Recently, I saw netizens send a small short article about children playing with computers and mobile phones, this netizen said that there are two rich people who do not let their children play computers and mobile phones when they are young, and believe that the computers and mobile phone products designed by the rich are addictive to other children in the world, and the children of the rich can continue to stand at the top of the pyramid.
The following picture is the netizen's small short article:
- The situation of the children around me playing with electronics
My son is in the second grade, surrounded by friends from kindergarten, and now classmates, there are 6 children who often play with my son, including 3 friends in kindergarten, and 3 classmates in the second grade. I am familiar with these 6 children because they meet often, and most of them often have dinner together or go to amusement parks.
These 6 children have 2 never move electronic products (strictly controlled by parents), 3 children can play mobile games, parents have a prescribed time, weekday school can only play 1 hour on weekends, winter and summer vacations can play 1-2 hours a day. The other child plays a little more than other children, does not play when going to school on weekdays, can play for several hours a day on weekends, and can play for several hours every day during winter and summer vacations, and his parents have charged this child with a lot of money to buy equipment.
So, 50% of the kids around me can play mobile games, but there is a time limit. 33% of children are restricted from using mobile phones and are never allowed to play mobile games. 16% of children can play mobile games, play mobile games a little more than other children, and can charge money into the game. The situation of the children around me playing mobile games is not reflective of all children's situations, but it is also close to reality. That is to say, nearly one-third of children are strictly restricted from using mobile phones. Of course, the proportion of mobile games that may be played after the upper grades of primary school will gradually increase.
In short, ordinary families allow children to play mobile games, and there are also families that strictly control not to let children play. It's not just the children of these two rich people who don't play with computers and mobile phones, but many children in ordinary families are strictly restricted from using computers and mobile phones (only to use computers and mobile phones to play games or other entertainment). In fact, the parents of ordinary families have done more than the rich in controlling electronic products.
- Elon Musk, the world's richest man, was addicted to computers as a child
Elon Musk didn't play mobile games as a kid because he didn't have a smartphone. He was addicted to computer games and made his own mini-games.
Elon Musk, who just became the world's richest man last year, is the best and most successful person now. His success is not that he is the richest man in the world, but that his creativity is invincible, with the top creativity of human beings, which can be changed from nothing.
Musk's mom's "Life is Up to Me" writes that Musk made a game at the age of 12 and sold it for $500, and also appeared in the local newspaper, which his mother has always collected. Musk's autobiography, Iron Man of Silicon Valley, also documents the incident. It can be seen that Musk played computers around the age of 10, it is also possible to start contacting computers at the age of 5 or 6, in that era computer games are even more "flood beasts", musk family education concept is "laissez-faire", so playing computer games in his family is not nothing.
Musk played with the computer when he was a child, and he made a website as an adult, and later sold a lot of money, laying an economic foundation for his future career. It can be seen that Musk's playing computer games when he was a child did not affect his success, but was driven to success by this.
- The first true cyborg (cyborg) in human history was born
To tell the truth, in 2019, the first real cyborg (cyborg) in human history was born, it is called Peter 2.0, and those who are interested can learn more about it themselves. What does this have to do with whether children play computer and mobile phone games when they are young, I think it has a lot to do with it.
The emergence of electronic humans can see the general trend of the future world, and the era of human children playing mud and running around the streets has passed and will not come back. In the future, children's play is more exciting and interesting, children may use virtual bodies to drill in the heavenly enclaves, or they may use virtual bodies to play with mud, which can make mud turn golden and also have various fragrances, as long as you create anything.
Therefore, the delusion of letting children live according to the past model, without computers and mobile phones, basically can not be realized.
- Teacher Yin Jianli's daughter Yuanyuan
Teacher Yin Jianli, who specializes in educational research and writing, her daughter Yuanyuan was admitted to the Ivy League school, and in many of Yin Jianli's books, she mentioned that her daughter played games since she was a child, and consciously reduced the time to play games when she was about to take the college entrance examination, preparing for exams, etc. This matter shows from the side that professionals engaged in education research work do not feel that games are harmful to children's growth. And when Yuanyuan first started playing the game, he had to play 7-8 hours a day, and Teacher Yin Jianli did not have too much restriction.
