Some time ago, a friend said that he saw such a thing when he took his children out to play: another parent took his child to play, and encountered a staff member dressed in a T-Rex doll costume trying to perform for tourists. But because of the huge size of the doll, this Tyrannosaurus rex accidentally frightened a little boy between inadvertent turns.
The little boy was frightened, and suddenly cried, and the boy's parents saw that the child was frightened, and immediately became angry, and kicked the T-Rex staff a few times. And the staff member himself is not malicious, just trying to perform conscientiously just for the sake of work. Heavy doll props were kicked sideways, and the staff felt very aggrieved.
The man said he beat the T-Rex only because he scared his children. But as everyone knows, this practice has aroused the anger of the surrounding onlookers. Tourists around have questioned whether this excessive action is really a protection for children.
First, overprotective also makes it easy for children to be self-centered
If the child has any harm in kindergarten or life, such as an argument with a child, or accidentally falls, the parents will show great concern, it is likely that the child will become unscrupulous under this kind of family education.
Because he knows that no matter what he does, parents will have no bottom line on their side, so it is easy for children to become reluctant to consider the feelings of others and gradually become self-centered. Especially after causing harm to others or to society, they subconsciously feel that there are parents to take care of themselves anyway, and I am not afraid of anything.
Once this consciousness is formed, they will easily become giant babies in their future lives.
Second, blur the child's concept of right and wrong, let the child establish incorrect values.
In the case of the father in the story, for example, this indiscriminate act of hurting others is indeed repulsive. If parents are so educated, it is naturally difficult for children to be taught healthy values. That is why it is said that where there is a Father, there must be a Son.
Incorrect values and clear right and wrong, in the future children's lives will also be vulnerable to social difficulties, no one wants to deal with such people, naturally will affect the child's work and life.
Third, inappropriate parental practices may cause children to develop phobias
Or take the father in the story as an example, when the father's approach is criticized by the people around him, the child will naturally feel very ashamed when he looks at it. Especially if there is a conflict between the child and the child of the same age, the parents will be angry and find someone to settle the account, and the child will naturally lose the prestige among the friends.
Over time, parental practices plague the child's life, and the child will feel very troubled, and those sensitive children may suffer from social phobia and cannot establish the right social area and make real good friends like others. Even in the future marriage, due to the excessive protection of parents and interference in the child's marital status, there will be large and small problems.
In fact, parents' love and protection for their children should be based on the perspective of benefiting the growth of children. Don't be angry because your child has suffered any grievances, and parents will be angry and find others to settle accounts.
Today's topic: Do you agree with the father's approach at the beginning of the article? Have you ever met such a parent? Feel free to leave a message in the comments section.
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