Daughters are the pearls of the palm of some families, and they are beautiful and colorful children who should be raised and make them proud. For some families, daughters are a burden, a money-losing commodity, and a tool used as a stepping stone for their sons after the birth of their sons.
These girls are so pitiful, but persuading them to break off relations with their original families will never solve the root problem, because we have heard many stories now, those patriarchal parents, moral kidnapping, sucking their daughter's blood, and dragging their daughters everywhere, afraid that their daughters will run away.
So in the end, this is not a problem that can be solved by avoidance or harsh words, and the problem can only be fundamentally solved after the parents realize their mistake, or the huge cost of their mistake.
However, this is almost impossible to achieve, so we can only persuade those girls to be brave and resist, after all, society is now just, as long as you make decisions for your own life, someone will lend a helping hand. And the most important thing is to recognize the true affection and not to be kidnapped.
01. Parents prefer sons to daughters, and always have sons
Xiao Li was born in a family with ordinary conditions, and Xiao Li clearly knew from the beginning of her understanding that her family conditions were ordinary, entirely because her parents insisted on giving birth to a son, resulting in four children in the family.
Xiaoli is the second eldest, and has an older sister, a younger sister and a younger brother. Originally, before the brother was born, their three sisters had a good life, after all, those things in the family, just these three children, can be divided equally, should be like that.
But after the birth of the younger brother, everything gradually changed, the parents regarded the younger brother as a treasure, and the family conditions were not so good, so naturally they could only exploit the three daughters to create a good life and conditions for the younger brother.
In addition, their parents also asked their three sisters to let their younger brothers everywhere, Xiaoli and the eldest sister were already more than ten years old at the time, so they did not bother to argue with their brothers. However, the younger sister is only two years older than her younger brother, so she always does not understand the eccentricity of her parents, and as a result, she can only be criticized and scolded.
And as the days go by, such a life also makes the three sisters gradually chill, although they are still sensible and humble at home, but Xiaoli clearly knows that her sister, sister and herself are thinking of finding some adults and leaving this home that is completely unappreciated.
Later, the three sisters were admitted to college through their own efforts, facing the problems brought about by family conditions, the three sisters resolutely preferred to work and leave home. Fortunately, the parents felt that their daughters could help the family after college, so they did not object.
In this way, the three sisters are on their own sides, but fortunately, they live their own lives, and they do not have to give anything good to their brothers, as long as they have spare money in hand, they can fully treat themselves.
However, the good days are fleeting, and after the three sisters have graduated from college, their brother has a stubborn personality because he was pampered by his parents since childhood, and he does not like to study the college entrance examination, but how can his son's parents bear to blame, and finally decided to spend money to let their son go to college, and these tens of thousands of dollars, the parents turned their heads and began to ask for them three sisters.
02. Parents keep asking for it, and younger brothers gradually become habits
But at this time, in addition to the eldest sister, the other two people have no improvement in work, especially Xiaoli's sister, who has just graduated to work, and the salary is even difficult to feed and clothe, where to take the money to the younger brother?
But how can the parents consider this, open their mouths and close their mouths are regrets to let them go to college, and listening to these words, the three sisters of Xiaoli are also very uncomfortable, and finally after discussion, the eldest sister decided to pay for her own money, and also emptied the savings she had saved in recent years.
However, this is not the ending, but the beginning, watching the eldest daughter take 50,000 yuan in one breath, Xiaoli's parents feel that it is easy for the three daughters to earn money, not only directly let them bear the living expenses and tuition fees of their brothers, but also began to ask them for money every month, and in order to maintain their son's luxurious life, they want not a few.
Fortunately, the three sisters worked together and helped each other, so although it was a little difficult, they also fulfilled their parents' requirements and lived their lives at the same time.
But they can't be parents all their lives, the younger brother's cash machine, with the eldest sister's marriage, the eldest sister is not willing to be a brother demon, nor is she willing to affect her marriage because of her original family.
Xiao li and her sister had no choice but to choose to forgive, and the eldest sister gradually stopped paying attention to the family, but only gave one or two thousand a month. However, this made Xiaoli's parents realize the crisis, no longer allow the remaining two daughters to fall in love on their own, and want to control their marriage.
But Xiaoli and her sister are both highly educated, and when they see that the men introduced by their parents are either old or ugly, but without exception, they can afford a high bride price, they understand that their parents have used their marriage as a chip.
In anger, the two sisters also launched a rebellion for the first time, first cutting off the living expenses of their brothers, and then cutting off the pension expenses of their parents, seeing that they were about to lose both, their parents and brother took a soft and continued to suck the blood of their two daughters.
03. It is rare to go home for the New Year, but it has become the most regrettable thing
Later, the three sisters also got used to it completely, basically no longer going home, the eldest sister's life got better and better, and Xiaoli also found a boyfriend who really loved herself and didn't mind her family. Xiao li's sister is willing to suffer because of the good people selected by the profession, and her career is also climbing, seeing that everything is developing in a good way, but her parents have called them again.
This made the three sisters a little frightened, because since the money was given according to the rules, the parents would not contact them at all, and once they contacted them, they would either ask for more money or their brother had run into some trouble.
However, this time is an exception, parents just want them to go home for the New Year, listening to the voice of their parents, Xiaoli they are inevitably moved, so they have agreed, the eldest sister with her husband, Xiaoli with her boyfriend, Xiaoli's sister specially wrapped a red envelope for her parents.
However, the parents are still drunk after all, and this time they called the three daughters back because they are not easy to say to their son as a good family affair, as long as they pay a dowry of 300,000 yuan and buy a house in the center of the city of no less than 150 square meters, the son can marry the daughter of a rich family, and also have a decent job.
This made Xiaoli's parents how could not agree, and that sounded like sky-high money, they also felt that naturally a daughter would come out. But this time, the three sisters were unwilling to compromise again, and the result was a family fight in the end, not only the eldest sister's husband suffered, but even Xiaoli's boyfriend was scared away.
And when xiaomei couldn't bear to propose to break off the mother-daughter relationship, Xiaoli's parents and brother calmed down, began to say good things, and began to pray.
But they really had enough, the eldest sister has been carefully covering up the original family, after all, was still discovered by the husband and in-laws, and the husband has also said the words of divorce. After Xiaoli's boyfriend left, he directly blackmailed Xiaoli, and Xiaoli's feelings completely ended.
The three sisters were finally heartbroken, preferring to pull black to change jobs and cut off relations with the original family, but the price they paid was too great, the daughter-in-law returned to her mother's house for the New Year, the eldest divorced, the second broke up, and the third broke off the mother-daughter relationship. And these injuries will take a long time to be completely alleviated.
In the previous tradition, the son was the heir to the family, so many families must have a child no matter how many children they have. With the opening of the mind now, many people gradually stop caring, but some people don't care, some people care.
These families would rather pay fines, let multiple children drag down the family's standard of living, and let the family leave incense. In their consciousness, as long as they give birth to a boy, their goal will be achieved, and the girls who came before them will also be used as tools.
Aren't the three sisters of Xiaoli? When I was a child, I let my brother coax my brother, and when I grew up, I had to bear all the expenses of my brother, and I also had to bear the consequences of my parents doting on my brother. As a result, no matter how much they paid, their parents and brother were still dissatisfied, and finally they were completely harmed.
And there are still many such girls in today's society, who want to cut off their relationship with their original families, but they can't let go of the so-called family affection. It wasn't until he was completely ruined that he began to regret that he was not firm at first. But in the end, it is always the patriarchal families and parents who should change.