Introduction: Wu Daining, who fell in love with Park Shu and finally came together with Park Shu, does she regret falling in love with this man?
When meeting a talented but fragile and innocent man in life, should a woman fall in love with each other without hesitation? Do you want to sacrifice yourself and die to complete the willfulness of men, and let men do what they want to be, to become what they aspire to be? Why can't a woman help but fall in love with such a man? Is such a man worthy of women's love? If you can choose again, will Wu Daining regret falling in love with Park Shu? Today's Wu Daining, is still in love with Pu Shu, a boy who has not grown up? Today, we're going to talk about these issues one by one. Through these questions, we may rethink the difference between love and marriage.
Why do people like Pu Shu and some people hate?
Park Shu has always been a very controversial man, many people like him, but there are also many people who hate him. People who like him value the truth, simplicity, and purity of Park Shu, as well as the heartache melancholy and fragility in that quietness. Together, these complex qualities may leave the impression of being fragile and clean, making people can't help but hold him and not want to see him "broken". If this is all, it may only evoke pity for him for a while, but the next moment it will forget everything. However, the talent of Pu Shu in music makes people unable to forget this man who has always been like a child. Today's Park Shu looks like a middle-aged man, but his inner world lives with a child, and so many years have been the same. Perhaps it is this inexplicable, unclear, and always familiar Park Shu that makes people can't help but like him, just like in the past.
Some people like it, naturally some people don't like Park Tree. They think that Park Shu is simple, naïve, and self-centered, completely disregarding the feelings of others. Even many times, some of Park Shu's practices are "impolite" and "uncultured" in their eyes. I believe that you have seen this accusation against Park Shu more than once. These accusations are also justified to some extent, but for Park Shu, he doesn't want to hurt others, he just wants to be himself. It's just that many times, inadvertently, some people feel hurt. And the victims of harm are not only those who have nothing to do with Park Shu, but also Park Shu's wife, who is Wu Daining.
Why did Wu Daining fall in love with Pu Shu?
Why did Wu Daining fall in love with Pu Shu? There have been relevant interviews, Wu Daining once said that when he first saw Park Shu, he was inexplicably attracted to him. At that time, Park Shu was quiet, introverted and talented, and his mysterious temperament also had a little youthful shyness, like the boy next door, giving people an inexplicable sense of closeness. And There is also a fragile breath on Pu Shu's body, which makes people can't help but want to care for him and protect him. Perhaps it is this complex temperament that inspires the outgoing Wu Daining to be the softest place in his heart, and he irremediably falls in love with Pu Shu and finally comes together to enter marriage.
If he chooses again, will Wu Daining still choose to give his lifelong happiness to Park Shu?
Later, Wu Daining took the initiative to break up with Park Shu, and she cried and said to Park Shu: "You left the best side in your music, but you left the worst side to me, do you think this is fair to me?" Why are you doing this to me? Why? Then he said to Park Shuhui, "Let's break up, don't waste it anymore." At that time, Park Shu could not cry, and finally only said three words: "It will be fine."
At that time, Park Shu had no job, no one asked him to sing, and he was deeply depressed, so Park Shu could only shut himself in the house and hide. While "healing", while struggling, while looking for the meaning and way out of life. Staying up, waiting, recovering, I don't know when it will be the end. At that time, all the economic and living burdens of the family were supported by Wu Daining alone. At that time, Wu Daining was just a small actor, running every day to find a play, to make a living, and to support this family. Although Park Shu's family will help from time to time, such a "help" is a drop in the bucket.
Wu Daining can pay everything for love, but he really can't survive time, and he will also survive the original love.
Wu Daining, who used to be, said proudly: "It doesn't matter if Park Shu doesn't work all his life, I can afford to raise him." At that time, Wu Dai loved Pu Shu, and he could sacrifice everything he had to complete Pu Shu, so that Pu Shu could freely choose to be himself and let him become what he wanted to be. But such a sacrifice of a year, two years, or even three years, can always survive a boil. But what if you stay up for three years and still can't see Park Shu making changes for yourself and this family? After all, Wu Daining is just a woman, an ordinary woman, and she is not a first- or second-line star. Working alone in the film and television circle, she also longs for a man to rely on her shoulders, but Park Shu's shoulders are neither wide nor strong enough, and even her dependence is a heavy burden for Park Shu. Park Shu's fragility, exhaustion, and struggle made him incapable of giving his wife Wu Daining a solid reliance.
Wu Daining did not leave Pu Shu, not because of love, but because he could not bear it.
Although Wu Daining did not leave Pu Shu, it was not because he still loved him, but he could not bear to leave him. Because Wu Daining knew Park Shu too well, if she gave up on him, Park Shu would only fall into a deeper abyss and be difficult to extricate herself. Park Shu once commented that the inner world is a "mud egg". However, the evaluation of Wu Daining is "Hun Ren". In fact, many people do not understand the word "hun people".
The word "Hun Ren" contains Pu Shu's helplessness and despair, and he hopes that Wu Daining can understand him and understand the bitterness and despair in his heart. But from wu Daining's point of view, she has always been running for this family and for this marriage. There was no luxurious wedding when she got married, not even a decent wedding or a ring, and she was still willing to marry him, because Wu Dai loved Park Shu. But what was she waiting for? Is it happiness? Wu Daining did feel happiness from Park Shu, but more of it was the feelings that faded after exhaustion, leaving only a piece of intolerance and a little reluctance to Park Shu. If you can choose again, perhaps with a strong personality like Wu Daining, you will hesitate or even choose to give up Park Shu, and do not want to continue such an unbearable love. Not because I don't love, but because I am too tired to fall in love with Park Shu, and this exhaustion cannot see an end.
