Chinese adopted sons, most of them believed in "poor children" in the past, believing that they should be materially harsh on boys.
In fact, this understanding is more one-sided, and the more important significance of raising boys "poor" is actually to let them temper, exercise and cultivate the value brought to children by the personal feelings of "poverty" and "hardship", the tempering, exercise and cultivation of children's will, quality, character, and mentality, rather than blindly controlling the needs of materials and money, resulting in their extreme psychological lack.
As people's living standards improve, it is common for parents to give boys a little pocket money.
Parents giving boys pocket money may be motivated by different considerations. There are such wealthy families that believe that money is a sign of identity, and when boys have money, they will have prestige among their peers; There are such parents who want to compensate for the embarrassment of their childhood; More working families are afraid that their boys will not be able to lift their heads in front of others, and they will have to give their boys a certain amount of pocket money.
When boys have money in their hands, they are followed by social problems caused by the inappropriate use of pocket money by boys. Giving boys too much pocket money in their hands is also easy for boys to develop the bad habits of high consumption ahead, extravagance, good food and lazy cooking, and all the money.
Giving boys pocket money is the first step for boys to learn how to manage money, and parents need to grasp the following principles about how to give boys pocket money:
First, when parents give their boys pocket money, do not use the boy's academic performance to improve or how much housework they have done for their parents. It is normal for boys to do some housework, and they cannot be rewarded with pocket money, which can both cultivate their labor habits and their sense of obligation as family members. If the boy asks for pocket money to help with housework, the parents should also refuse. Similarly, too much pocket money should not be rewarded just because boys have made progress in their test scores, which is to use money as a material stimulus, hinder the physical and mental development of boys, and be harmful to correct learning attitudes.
Second, pocket money can not be given as you want, it is best to distribute it regularly. Pocket money should not be too much, too much money will dilute the boy's financial concept. If you can provide boys with clear and practical guidelines for spending money, you are more likely to produce boys who will be able to gain a foothold in a competitive commodity society in the future.
Third, parents should let boys experience from an early age feelings of regret and helplessness because they have no money or insufficient money to buy what they can't wait for. This emotion makes it difficult for boys to forget, and it will affect boys for a long time. This not only enables boys to further recognize the value and importance of money, but also acts as a catalyst for the boy's imagination, who will design, plan, and thus grow their wisdom in pursuit of something more valuable and beautiful.
Blind money control and pay attention to "poor" maintenance are not advisable. Boys need hands-on practice to know how to make money and how to spend it smartly. If you don't let boys understand these truths, then you're effectively depriving them of the self-reliance they need to succeed on the road of life. If parents can let boys establish correct values and consumption concepts as soon as possible, it is a precious gift to boys' lives.
In short, in the process of growing up in boys, the use of money is a very important lesson, which will affect the interpersonal relationships and personality and psychological development of boys throughout their lives, whether it is too restrictive or overly laissez-faire, it is not appropriate.
Giving boys pocket money is not just about meeting their needs, but it can teach boys to be economically minded, train boys to develop good financial habits, and this kind of education should be done sooner rather than later. Only when a boy who is educated in a good view of money grows up can he have a normal mentality about money and handle the relationship between good people and money.