Since ancient times, everyone has paid attention to the right door when getting married. If the husband and wife are not right at home, then in later life, it is easy to have a situation of disagreement between the three views and even quarrels, which can easily lead to the dissolution of their marriage.
In ancient times, there were more phenomenons of requiring husband and wife to be the right door, and in today's society, everyone will try to be the door to the door, which is not necessary, even if some couples, their families are not equal, but as long as they really love each other, parents will agree to them together.
But the demands of antiquity are not entirely wrong. In today's society, there are more and more conflicts between the three views brought about by family circumstances. Husband and wife have different views, then it is easy to divorce, even if they love before marriage, after marriage, it is easy to quarrel because of various trivial matters.
Therefore, girls should also listen to their parents' advice before getting married, don't insist on it, after all, their parents are people who come over, they are also for your own good, don't hurt their hearts.
Zhang Luojun thought that if he studied well from an early age and got ahead, he could change the fate of his family and let his mother no longer have to be wronged at home. It was not easy for my mother to work hard to get herself out of that small mountain village to go to school. So after marriage, he wanted to take his mother to his side so that she could enjoy happiness. But unexpectedly, it pushed her into another fire pit.
01. Gao Ruirui admires Zhang Luojun, violently pursues Zhang Luojun, and finally falls in love.
Zhang Luojun was born in the countryside, and his family was a boy. The father's preference for sons and daughters is very serious. Although Zhang Luojun is a boy, he usually loves Zhang Luojun very much, but he has never had a good face for Zhang Luojun's mother.
Because Zhang Luojun's family is very poor, Zhang Luojun's mother usually needs to do several jobs to support this big family. Zhang Luojun's father was idle, and he either drank or went out to play mahjong all day.
Zhang Luojun knew the situation at home from a very young age. He vowed to study hard, grow up to be ahead, and repay his mother. Zhang Luojun is also very successful, since elementary school, his results have been among the best, with his own skills to be admitted to the local good junior high school, high school. Every year, tuition and living expenses were waived because of his excellent grades.
In this way, during the college entrance examination, he was admitted to a very famous university with the first result in the whole school. It was here that he met Gao Ruirui.
Gao Ruirui had just entered the university, and at the opening ceremony, she fell in love with Zhang Luojun, who was giving a speech. She felt that Zhang Luojun was very handsome and his temperament was also very elegant. In line with her mate selection criteria, after countless hardships, she got Zhang Luojun's contact information and launched a fierce pursuit of Zhang Luojun.
At the beginning, Zhang Luojun only wanted to study, so he rejected Gao Ruirui, but Gao Ruirui did not give up. And after many inquiries, she also knew Zhang Luojun's family situation.
After she knew Zhang Luojun's family situation, she did not look down on Zhang Luojun, but instead admired Zhang Luojun very much. Gao Ruirui's family is very well-off, so she will also help Zhang Luojun within her own ability and without hurting Zhang Luojun's self-esteem.
Over time, Zhang Luojun was impressed by this warm, careful girl and agreed to Gao Ruirui's pursuit.
In the four years of college, the relationship between the two people has been very good. Zhang Luojun knows that his family is not well-off and there is no way to buy expensive gifts for Gao Ruirui, but he will pay special attention to Gao Ruirui in many details. Gao Ruirui will also be touched by these details of Zhang Luojun, and her feelings for Zhang Luojun will become deeper and deeper.
02. Two people enter marriage, and Gao Ruirui is pampered and proud.
Soon, the two graduated from college. Both men got a good job locally. After working for a while, Gao Ruirui wanted to marry Zhang Luojun. At first, Zhang Luojun was very hesitant because he felt that he could not give Gao Ruirui a good life, but Gao Ruirui said that she did not care about herself, as long as she could be with Zhang Luojun.