Love is happy, cute last "tired love" but eventually exhausted happiness, leaving all that is unbearable exhaustion. This is not misfortune, but increasingly tired helplessness and despair. Such love, do you want it?
If you meet a talented but fragile man like Park Shu, is he worthy of love?
Such a man deserves to be loved, but such a man cannot give a woman a stable and steady marriage. If women are running for love, whether it is Park Shu or a man like Zhang Yadong, loving with them will make you feel comfortable, wonderful, and satisfied, but they will never give you the marriage you want. Because marriage is more like a cage to them, they don't like to stay in it. Even if they are forced into marriage, they will toss the marriage and exhaust each other. If you can only love each other, but it is not suitable for marriage, it is difficult to accompany each other for a lifetime, can you accept such love? They deserve to be loved, but not for the rest of your life. As a woman, this should be understood.
Being worthy of love doesn't mean you're going to love with your whole life.
I love them and will I wait for them to "grow up"? Don't be silly, if they grow up it won't be them!
Many women once in love, both IQ and emotional intelligence are surprisingly low. Knowing that some men can't give them the marriage they desire, they have repeatedly secretly warned themselves: "I love them, and I will wait for them to grow up." Here, I would like to say: "Don't be stupid, if they really grow up, they will have grown up a long time ago." If they really want to grow up, they are not them. ”
These talented but always fragile men who make women pity, they are always like children, they never want to grow up. Because "growing up" means that the self that was and is here and now is "dead." So, women who fall in love with them will never wait for them to grow up. If they grow up, their women will sadly find that the person they love has become so strange, and perhaps the marriage will fade with this strangeness, and each other will slowly disappear into each other's lives.
Simply put, fall in love with men who don't want to grow up, and you'll never wait for them to grow up. If these men really grow up, it means that your marriage may come to an end, because the men who grow up are so strange. To you, to themselves, they are equally strange and alienated. Therefore, the "silly woman" who is caught in love, your love is very beautiful, and your sacrifice of love proves that you are serious, but this love is too bitter, so it is better to give up early. Happiness should not use "tragic" to prove the greatness and vigor of love. It was a heroic sacrifice, it was not love.
Park Shu frequently performs, why is there a rumor that Park Shu and Wu Dai ning broke up at this time? Is it true?
Park Shu "developed", he began to frequently take business performances, a song fifty thousand in a row of ten songs. It is not that Park Shu has changed, but Park Shu has begun to redefine his relationship with the world, compromise and weigh. It's not sleek, it's a kind of maturity. Originally, I thought that Park Shu had developed, but at this time, rumors came out that Park Shu and Wu Dai had broken up. Did Park Shu and Wu DaiNing really break up?
What I want to say is that even if Park Shu and Wu Daining did not divorce, in fact, today's marriage is equivalent to divorce. At this time, Park Shu, just because he was "developed", at least compared with the original career downturn, Park Shu did have some money. Although he is still short of money, at least he has returned to the public eye, and many merchants are willing to invite Park Shu to perform. Unfortunately, this moment means that Wu Daining can safely "put down" Pu Shu.
It is not that Park Shu is unwilling to return Wu Daining, but when the feelings really dissipate, it is too difficult to regain the original enthusiasm, and even almost impossible. Wu Daining, who used to be unbearable, has always accompanied Pu Shu. And now Park Shu's side, in fact, there is no shortage of people to accompany, and Wu Daining can also quietly smile at Park Shu and withdraw from leaving. Perhaps, because of this, rumors have spread that Park Shu and Wu Daining are divorced. The divorce itself is difficult to distinguish between true and false, but the gradual drifting away of Park Shu and Wu Daining may not be empty. Because this is very similar to Park Shu, except for music, it will never and can't bear that initiative. This is very similar to Wu Daining's style, treating Park Shu as a friend, sincerely blessing, and putting down no worries. Since then, he is still a friend, but it is difficult to return to the love he once loved. Why did you get to this point? Not because they haven't loved each other, not because they haven't understood each other, it's just that they are tired, that's all.
The ultimate advice for ordinary people's love and marriage.
Don't love a man who is talented but doesn't want to grow up, such a man is very attractive, but he is the "mud egg" of life. They can't afford the responsibility of life and will leave the unbearable reality to the woman alone. Women will support for love, but such support is likely not to be exchanged for each other's touch, but let the other party slowly change from moving to a natural habit, and even require women to pay more. The woman's grievances and pains were not listened to, and she could only swallow them alone. Once or twice, it is still bearable, and there is still hope for men for a year or two, but what about longer? The exhaustion of reality erases all the flavor of love, and ultimately parting and breaking up.
If a woman only needs love enough and does not have the luxury of seeking a lifelong contract of marriage, then she can have a love affair with such a man, not to seek white head and old age, but to court without regret. Conversely, if a woman prays to live a lifetime with a man she loves, such a man should never be sought. You can take a year to love, and if you love, you have to turn around decisively and leave. If you can't do this, it's better not to love. Even if the other party pursues you, you must resolutely refuse, so as not to be in the mire.
For men who are talented but don't want to grow up, who are vulnerable like children, will you wait for them to grow up? Are you willing to believe that they will eventually pay you back a wedding that owes you? Feel free to leave a comment below to share your views and look forward to your comments.
Author: With Min Tong Yue
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