- Situation of my son playing with his phone
As mentioned above, the 6 children I am most familiar with playing with mobile phones, my son plays a little more than these 6 children, which means that my son spends a long time playing with mobile phones among children of the same age.
My son not only has a long time to play mobile games, his time outdoors and playing around is also the same age children are long, only the time to write homework is the least among children of the same age, his time is to use homework time for various games.
My son grew up in a pile of picture books, and I read him nearly a thousand books and took him around (daily around the city, not around the world, there is no such condition). My home atmosphere is relaxed and there are few restrictions on children. In this case, when I was 4 years old, I was equipped with a mobile phone, mainly using WeChat to video chat with my grandparents and grandparents, and then I saw my relatives' children playing "Minecraft", my son also wanted to play this game, I downloaded it for my child, and later played "Peace Elite" and "Sausage Party", and only played "Minecraft" and watched the commentary of this game in the past year.
In the past few days, I have seen my son record game videos and magic videos, and magic videos are the kind of things that suddenly come out of short videos now, using some functions in the app. My son is 7 and a half years old, the video recorded is very simple, he himself tried to use the function of the app to make the video, this is not learning! Isn't that how people who record short videos to support their families now work in this way?
- My opinion
I want to use facts to show that children playing computers and mobile phones are not useless, electronic products are not "flood beasts", whether they should play games and how long they play every day can not be consistent with other children, even if they are not addicted to the game time, only suitable for their own families and their own children are the most suitable.
In the past, children played mud all over the street, that era has passed, contemporary children just like electronic products, no matter how you accompany children, no matter how many books you take your children to read, when children need to develop abstract thinking skills after childhood, they will like electronic products, strictly control children do not let play mobile phones, it is very likely that children will begin to indulge as soon as they leave their parents. This may also destroy the parent-child relationship, the child is not able to be controlled when he is not able to, the heart is not happy and will not say, because the child especially understands that parents do not like to play with computers and mobile phones, such things are many, these things are one of the reasons why children do not want to live with their parents when they grow up, which is control and anti-control.
Raising children can not be completely in accordance with the ancient method of raising children, nor can it be completely based on the experience of parents, and it is better to pay more attention to the research results in the fields of science and technology, education, child psychology, philosophy and so on. Raising children now has a lot to do with science and technology, because the past technology development is slow, human life and work changes are not big enough, even the current smart phone is not subversive enough, the next few decades human beings may move towards semi-mechanization, our children may no longer be organic life, brain-computer combination will not be long, then the brain and computer are not easy to distinguish, so that back to play without playing mobile phones will have a more relaxed attitude.
I see my son playing with his phone for a long time, but now the level of anxiety is getting lighter and lighter, because I know that my judgment is limited, I know too little about the world, including children's things, and I can't take measures easily. So I only try my best to increase my cognition, maintain an observational attitude towards the child's affairs, and take the child's needs as the starting point to meet the real needs of the child. Chicken yourself more when you have the ability, not chicken children.
In addition to meeting the real needs of the children, I will also provide children with time to go out and play many times a week, play with classmates 1-2 times a week, and play with our family every weekend to try to enrich the children's lives. My son has very little time to do his homework, so he has more time to play than his peers, and my son either goes out and plays or plays Minecraft, very fulfillingly, and now the second grade is still in a relaxed state.
Your child does not need to live the same life as other children, you think how to live more comfortably on the line, I just want to tell you that the mobile phone is not so terrible, my child is also playing with mobile phones, doing a good job of family work, enriching children's lives, reducing stress for school-age children, this is the most important, as for children playing with mobile phones is not the most important.
There is a small proportion of children who are really addicted to electronic products, that is, the kind of real life is unhappy, the family atmosphere is depressed, the pressure of parents to the child is too large, this kind of children play electronic products is not to play, is to relieve. Treat such children with caution and caution to prevent extreme behaviors. The way to treat such children is to identify with the child, first let the child play with electronic products, do not blindly control, let the child become happy in real life and then make the next step.
Note: The image comes from the Internet.