Many parents know that companionship is the best education, but do not know what real companionship education is.
First of all, accompaniment is not the same as accompaniment.
Wherever the child goes, the parent's figure follows where it is, which is the accompaniment. A mother who is very concerned about the growth of her children, after resigning, went to the big city to accompany her children to study, three meals a day, and took good care, but this is accompanied, not accompanied.
Second, custody is not the same as companionship.
Parents keep next to the child, constantly reminding the child, this can't, that can't work, and the child doesn't do it, just do this and that for the child, afraid of the child falling, afraid of the child being wronged, afraid of the child taking a detour.
Such companionship, at best, is the care of the nanny, nor is it companionship.
Third, material is not the same as companionship.
Divorced parents or parents who are busy with business, in order to make up for the guilt of ignoring their children, as long as there is time to accompany their children, or as long as the children have requirements, they will spend money instead of companionship, or promise, the child you took the first place, I will reward you something, such an approach, can only let the parents have a little psychological balance in their own hearts, but they can not fill the emptiness of the lack of love and care in the child's heart.
Fourth, preaching is not the same as companionship.
The thinker Rousseau said that the three most useless methods of education in the world are: reasoning, temper tantrums, and deliberate touching.
Many parents rarely spend time with their children, taking the opportunity to constantly talk about various truths, talk about their own hardships, and say that all this is for their children. Such companionship can only make the child feel that the parents are nagging, and they are getting farther and farther away from the parents.
Fifth, entrustment is not the same as companionship.
Many parents understand companionship as finding a good tutoring class for their children, finding a good teacher and a good school for their children, which is not companionship, because the family gives good body teaching, morality, personality soundness, psychological counseling, and these education entrusted to others can only be missing and cannot play the role of root.
True companionship is not just to accompany the child, but to accompany the child to grow up together, learn together, make progress together, and pay attention to the child's heart.
A father is in business and very busy, but he always takes the family on a self-driving trip during the winter and summer vacations, or longer holidays, and teaches the children how to plan routes, how to order food and accommodation, and what the children can do must be let the children do. He called this way the Journey of Thousands of Miles, and the child's long-term insight in the process of seeing the world.
Even if a mother is busy, she also has to read with her children, she believes that reading is the best spiritual nutrition, the best spiritual wealth, so that children develop reading habits, everything learns from books, growth will be fast.
This is the best way for children to grow up by reading thousands of books.
The most important means of developing intelligence is reading, which has been confirmed by modern psychological research.
A person's level of intelligence is directly proportional to the amount of reading: reading broadens one's insights and allows one to acquire knowledge that goes beyond everyday life.
Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "A child who does not read is a potentially poor student in learning." This is an important conclusion he has reached after years of research and observation in the front line of teaching.
Therefore, parents must remember that true companionship is not to accompany the child, but to accompany the child to grow up together, learn together, make progress together, and pay attention to the child's heart, especially the channeling of emotions.
Responsible Editor | Chen Yuanlong
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