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What kind of child is a well-behaved child? Is it politeness to let him do whatever he wants, or is it a regular customer on the report card who is always praised by the teacher at the top ten parents' meeting? I don't know if you agree with my opinion, being well-behaved and sensible is the highest praise that many adults have for children, but being well-behaved is not a positive word.
Psychology thinks that a 3-year-old is not a normal child if he can't resist, why? From the age of one and a half years old children will enter the self-awareness sensitive period, to the three-year-old child's self-awareness basic construction is completed, most of the children at this time will show very stubborn, this is to strengthen self-awareness and attitude to do some of the behavior, but based on cognition and discrimination ability is weaker, some times the child's stubbornness in the eyes of adults is rebellious, to five or six years old children's rebellious behavior will be more obvious, because based on physiological development and logical thinking development, he began to have the basic cognitive ability of things.
Some parents will often say to their children: If you don't obey me, I don't want you, or your child is not obedient at all, especially the elderly in the family seem to be a well-behaved and sensible child as long as the child acts exactly according to the instructions. You must know that we do not want a well-behaved child, but a child who will not blindly obey, and he must have his own thinking and courage to say questions about all questions that are questionable. If a child is labeled as "obedient" from a young age, then he is not really obedient, not so much that they are sensible, but rather that they know how to observe the color, know how to please others, the stronger the attachment, the worse the autonomy, compared to the casual character of the child, they will be willing to pretend to be obedient in order to please the adults, so as to hide their true thoughts.
Children's obedience should be more reflected in the rules of life and behavior ethics, at the level of thinking we should encourage "disobedience", tolerate children's disobedience, with adult thinking cognition to interfere, will only let the child become a face to act and lose self-awareness, after all, each child is an independent individual, not a robot written out of the program, what do you think?
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