When taking the subway, I encountered such a scene: a child took the subway, because he was hungry, noisily wanted to eat, but the subway was running, the mother and son did not arrive at the station, the child was noisy in public, and the mother did not know what to do.
Someone next to me said: These bear children are under-packed, and parents can really put down their hearts to clean up and obey.
In fact, the reason why children are annoying is not so nature, but they are not yet sensible, it is difficult to control their emotions when they face unsatisfactory, and they cry and make a fuss on impulse, at this time, parents should have patience to teach and guide them to learn how to abide by social order in the end.
When parents face such an unreasonable situation as their children in public, what should be the best solution?
First, better guide children
When the child is noisy, parents can distract the child by telling the child a story, or playing games with the child, although the problem of the child crying in public cannot be completely solved for the time being, but the child can be quieted down as soon as possible, do not add trouble to the person next to him. Parents should not scold their children in public, otherwise they will not only disturb others, but also hurt their children's self-esteem.
When the child returns home after ensuring the child's emotional stability, the parents will analyze and guide the child for today's crying behavior, and many times the child is not ignorant, but may only temporarily not anticipate the impact of his behavior on others. Wait until the next time the child has emotions in public, but he does not have a seizure, parents can give him praise and encouragement, give him affirmation in time, and the formation of good habits in the future children will play a very important role.
Second, teach children to have a concept of time
Whether it is in the mall or waiting for the car, it takes a certain amount of time for the child to wait, if the child does not have the concept of time and does not have the patience to wait, then they are easy to quarrel. Therefore, parents should learn to let their children know the time, let them know that no matter what they do, they will queue and wait in order to maintain good order.
For example, when the parent is preparing dinner, but the child argues about wanting to eat a snack, the parent can tell him, "The mother is making a good meal, it takes time to make him delicious, if you want to eat now, you will not have the appetite to eat the meal made by the mother." "In this way, children are allowed to weigh the pros and cons so that they learn to choose."
Third, establish a clear bottom line
Many children cry just to make parents compromise, which also means that in the past parent-child relationship, parents did not establish a good bottom line concept for their children. For the needs of children, parents can agree in advance, "If you have any ideas to communicate with parents and parents, but if you are using crying to solve the problem, it is absolutely useless." ”
In this way, after establishing a good communication relationship, when encountering things that the child wants to do but the parents do not agree with, the child will also actively give feedback and communication to the parents.
Secondly, it is necessary to pay attention to a point: children cry in public, and many parents blindly agree to the excessive requirements of their children for a moment of face, which is actually very unworthy of promotion, because over time children will use the psychology of their parents, and they will be more inching forward in the future. Parents stay calm and give their children enough time to reflect so that they can regulate their emotions.
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