In this way, the two people went to see each other's parents, and Zhang Luojun's parents were very satisfied with Gao Ruirui, after all, Gao Ruirui's family was also very rich, and Gao Ruirui was also very beautiful and had a very good personality. Gao Ruirui's parents were somewhat dissatisfied with Zhang Luojun, after all, no one wanted their daughter to marry into such a poor family, and once she married, she would be wronged. But their impression of Zhang Luojun as a person is still very good.
In the end, Gao Ruirui's parents could not but Gao Ruirui liked it, and also agreed to the marriage. When the two families discussed the marriage, Gao Ruirui's parents were distressed by their daughter and bought a house for their two children in the local area.
The two people got married in this way, and their life after marriage was also very happy.
Zhang Luojun knows that he has wronged Gao Ruirui, so he never lets Gao Ruirui do housework at home, and every time there is something in the family, he does it himself, and the family meal is also done by himself. Gao Ruirui only dressed herself beautifully.
After marriage, although Gao Ruirui did not say it, there was always a sense of superiority in the body, so Gao Ruirui enjoyed Zhang Luojun's care with peace of mind.
03. Gao Ruirui intensified and let her mother-in-law work for her.
After the two people got married, Zhang Luojun thought that his life was better now, so he consulted with Gao Ruirui and took his mother to enjoy the blessings. After Gao Ruirui listened, although she was a little unhappy, she didn't say anything because she was Zhang Luojun's mother.
The mother-in-law originally did not want to come, on the one hand, she was afraid of disturbing their lives, on the other hand, her family did not spend much money to marry Gao Ruirui home, and she always felt embarrassed in front of Gao Ruirui. But Zhang Luojun insisted, and the mother-in-law still came.
After the mother-in-law came, Gao Ruirui still did nothing, and when there was something to instruct Zhang Luojun, sometimes Zhang Luojun was not there, she instructed her mother-in-law, completely unaware of respect, and used her mother-in-law as a nanny. If the mother-in-law did something wrong, she would also severely reprimand the mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law never told Zhang Luojun, for fear of ruining Zhang Luojun's hard-won happy life, and only dared to cry secretly behind his back
By chance, Zhang Luojun went home to get something and saw Gao Ruirui scolding his mother. I was very uncomfortable. But he didn't say anything at the moment.
After leaving home, Zhang Luojun, a phoenix man, thought to himself: His mother has been wronged all his life, and after marriage, he took her to enjoy the blessings, who knew that he pushed her into the fire.
04. Zhang Luojun and Gao Ruirui discussed fruitlessly, and the two eventually parted ways.
After returning home this day, Zhang Luojun went to discuss with Gao Ruirui, can you be kind to my mother, she has suffered all her life in her hometown, and I want her to enjoy happiness.
Who knows, Gao Ruirui said dismissively, she came to take care of me better than when I was in the countryside? What's wrong with me asking her to do some work? Did you do something wrong and not let people say it? This house is all our family's, why do you say I?
As soon as Zhang Luojun heard Gao Ruirui say this, the anger came up at once and gave Gao Ruirui a slap. He also said to Gao Ruirui, let's get a divorce, you are not suitable for me.
Gao Ruirui was shocked that Zhang Luojun treated himself like this, and immediately returned to his mother's house, and the next day, the two went to divorce.
After the divorce, Zhang Luojun took his mother out to rent a house, and with his own ability, he also let his mother live a good life.
In today's society, there are some couples whose wives' family situation is better than their husbands, resulting in a sense of superiority in front of their husbands' families. As a result, she does not have a lot of respect for all in-laws, including her husband. She would arrogantly instruct her husband's family to help her.
But as a wife in the family, you should be filial to your husband's parents, even if they did not give birth to you, they also gave birth to your husband, gave you such a good lover, you should have respect for them and should not direct them. This is a very wrong behavior.
As a husband, if your wife is disrespectful to your parents, after you know it, you should stop him in time, and you should not let this phenomenon continue to appear and promote her arrogance. You should also talk to your wife in time.
Husband and wife should help each other, the two big families should be grateful for your help, but you can't let the other family be grateful to you because your own family helps each other's family, this is a wrong idea, you must correct it in time.