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What they want, do not dare to fight, timid, lack of courage, afraid of being rejected and sad, not only children, but even adults have such a psychology.
After being rejected, the little girl hid behind her mother with her neck shrunk in tears, and her mother: her heart was broken
The little girl, who is more than 2 years old, sees the free balloon at the entrance of the mall, she wants but does not dare to say, so on the way home, her mother plays the aunt and daughter who sends balloons to practice, encouraging her to express her needs.
Little girl: "Auntie, can I take a balloon?" ”
Mother: "Little friend, you are so brave, I can give you one." ”
Thank you Auntie.
You are welcome.
After practicing this several times, the child dared to express it and was very happy to get what he wanted.
However, in real life, it is not every time you open your mouth to get what your child wants, and your child will be rejected, so the mother suddenly wants to reject her child once.
When the child happily says, Auntie, can I take a balloon? Mom said, sorry little friend, this balloon has been asked for by others, can not give you.
After being rejected, the little girl was instantly sad and did not know what to do. Mom said, you can say it's okay, I'll come back next time.
The little girl was still very sad, hiding behind her mother with tears in her neck, and in a moment the tears flowed out. The mother saw the child's grievances and her heart was broken, but she did not stop the game and continued to teach the child to speak.
"When we give someone a request, they may agree or they may refuse, which is normal. If someone else agrees, we say thank you, and if we don't, we say it's okay, it's okay, next time we try again. ”
So, summoning up the courage, the mother and the little girl rehearsed again, when the little girl said happily, can the aunt give me a balloon? The answer she heard was, sorry little friend, this balloon has been given to someone else, can I give it to you next time?
The little girl still could not accept rejection, and he was happy that he suddenly lowered his head, tugged at the corner of his clothes, and hid behind his mother again sadly.
Mom said, it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter if others refuse, Mom gives you a courage candy, after you eat it, the next time someone else rejects you will feel that it doesn't matter, okay?
Mom rewarded the girl with a candy, saying that it was a courage candy, you will become brave when you eat it, oh, you said to your mother: It's okay.
The little girl finally came out of her sadness and jumped out loud and said, it's okay, it's okay to be rejected, I'm brave.
Mom: Dear daughter, people can't live in praise forever, and Mom hopes that you must not only have the courage to reject others, but also the courage to be rejected.
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Parenting Growth Method Message:
Yes, the road to growth is not smooth, parents can not always protect their children, in order to protect their children from harm, can grow up physically and mentally healthy and happy, teaching children a kind of ability is very important, this ability is "anti-frustration ability".
Especially after the child goes to kindergarten, he or she must face the setbacks that may be encountered in the learning life alone.
For example, being criticized, misunderstood, excluded, denied, fearful, inferior, etc. will appear in front of children, this is life.
Children encounter things, especially when they encounter unpleasant things, crying and avoidance can not solve the problem, parents only give children a good "frustration education" (anti-business education), so that children learn to encounter setbacks can face calmly, and know how to solve, slowly children will become strong and brave, confident and independent, and it will be easier to succeed in the future.
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