggest distraction from our family's learning was my grandparents, my parents. I never imagined in my life that this would almost become the biggest stumbling block on the road to parenting.
At about 10 o'clock that night, I posted a video of Grace in the circle of friends, and my father sent me a message in the morning, asking me not to be too strict with her and to ensure sleep.
As his daughter, she has experienced interest classes every weekend since she was a child, entered an art troupe when she was older, and had to ride a bicycle to practice the next day.
Before, when I wanted to give up, he always told me: to work hard, to persevere. However, now, it has become "so hard to do, the body is important."
You can't be disrespectful to your parents, but sometimes the words are too light and fluttery, and the interference is more and more.
For example, a child should go to bed before 8 o'clock.
I'm really black with a question mark face. We come back from playing at 6, finish eating at 7, and go to bed for an hour?
For example, children should not take too many interest classes.
I said: The child likes it.
My dad said, "It's not because I like you that I'm saying things against my heart."
Only now, I have also learned to automatically block some information: "Listen to what you should hear, don't listen to what you shouldn't hear." But you must not affect me, and if you do, do not blame me for tearing my face. ”
03
Adjust your mindset at the above two points, and that's it
The final step is to conduct a comprehensive review on a regular basis.
As I said, Grace is not the kind of child who has self-drive and can be completely carefree, a child who is ordinary to be ordinary.
The teacher always praised her in front of me, but I knew it as a parent.
Regular review has become my most important thing:
1. Every week, work with her to sort out the wrong questions.
Many people say that this matter is meaningless in the lower grades, such as the grace homework for a week, but in the upper grades, it is very important, and these habits must be formed first.
2. Organize all the books.
Every time, the old man would say that I was cruel, and the young age let her sort it out by herself. But in my opinion, tidying up is not physical work, but mental work, which allows her to learn to store and know her books well. That way, I won't always ask where the book is.
3. Review bad habits.
Many people say that it takes 21 days to form a habit, but in my opinion, there are times when parents need constant reminders. Human inertia is also nature in many cases, and her parents must accompany her to overcome it. For example, before, she would always throw away the marker, but now it won't, I let her do a color card, compare, and after a while, it will be much clearer.
The other day, I saw a passage from an educationalist:
"Education children should focus on praise and encouragement, praise children's advantages, encourage children to correct shortcomings, guide children to correct their mistakes, and be a good child who knows mistakes and corrects them." When children make mistakes, they must first understand the reasons for their mistakes and then educate them, so as to achieve good educational results. ”
The same is true of habitual education.
I really have to go slowly step by step, overcome it slowly, and adjust it slowly.
It is not only the children who adjust, but also the parents' mentality.
It is often said that parents have to overcome their own anxiety. Seriously, people like me also understand a lot of truth, and may not be able to be a good mother.
How do middle-aged mothers lower blood pressure?
Many times, this antidote really has to be given by yourself.