Hello everyone, I'm a tomato mom!
As soon as the school starts, some parents lament that it is too difficult to urge their children to get up. I was about to be late, and when I saw the child's lazy look, I felt that my lungs were going to explode. You can't fight, yelling doesn't work, is there any good way. If your child is already in elementary school, or even older, I think it's a little late for you to try to solve this problem now.
Like my big treasure is a son, and now he is also 9 years old. This child is very independent, the personality is also very cheerful, the emotional intelligence is also quite high, and the ability to take care of himself in life is also particularly strong.
He has been eating, cleaning up toys, brushing his teeth, and never complaining about housework when he grows up. When he first entered kindergarten, he did not have a little separation anxiety, got along with the kindergarten children very well, and the teacher often praised him for his understanding.
So how did I raise such a diligent, self-disciplined, cheerful, and highly emotionally intelligent child? In fact, I have only done two things, and to implement a core idea of education is to learn to be "lazy".
First thing: be a mother who is "lazy" than her child
Because of my "laziness", the mother-in-law did not nag less. When the child plays with the toys and the scattered toys fill the living room, I will sit on the sofa and watch the child put it into the toy box little by little.
When the child is more than a year old, he can take a spoon, so I let him eat by himself. Although the table will be dirty, I don't dislike it at all, but will praise him: the way you eat by yourself, really handsome!
When the child is less than two years old, he wears his own clothes and shoes, although he will always wear them wrong and need me to correct them again, but I have never bothered. The more times it is wrong, the more the child himself knows what is right.
When the child is in kindergarten, he has a small alarm clock in his room. When the alarm went off, he got up on his own, got dressed, and never had to shout from his mother. However, because he did not arrive late or leave early, the full attendance award issued by the kindergarten, I will put it in the most conspicuous place in the family, that is the pride of my son and me.
As my son grew older, I began to become "weak" in front of him, cooking, washing dishes, mounding, washing clothes, there were always some tasks that I could not complete, and I needed my son to help.
In fact, when many parents criticize their children's independence is too poor, the first thing they should reflect on is their own way of education. Do you manage too much of your child's own affairs? The responsibilities in your family are not borne by the children at all. We are willing to use children, not afraid of children's hard work, trouble, children's independence can be exercised. If your child, from an early age, is used to doing things, he will only feel that it is a kind of happiness to be needed by his family.
The second thing: through reading more, let the children educate themselves and cultivate a child with good personality and high emotional intelligence.
Children's personality growth and behavior management cannot be formed in a day or two. So I said that if the child has already gone to elementary school and junior high school, you will think of cultivating the child's personality and behavior habits, and it will be too late.
The child's personality quality, behavior management, need is the influence of the ear, instilled a little bit of correct values and behavioral norms in the child every day, a few years later, you see a particularly good child.
In terms of cultivating children's personality qualities and developing children's good behavior habits, I use the way of telling children picture book stories every night. And after I finished talking, I would be appropriately lazy, and I said, "Mom doesn't remember, or baby you can tell your mother a story!" "In this way, the baby sorts out his language through the picture, although it is a little difficult at first, but slowly the expression ability is getting weaker and weaker."
Parent-child reading or telling stories to children may seem like a very simple thing, but each story has a different plot and contains different truths. It often includes children's mental health education, interpersonal skills, self-safety protection, patriotic, family-loving, and other-loving quality education, as well as a lot of knowledge, and many other aspects of learning content.
In fact, through listening to stories and telling stories, children are also a process of self-reflection and improving their expression ability and improving emotional intelligence. Why?
First of all, listening to more stories can make children become knowledgeable.
My son has read the cartoon version of the four masterpieces and many idioms since he was a child, and when he talks to adults, he is not afraid of the stage, he talks confidently, and his language expression ability and logical thinking ability are very strong.
As a form of language expression, the story not only exercises the child's language expression ability, but also prompts his brain to constantly think, imagine, judge, analyze, read the story can make the child become quick thinking, and then tell it, the child can speak the Tao.
Secondly, children can also become people with high emotional intelligence by listening to stories.
Many stories tell children how to become a valuable, popular and happy person. Through reading stories, children understand the truth, goodness and beauty of the world, and also understand right and wrong, so that children know what is right, how to get along with others, and be a person with the right three views.