With Women's Day approaching, the topic of women's rights and interests has been mentioned more often, but compared with women in the workplace, stay-at-home mothers who choose to go home with their babies seem to be less vocal. In fact, the "job" of full-time mothers is not easy, and mothers do not take a penny of salary but have to work all year round, and they cannot make a mistake, otherwise they will be blamed and complained. In fact, stay-at-home mothers should not be "housewives" who are degraded, they should be respected and appreciated "family goddesses".
Born in 1989, Leah was once a professional elite with excellent business ability, but after giving birth, in order to be able to take better care of the child, she finally chose to return to the family. For Leah's decision, her husband immediately expressed his support, "The workplace is too hard, and you just take advantage of the time with your children to rest." ”
However, after really taking the baby herself, Leah found that "the job of a stay-at-home mother is not easy, and even sleeping a full night has become a luxury." Although Leah's husband will help with the baby every day after work, in order not to be affected by the next day's work, her husband has maintained the habit of going to bed at ten o'clock in the evening. And the in-laws are even more because Leah resigned, usually only come to tease the grandson when they are bored.
Once, when Leah was bathing the baby, she did not control the temperature of the bathroom in a hurry, and after the bath, the baby accidentally caught a cold and immediately started a high fever. Leah called her husband but kept on the phone, so she had to rush to the hospital alone with her child.
When everything was arranged, the phone calls of the husband and mother-in-law came one after another. The two men on the phone blamed Leah for "how come I can't even take a child?" "Obviously it was she who was busy before and after, and it was she who was obviously very distressed in her heart, but why was it still her who finally complained?" All this made Leah feel very aggrieved.
Looking back at the days after she became a stay-at-home mother, it is not uncommon for grievances like this to be felt, and Leah, who is alone with a baby, has words of suffering. The state of life in a place of chicken feathers made her feel that there was no hope in life, and the once confident eyes slowly lost the light. "Obviously, I have tried twelve points, but the days with the baby are still a mess." I am indeed not a perfect mother, and I knew that today, I probably should not have had children in the first place! ”
" Is it a break with children?" Only those who have experienced the hardships and tiredness of stay-at-home mothers understand
In the eyes of many people, it is much easier to take children at home than to work hard in the workplace, so the saying that "taking children at home is a kind of rest" is recognized by many people. In the movie "Jin Zhiying born in 82", the male and female protagonists also had a similar discussion, and a haggard Zhiying murmured, "Is it a rest to take the child?" In the eyes of others, this may be the heroine's pretense, but for the stay-at-home mother, this sentence pokes directly in the heart.
For professionals, idle at home is a rest, and for full-time mothers, staying at home is the beginning of busy work. With the strength of one person to take care of the baby's eating and drinking, in addition to this, you also have to undertake housework, wash and wash shabu. What is even more exhausting is that they have given so much, but it is difficult to get the recognition of their families or society.
In Chinese families, many stay-at-home mothers endure the pain of widowhood. Because of the financial pressure of the family, the fathers naturally acted as hand-throwing treasurers in childcare, and even said that they would condescend to point fingers when their wives brought their children.
In fact, there is no perfect mother in the world, but there are many people who are asking full-time mothers to be perfect, the pain and tiredness of full-time mothers, and grievances, probably only those who have experienced it can feel empathy.
How can stay-at-home moms become "better versions of themselves"? Every mom is a "goddess"
Remember One: Never have self-doubt
Many stay-at-home mothers fall into self-doubt because of their lack of experience with their babies, are overly self-demanding, or are often blamed by their families, which makes them often be plagued by a sense of powerlessness when carrying a baby. But in fact, there is no perfect mother in the world, and the process of taking a baby is actually a process of self-growth of a mother.
Remember two: reasonable division of labor, do a good job of time planning
Many stay-at-home mothers will take the matter of taking the child on their own shoulders, but in fact, the parenting that husband and wife participate in is the most quality assurance.
It is necessary for the mothers to communicate with the fathers, and a reasonable division of labor can avoid excessive overdraft of one party. At the same time, mothers should also do a good job of time planning, and don't forget to run themselves well while taking the baby.
Remember three: do a good job of emotional relief, not to be wrapped up in negative emotions
Some people say that the mood of the mother is the barometer of the family. It is easier for a mother with a baby to keep a happy mood and create beautiful memories of growing up for herself and her children.
The hard work of bringing a baby can easily lead to mothers being wrapped up in negative emotions, so doing a good job of emotional relief in a timely manner can help mothers adjust their emotional state in time and maintain a good parenting mentality.
Women who choose to become full-time moms must maintain enough self-confidence, but also do not easily self-doubt. Strive to become a better version of yourself, believe that parenting will bring you new growth, full-time moms need a heart stronger than ordinary people.
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Partners who are grateful to full-time mothers can better understand the hardships of full-time baby, but if full-time baby can not get the respect and recognition of their partners, then it is necessary for full-time mothers to "find ways" to make their family value seen and valued.
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