Why are some people keen to show happiness and love?
Si Si began to brush the screen in the circle of friends after falling in love, today posted a photo with friends in the car with ten fingers interlocking, tomorrow posted a bouquet of roses received, and the day after tomorrow sunbaged two people's warm dinner. Friends also cooperated, gave him praise in time, and some people commented on him, so happy, so envious. Si Si was getting happier and happier, and the frequency of sunbathing was gradually increasing. In addition to the show of love in the circle of friends, there are also a few scenes of show love in reality. There are also many couples around us who have shown a siamese baby pattern in front of everyone, openly greeting me and me.
Many people can't help but ask, why are people in love so keen to show happiness and love? The reasons for showing affection are:
First, the externalization of psychological motivation, that is, to show the outside world your possession of someone. The act of sunshine happiness has little to do with passion, not because you can't help but show affection in public and in public and in accordance with your own behavior, but through this behavior, you tell everyone that we are lovers, thereby reducing the right of some potential competitors to declare their possession. Xiu'en loves people hope that the outside world will bind them both together and appear in our form, so as to strengthen the relationship between the two. For example, we can often see friends who send wedding photos and marriage license photos in the circle of friends, which on the one hand is to show everyone their marital status, on the other hand, they also tell the parties that everyone knows that we are married, and you have to be better to me.
Second, the management of self-image. On social networks, people often have the behavior of self-image management, that is, they want to show their popular, good, and excellent side to others. For example, upload a good photo of yourself, show yourself beautiful, upload a photo of your partner, show yourself the sweetness of love, and so on. The act of publicly displaying affection is part of the construction of self-image. To show yourself is popular and attractive.
Some people may have to say that good feelings are their own business, is it necessary to dry all day? The answer is necessary. Psychologists believe that in society, people are compared to actors on stage. The stage is roughly divided into two areas: the front desk and the backstage. Everyone is at the front desk, that is, in a place that can be seen by others, using appearance and demeanor to perform a message that they want to be accepted, and the backstage is a place where the actor leaves the front desk to rest and relieve tension. Today's social networks have perfectly moved the backstage to the foreground, and almost everyone is a 24/7 actor, regardless of whether they are in front of or behind.
Texts and pictures posted on social platforms are very safe masks that we can. Take them to perform their ideal image, think about the process that most people send in the circle of friends now. Take more than a dozen photos to choose from, then choose the most beautiful one, carefully filter the beautiful scenery, and finally edit a paragraph of text that looks very appropriate. You can express your casual feelings and want to get more praise.
Third, one party in the relationship is not confident enough in the feelings, hoping to get more attention from the other party through this form. The idea in the previous example is very intimate with the boyfriend in a crowded situation, but in private, the two people are much more prosaic. Si Si also confessed that she was worried that her boyfriend would break up with him. Therefore, the act of show love is undoubtedly a party pursuing a higher sense of satisfaction and security in the relationship. There is no specific conclusion on whether Xiu En'ai promotes emotions or not. The key is that it is best for both parties in love to fully communicate, understand each other's views on the behavior of show love, and try to tacitly unify the behavior of the two people. The show must be reasonable, otherwise it is easy to bring crisis to the feelings because of some imbalance.